Reusing sons name for new baby

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My ExP is having a baby with his partner. All is well, we get along great and I am really happy for them and excited for DS that he will soon have a baby brother.

We were chatting about names this morning and he mentioned some that he is thinking of for the new baby, but he is reusing DS middle name as a middle name for the new baby. So say our son is Daniel Jack, the new baby will be called Thomas Jack (not the actual names).

AIBU to think it's slightly weird? Doesn't affect my life in any way shape or form, it's not an issue, just wondered if people agree with me or wether it's a normal thing to do.

Yes I am bored and nope I am lucky enough to not have much else to worry about right now.

I share the same middle names as some of my siblings - they are family names. I quite like it.

All the women in my family have the same middle name. It is a link between us all and across the generations. I like it.

If he was calling his child the same first name then yes, weird but same middle is not. It is a lovely bonding between the half brothers.

Dh cousin has given all three kids the same middle name.

I think it's nice, it would feel a bit different if he never had anything to do with your DS but as it stands, it's rather a sweet thing for them to share.

In my immediate family none of us have middle names. My dh and bil both have their dad's first name as their middle name. Bil continued the tradition when he had a son (had his own name as the middle name) as did dh when our ds was born. I am currently pregnant and I know if we have a boy he will want to do the same again. Not exactly imaginative but not offensive in my opinion.

It wouldn't be very nice if he reused your child's first name I would be annoyed at that. Using the middle name as a first name just links them even more closely.

My DH is very pleased that he shares a middle name with one of his half brothers. It’s a bond between them, and he jokes about we “XYZs” have to stand together. Our daughter and eldest son also have that middle name.

I know some people who have done this for several children they have together , used same middle name, not sure why .

I did it and my older boy loves that his baby brother is named after him (sort of)!

Nah not weird......... it's a middle name. I'm the eldest female of our 'generation' in our family. My middle name is a common one that goes with everything - think along the lines of 'Louise'.... I was named first using this middle name, and I have 5 female cousins all with the same middle name. My DPs got upset about it at first, but I cannot be chewed with how irrelevant it really is.

I don't think it's much to get worked up about tbh! When researching my family history, I found that my gt grandad William Joseph, had two brothers called Edward Joseph, and Joseph! His parents obviously loved the name Joseph! In more recent times, my two cousins full / middle names are John Robert and Robert Mark! At worst it could be construed as unimaginative, but I certainly wouldn't be insulted by it. And as PPs have said, middle names are rarely used anyway.

Middle names are only ever know at birth, marriage and death.

I wouldn't worry about it in the slightest.

I think it’s lovely to link the half sibling in this way. But then our family all use the same middle names for the boys

I had a truly awful aunt who gave her son the same as another son who had died. It was also his father's name. Now that really is weird.

I know someone who had a stillbirth and then gave her subsequent baby the exact same name as the baby she’d lost, I’m guessing she found it comforting ❤️

First and middle

agree, that is seems a nice link :)

I actually think it’s nice for them to have the same middle name assuming it’s a family name on ex DH’s side. First name would be different.

AIBU to think it's slightly weird?

Not really, middle names are not nearly as varied as first names. They are often short and just provide a link between first and surnames. That’s why short names like James or John are popular. Glancing down the register at school, about half the girls in my class had the middle name Anne. 10 years later, it was probably Jane and 10 years after that Louise!

I had a truly awful aunt who gave her son the same as another son who had died. It was also his father's name. Now that really is weird.

That was actually entirely normal in the days when infant mortality was high.

I have idea how you can construe that as weird.... baffled

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I had three cousins who all shared the same two middle names - why not!
It also meant their initials spelt rhyming words - I'm not sure that was such a good idea!

I do hope they weren't Michael Andrew Dexter, Simon Andrew Dexter and Brian Andrew Dexter.

My mum, sister and I all have the same middle name it is now one of my daughters. I'm no longer married to her dad but if I had another baby and it was a girl I'd give her that middle name too 🤷🏻‍♀️

Not weird at all - middle names are often family names are they not?

YABU

You don’t own the rights to a name FGS.

I actually think it’s quite sweet TBH.

Get over it