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Drugs. Be honest..

737 replies

Trivialpursuitofhappiness · 25/01/2021 18:44

Inspired by the white bag thread, it just got me curious. I’m not a journo! Although, I suppose that’s what a journalist would say.. Grin

Have you / do you take drugs? What did you take and why did you?

I’ll be honest and go first, I occassinally use MDMA and I do use coke on nights. But I don’t have kids and I’d stop as soon as I was having them

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unmarkedbythat · 25/01/2021 19:43

My friend is a NHS mental health nurse and she said every time a person takes drugs, the drug grabs a bit of serotonin from your brain that you can never get back.

Argh... there are very good reasons to listen to MH professionals warnings about recreational drug use but that sort of non fact is unhelpful.

newlabelwriter · 25/01/2021 19:44

I used to take lots before having DC. I've only done drugs (cocaine) a few times since having DC but feel so crappy afterwards these days I really don't want to anymore.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 25/01/2021 19:44

No. I do drink though.

I wouldn’t know what drugs actually look like but I do know what cannabis smells like when being smoked as my neighbour’s son constantly smokes it.

Puffalicious · 25/01/2021 19:44

I agree with PP that drugs now are shit and much more dangerous. I've always said 'Just say no' doesn't work but clear facts and trusting someone to make their own, informed decision does. DC16 and DC14 are very informed already which is a good basis to build on.

AlternativePerspective · 25/01/2021 19:45

I don’t think anyone suggested it was a victimless crime did they? no but anyone who indulges in drugs is clearly quite happy to fund human trafficking, to be a part of a network who traffic women as prostitutes and make them addicted to drugs so they have no choice but to sell themselves for their dealers.

You can’t be a druggy and a feminist for instance...

CarolEffingBaskin · 25/01/2021 19:47

Yes I have in the past. No I do not now. I have tried coke, MDMA and weed.

I cringe to be honest. What a wanker. Never again: I don't even drink now because I don't see the point.

nancybotwinbloom · 25/01/2021 19:48

@AlternativePerspective

Not everyone

Some people only buy from trusted growers of cannabis. Who they know personally.
Who grow to demand for them and maybe a few friends.

Not everyone is a drugs baron.

Anthilda · 25/01/2021 19:48

I was on the rave scene in my youth (late 90s /early 00s) got offered all kinds but always said no. I just didnt want to feel like I'd lost control or leave myself vulnerable. All my friends did though.
I seen people in some right states and it put me off.
I got offered drugs regularly and was even offered a drink in one house party where a guy tried to spike me, dont think he realised I was sober. I refused that drink!
I never really needed uppers, as soon as I was out in the clubs I was high on life anyway, often I lasted right through the night, just like all my friends on e's or coke.
I did smoke weed in my late teens until it started to make me paranoid. Like others have said, if you already have poor mental health (I had anxiety and depression) it's best to avoid weed.

Now, I drink on weekends (1 bottle of wine), smoke a vape with v low nicotine (used to smoke cigarettes until about 3 yrs ago) and drink coffee.

Pineapples3 · 25/01/2021 19:48

Weed - lots in my teenage years.
Coke - once

Haven't tried anything else, which I had when I was younger tbh! 2 kids & pregnant now so don’t think I’ll be picking it back up mind Grin

Tiktokersmiracle · 25/01/2021 19:48

Yes I have
No I don't anymore

I was a very silly teen who left home due to abuse at 16, had no adult supervision and some money so of course I was everyone's best friend.
Now I can't even deal with a hangover so a come down- no thanks. I look back on that era and the people who passed away due to not giving up and think I had a lucky escape. I'm still friends with about 4 people who actually were mates and not hangers on who made it out the other side.
I don't even recognise pictures of me from back then and the risks I took were shocking, I was 6 stone at one point and thought I looked amazing. Im only thankful camera and video phones weren't a thing

Pineapples3 · 25/01/2021 19:49

Wish I had*

scentedgeranium · 25/01/2021 19:49

a few times as a student in the mid 80s, and in my early career. Just dope. Stopped after I had a 'funny turn'. Felt really ill and was quite worried. That was probably 1992
Was offered other things at various times (mainly acid) and always said no. Too much of a scaredy cat!

TangoWhiskyAlphaTango · 25/01/2021 19:49

Yes i used to take a lot of drugs in my early twenties.I was massively into the house music scene in the late 90s early 00s and was out every weekend up and down the country, summers in Ibiza. Took ecstasy mainly, along with cocaine at times. I had the best times of my life whilst high on Es.

