It’s getting to us all but stop with the pile on

[2021namechanger]

awaits pile on but - the last three threads I’ve looked at have people falling over themselves to be vicious.
Yes MN “tells it like it is” but right now it’s like someone could write something as innocuous as “I’ve burned the toast for dinner” and within a few posts they will be accused of not giving a fuck about the planet, trying to poison their family and probably told that their kids will despise them when they’re grown up.

Wtf is wrong with everyone?

There's always been some things on here which generate the most bonkers replies especially if they aren't necessarily posted in the right place.
The most awful ones are the OP struggling with parents or kids - sometimes being abused by family and someone comes on with - well I lost all my family in a freak yachting accident so you should be grateful that you even have family to be nasty to you.

But like a PP said - you can only complain if you're dead on MN

Although I find MN entertaining I also find it annoys me so much after a while I have to take regular breaks, and I agree with the PP who wouldn’t post for advice for fear of getting lynched. It’s amazing how many ways people can be offended, be it a word or phrase they consider unacceptable, or because (as often happens) they’ve misread a post/projected their own shit and have got stroppy. It’s hypocritical because “walking on eggshells” is seen as the result of abuse in Relationships, yet this is how I feel frequently when I post. It’s very vocal about the word “hysteria” being offensive, but it’s a word I often think of when reading threads and, no, I don’t want to go anywhere pink and fluffy where posters “hun” each other. Just would be less stressful if many some posters could calm the fuck down.

I start with a bingo card which lists every conceivable form of bigotry and dismissive cliche, doesn't matter what the issue is, you can guarantee the OP will be accused of the former and received multiple posts of the later within a short time. It's a bit like a competition for who can post the rudest or most irrelevant response.

The new rhetoric is its selfish to have a vaccine if you're young & healthy when the elderly in other countries have to wait.
Even if you ignore the logistical nightmare of a global priority list I presume we still eat when famine happens elsewhere or still party when wars happen elsewhere. Not to mention that the vaccine isn't 100% protection.

I was going to do an AMA - I am a Christian, but am holding back for obvious reasons!

I may do it at some stage, but I need to be in the right mood, and I shall need to triple check my opening post.

I agree OP. You can get some really unpleasant responses these days, even on previously safe places like Style and Beauty.

Little tip - if you're not interested in fashion, you can just hide the topic. It isn't actually required for you to come in and tell us those of us who are how superficial and shallow this makes us.

I've been here for over a decade now, and it really wasn't "always like this."

@ThreadKillxr

The AIBU here is obviously, "AIBU to think people don't need to be such cunts all the time?!" And no, OP, YANBU.

A thought I've often had myself, @ThreadKillxr!

Mind you, I can be proper arsey when riled. I try and step away from threads that rile me, but it doesn't always work.

@marbellamarc

you insist on missing the point. If everybody had valid reasons, then the traffic would have been the same during the first lockdown.

What are you still struggling to comprehend???

The point is if you believe your journey, jog, trip to the supermarket is valid (it might be, it might not be) then you have to accept other people doing the same as you feel the same.

I know it's hard for you, but how do you fail to understand that you don't need to be IN THE TRAFFIC YOURSELF to notice it 😂 You don't even need to be outside, some of us do not live in the middle of a field!

More people respected the first lockdown.
Not many care about the second one.

How hard is that to understand? Or are you trying to convince us that YOUR outings are suddenly essentials but were not during the first lockdown? Yes, we believe you

I know it's hard for you, but how do you fail to understand that you don't need to be IN THE TRAFFIC YOURSELF to notice it 😂
You don't even need to be outside, some of us do not live in the middle of a field!

OMG did you see what I quoted. I haven't denied any of the above & that's not what I said.
I was specifically referring to those partaking in certain activities. Hence why I quoted "I was out for a jog, I was driving" It's hard to do those things from your living room isn't it?
My point was cognitive dissonance but it's gone way over your head. It was not about twitching your curtains & seeing more cars on the road.

when in reality they would never say it to you face to face.

to your face, probably not. Behind your back? Of course they would.

If you are brutally honest at work, you'll end up sacked.
There's no point starting an argument for the sake of it with one of the CF at school. And why would you tell someone how tragic they look or how stupid they are?
It doesn't stop you thinking it and laughing about it with someone else.

On MN, you get the answer and what people are saying about you. If you can't take it then don't ask!

I blame the media. All those rubbish newspapers/sites using mn posts to write articles have attracted all those people who would write nasty comments under the articles.

What's very amusing on this forum is how some posters are struggling so much with accepting a different opinion, that they insist on accusing everybody else to be angry/shaking with rage/fuming when they merely disagree or have another point of view.

Same posters who make "a list" of user names that have offended them
😂

Some posters are taking this forum way too personally!

I was going to start a thread about the writing nasty comments under newspaper articles, people, but then thought, no way!
I would like to think there are only a few people like that, but am having to think again. As I said, even this thread, has 18% disagreeing with the op.

If you don't like how a thread is going, the solution is at your fingertips.

Post what you think is better advice.

Also, do be aware that we used to have a persistent troll whose mission seemed to be to say how awful MN - the 'you're all bitches' troll. That was extreme, but the angle they're coming from (social pressure for women to be 'nice' all the time) is insidious and it's definitely fine not to bow to it.

(Another practical tip is to use the topics more and AIBU less)

Yeah. Well, saying it behind their back is just as cowardly as posting on an anonymous forum.
Honestly, I feel sorry in a way for women like this. Those who feel better just by being nasty online. And some of the comments really are nasty. Not 'honest' just downright nasty.

What I find frustrating, because I actually enjoy a robust debate & am open to changing my mind/other opinions is the conflation of facts & opinions & the inability to actually read posts. Prime example is what I posted upthread.

I remember on one thread saying Trump could win as he does still have strong support. One poster thought it meant I was a Trump supporter. One doesn't equal the other.

@MiaMarshmallows

Yeah. Well, saying it behind their back is just as cowardly as posting on an anonymous forum. Honestly, I feel sorry in a way for women like this. Those who feel better just by being nasty online. And some of the comments really are nasty. Not 'honest' just downright nasty.

why "women"?

Your MALE boss, your MALE doctor, cannot tell you what he thinks of you to your face. It's not even legal. It's still human to release the pressure and have a laugh about it.

What's the point of a forum if you can't express your opinion? It might not go down well with everybody, too bad. Did you really think everybody was in awe of you?

And some posters can't stand anyone having another opinion, or worst proving them wrong. They clutch at straws and dig hole trying to rage that they MUST be right. It's easier to call every who disagree "stupid" than accepting another opinion. They really take the forum too personally.

@Iknowwhatudidlastsummer you've completely ignored my post about how so many more businesses and workplaces have stayed open during this lockdown. Therefore creating more traffic.

Is that because it doesn't fit in with your narrative that everyone (but you) is out breaking all the rules.

@Letsgetbizzy

Shes not suggesting threads need policing but that people are being unnecessarily harsh. I mean how hard is it for people to scroll on.... or just not be arseholes?

Apparently very hard for some people as this thread also shows!

@Januaryissodull it's a void