Reusing sons name for new baby

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My ExP is having a baby with his partner. All is well, we get along great and I am really happy for them and excited for DS that he will soon have a baby brother.

We were chatting about names this morning and he mentioned some that he is thinking of for the new baby, but he is reusing DS middle name as a middle name for the new baby. So say our son is Daniel Jack, the new baby will be called Thomas Jack (not the actual names).

AIBU to think it's slightly weird? Doesn't affect my life in any way shape or form, it's not an issue, just wondered if people agree with me or wether it's a normal thing to do.

Yes I am bored and nope I am lucky enough to not have much else to worry about right now.

Is it a family name?

Anyway I think it’s fine.

All males in my family have the same middle name - including my 3 brothers (and dad and cousins). It isn't weird.

I think it's nice. I thought you were going to say the same first name, which would be very weird indeed.

Not weird at all. DH's family give cousins etc the same first name. And I know loads of families where the middle name is the same for everyone. especially if multiple middle names used. eg Thomas Jack Meridian Smith and Peter Daniel Meridian Smith. or whatever.

When my grandfather left his first family and started his second family, he used his first two daughters' middle names, as the first names of his new children. I'm sure he thought it was a lovely way to include them, but it made my mum feel even more like she was being replaced.

I think it’s slightly odd, but honestly most people will never know. We have neighbours who call dd2 dd1’s middle name...it’s like there aren’t enough names.

All the sons in my family have the same middle name, ie our Dad's name. I don't see anything weird about it, nobody uses middle names anyway .

My husband and his siblings have given all their girls the same middle name (his mum's maiden name, which also is a girl's name). So if I had a girl with him, we would give her the same middle name as my DSD.

There's a branch of my family where all of the men have the same first name (reasons). They're all known by different diminutives of it (some of which are very inventive given the number of them involved).

I find it weird, but clearly I’m odd. I knew sisters years ago who had the same names, revered. So Like Ruby Rose and Rose Ruby. I was always fascinated how their parents got to that. We slightly wished we’d held my older child’s middle name back when dc2 turned out the same sex. But we didn’t reuse it.

Reversed, not revered!

I have a massive family - I have about 26 cousins. All the girls middle names are the same and the boys middle names are the same too.

It is a family name yes so DS, ex and exes Dad all have the same first and middle name. I don't know if it has any relevance to his partner.

It's a nice link as people have said, I will look at it as a positive. I can't believe all the people that have used the exact same name combination again! That definitely IS weird, like replacing the original child.

When we were having DS we couldn't use the girls name I liked because it was similar to his first DDs name, like Ella and Ellie . We had a boy though so it was a moot point.

No one cares about middle names. If they were going to have the same first name I'd be horrified but middle names don't really matter so while I wouldn't do it myself I wouldn't split haird about it either.

Seems a bit odd to me-maybe it depends on why the name is so special to him?

As for a link between the boys-they have the same father!

Mind you, someone I know their first son died as a baby.

They gave the second son the same name-

That's weird to me!

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Middle names wouldn’t bother me in the slightest

Certain names seem always to be middles, my daughter's class in the 80s had 9 girls with Louise as a middle name but not one Louise in the school!

I think it’s weird and tactless. There are plenty of nice middle names for boys. They’re individuals not possessions.

I don’t particularly like the whole reusing of names - people are individuals, it’s nice to live up to your own name (yes, I know this applies more to first names.)

The actor Anson Mount is named after his dad, who is Anson Adams Mount II. His brother is also named Anson Adams Mount (III).

I don't think it's weird at all.

All the boys of all generations on one side of our family, including our son, have the same middle name going back well over 100 years (hence it's a weird, old fashioned name but who cares? - it's a middle name!)

It's a nice link between half siblings too, I think.

I wouldn't be bothered in the slightest but part of me would think out of all the names in the world why have two children with the same middle name? Very unimaginative

My DH's middle name is the same as his father's. His eldest son has the same middle name as does our eldest son. Our youngest son has the middle name as his actual name. So no, I don't think it's weird.

My two siblings (the elder is a half-sibling) both have the same middle name. We've laughed about it together: said we didn't think our father had much imagination!

The issue is our father didn't even bother to keep in touch with elder sibling once he had a new, ready-made family of his own, and strangely enough it's the younger two siblings who found this harder to forgive than the elder. We only met again as adults. Had the youngest been given the same name as the eldest, I'd have found that quite disgusting.

Middle names, nobody really minds. It's just a bit of a family joke.

Well as someone who doesn't see the point in middle names at all, I guess I would not be bothered by it

My ex husband and his uncle had the same name. His brother, another uncle and his dad all had the same name. His sister, mother and aunty all had the same name.

All monosyllabic and 'traditional / boring'. No middle names.

Suppose it helped after dinner conversation as you could be pretty sure you'd get their names right.

I think it's nice, especially nice for your DS.

It would be very weird if they were reusing the same first name.