Reusing sons name for new baby

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My ExP is having a baby with his partner. All is well, we get along great and I am really happy for them and excited for DS that he will soon have a baby brother.

We were chatting about names this morning and he mentioned some that he is thinking of for the new baby, but he is reusing DS middle name as a middle name for the new baby. So say our son is Daniel Jack, the new baby will be called Thomas Jack (not the actual names).

AIBU to think it's slightly weird? Doesn't affect my life in any way shape or form, it's not an issue, just wondered if people agree with me or wether it's a normal thing to do.

Yes I am bored and nope I am lucky enough to not have much else to worry about right now.

I think it’s a nice link too. If it was first name it would be weird!

My sister, daughter, niece x2 all have the same middle name for differ t reasons!

I think it is a nice connection between your son and his new half brother, it wouldn't worry me.

Me and my cousins share the same middle name that’s been passed down from our great grandmother through the generations and my daughter also has it, not exactly the same but it’s a name that’s being kept in the family.

The name could have some significance to his new partner? Either way it's just a middle name

Made up names but my cousin’s son has the middle name “Jack”. He, his Uncle, Grandad and Great-Grandad were all the firstborn of their generation and all had the middle name “Jack”. I don’t know if there were people going back in the family with it but it’s a lovely link to the relatives he didn’t know.

Middle names, not so bad.

However, I knew someone who’s son was called, for example, Samuel, nn Sam. He then left that family, moved in with someone else, and new partner had a baby. The new daughter was called Samantha. Therefore, both children could have the same nn.

(Nb. Not actual names)

Not weird in the slightest. Especially if it’s as common as Jack

As it's a middle name it's fine.

If it was the same first name, like in Years and Years (Stephen and Steven) and The Other One (Katharine and Katharine), then it would be completely out of order.

My daughter and I both have the same (unusual) middle name, and my father and son share the same (family name) middle name.

Similar to other posters, though, a few years after my grandparents separated (but still married), he wrote to her telling her that he knew how much she'd always wanted a daughter (they had three sons), so as his girlfriend had just given birth to a girl, they were going to name her after my grandmother's mother (who died when my grandmother was a child). He knew full well that, had their daughter survived birth (she was a twin and, apparently, stillborn) she would have been called "Jane Doe" (obviously not the real names!) after her maternal grandmother. Instead, I have a (lovely) half-aunt called "Jane Doe", instead.

The twin who survived their birth refuses to have anything to do with my half-aunt, because it's such a stark reminder of the sister he lost at birth. Even though he and my father and other uncle grew up knowing that their half-sister (whom they didn't meet until 17 years ago, when they were all in their 50s) existed and had been given the name.

My grandmother was furious... but what could she do? Years later, there was still rage in her voice when she told me about it all - and, I'll be honest, I can understand it. I suspect it was done out of spite, rather than "I know this was important to you, I still care about you..." emotion. I don't know. I never actually knew that grandfather to ask. And I would have done.

So whilst yes; it is a lovely connection between brothers... and it's not your son's first name being reused... I'd still be a bit annoyed/upset about it. But that's probably just me. Depends, of course, on how unusual the name is.

In DHs family all the men have the same middle names.

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Seems a bit odd to me-maybe it depends on why the name is so special to him?

As for a link between the boys-they have the same father!

Mind you, someone I know their first son died as a baby.

They gave the second son the same name-

That's weird to me!

That was actually very much the done thing in years gone by.

The baby was named after their sibling, and also after whoever the deceased child was named for (as most babies were called after someone).

If it's a family name that you and your ex might have used again if you'd had another DS together, then I think it's OK. Otherwise, I think it's a bit weird

Its a tradition in my family my sons husband grandfather great grandfather and so on all have the same middle name

My dh has a dd with his ex, and wanted to use her middle name as our dd's middle name. Personally, I don't like using other people's names or family names so we didn't.

On another note my toxic xh has a half brother (same dad) with exactly the same name as his. Unusually spelt first name, middle name and surname. We did once have the police turn up on our doorstep looking for him!

My nephews (brothers) have the same middle name. They have the same last name as their mum and their middle name is one very strongly linked to their dad's first name. Quite a nice idea I think.

Same first name would bother me, but this seems totally normal.

My second son has my first sons middle name as his first name so I don’t see the big deal.

all the males in our family have the family name, either as a first or middle name. I like it. it links all the generations

One of my sons has the same middle name as his eldest half sibling. I always see it as a positive thing. The name has family importance & eldest SS is a fabulous human being (unlike his father... we're divorced but I still keep in touch with his kids), so I'm happy & proud that my son's got half of his name.

Our son and my husbands son from a previous marriage share the same middle name, it was their uncles name. I don't think that's unusual. My mum and sister have the same middle name too

My sister and 7 cousins all have the same first name🤣🤣

I also agree with others that its a nice link between siblings and think its quite sweet

I really like this idea

In any event you get in well with him, no point destabilising that over this

I know a mum who has given her 3dds the same middle name. They all have different surnames/dads, so the middle name is their link together. I thought it was weird at first, (the girls are probably early 20s-mid teens now), but actually now, I think it’s a lovely way for them to be linked together.

no problem