The music, the friendships and the culture at the time I just loved it and have regretted it for a single moment. I am now a very boring 40 something who does not drink or do anything remotely hedonistic.

Nenevalleykayaker · 25/01/2021 19:49

Dab of billy in my mid 20s. Boyfriend and I decided to walk from Swindon to Bournemouth for some reason. By the time we got near Marlborough about 10 miles down the road, the hiking/camping novelty was wearing off so needed a boost. Didn’t like it, gave me severe headache and he didn’t stop rabbiting for another 10 miles.

One tiny corner of a trip the size of a postage stamp, mid 20s, in the car park at Dominos Newbury. I was riding motorbikes then and the liquid chrome views of the bike engines parked up was great and the 3D effect ‘seeing into’ trees and surfaces, but then I accidentally glanced at my own eyes in the rear view mirror and freaked out. Never again. Terrifying.

A couple of space brownies, again 20s, Ibiza I think. Nothing special.

By nature I don’t enjoy the feeling of losing control over my senses so all of those instances were peer pressure really, and circumstantial as my boyfriend was nearly 10 years younger than me and I was quite green and not at all streetwise!

I’ve no idea if it’s related but I’ve occasionally suffered from feelings of being ‘outside of everything’, like Am I Really Existing kind of thing, which I have to consciously control otherwise it will tip into a panic attack. I try to control it by using that 5 senses mindfulness thing ; what can I see in the room, what can I smell, what can I hear, etc etc and that helps focus on what is actually tangible in that moment, rather than what I’m imagining.

It starts with getting the jitters, which is exactly what I experienced when I took the acid. Bearing in mind I had only had one tiny corner of the whole postage stamp sized trip. God knows what would have happened if I’d had the whole thing.

Thankfully I’ve terrified my own young children into believing drugs will make your face cave in or your insides fall out, so I’m confident they’ll avoid them.

GettingUntrapped · 25/01/2021 19:49

I find cannabis helps me with parenting. I don't have much, but even that tiny bit tips the balance of making it more fun than work. They have a great time too and go to bed usual time.

Lobsterquadrille2 · 25/01/2021 19:50

Cannabis a couple of times. Luckily never anything else, and I say that as an alcoholic who's been in AA for 13 years - so many stories involve both drink and drugs, and mine being "only" alcohol is luck not judgment.

Bambam2019 · 25/01/2021 19:51

Would share the occasional joint with friends between late teens-mid twenties. Also some ‘legal’ highs such as poppers, which lasts a total of 5 seconds and then a bit of a headache 🤷🏻‍♀️
Never tried anything else as I’m quite an anxious person, but up until falling pregnant I would be out every weekend drinking, and with that came smoking a lot of cigarettes!
Some of my friends will still have a few lines of Coke the odd weekend here and there, however one of them began to concern me as it seemed to become somewhat of a crutch. Thankfully, they have addressed those issues. Not for me and not for everyone, but I don’t particularly judge people that do. Everyone has a vice...!

augustusglupe · 25/01/2021 19:52

No never. I've never smoked either.

bungaloid · 25/01/2021 19:52

I know it's a silly sentiment, but I feel a bit sad for people who haven't got smashed on MDMA with their mates at a great club night. I've tried most stuff except heroin, and it's all been pretty fun. When you're young with no real responsibilities, why not. I'm intending to get back on it when I'm 70+ with no more responsibilities again.

ShalomToYouJackie · 25/01/2021 19:52

I've tried weed, coke, MDMA, pills, ketamine and mushrooms, used to party a lot.

And now I don't even touch alcohol and cringe at what I used to be like!

I have friends I used to party with who are now in their thirties and still do exactly the same and haven't changed since they were students

peak2021 · 25/01/2021 19:53

Never taken illegal drugs, indeed quite deliberately to be an odd one out.

ShinyGreenElephant · 25/01/2021 19:53

Loads as a teenager, pretty much everything. Nothing since having DD1 when I was 22 - smoked half a joint at a party a couple of years later and was really ill so that was that for me. I had an absolute blast but I dont miss it and the idea terrifies me now!

Dinky2004 · 25/01/2021 19:54

I tried cannabis twice when I was 15 and tried speed at 16 once, didn't like either of them and never tried anything again, I'm now 45 and still don't see the fascination in drug taking.

AutoIncorrect · 25/01/2021 19:55

Did coke a couple of times in my late teens and smoked the odd joint or two. Nothing since I’m nearly 40 now.

BlueLionel · 25/01/2021 19:55

Nope.

Had my drink spiked once though which was absolute hell. I thought I was going to die. Why anyone would do that through choice is beyond me...