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Is this weird?

121 replies

Mum2346 · 23/01/2021 18:19

My husband is self employed, he had finished a job and instead of coming home went and parked on a car park for 2 hours before coming home, he did this as he said someone was meant to be coming out to the job to look at it so he needed to be local to it, I only found out as he has had a fine for being parked there for to long. I think this is weird but he says it's normal. Is it weird?

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Keeva2017 · 23/01/2021 18:21

To be honest my first thought was parking somewhere away from everyone sounds pretty appealing right now. Work kids bed and no alone time or social life has me craving for peace and quiet away from people.

AStudyinPink · 23/01/2021 18:22

And didn’t ring you? Didn’t message you? What did he do in the car for two hours? And what was local to the car park?

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Mum2346 · 23/01/2021 18:24

The car park was 10 minutes from the job he was doing. No he didn't tell me, I found out because he had a fine through the post

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HTH1 · 23/01/2021 18:24

Depends whether you trust him.

McCorona · 23/01/2021 18:26

My neighbour's husband sits and takes an hour of calls from his car whenever he gets home from work which I find pretty weird. He's usually parked outside our house; his own house is a bit further around the corner.

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Mum2346 · 23/01/2021 18:26

I just want to know if men do things like this. Surely he would just come home. He is saying it's normal. I don't think it is

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AStudyinPink · 23/01/2021 18:28

How far was it to drive home?

WitchesNest · 23/01/2021 18:30

Yup it’s normal, he needs time to himself too.

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Mum2346 · 23/01/2021 18:30

25 minutes so would have been an extra 15 minutes

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peboh · 23/01/2021 18:31

Was it a bad day at work? Are you two having arguments at home? Is it regular behaviour for him?
Without anymore information there's not really anyway to determine wether this is normal or not.
My dh has done this a couple of times when he's had a really bad day at work so he can sort himself out without bringing his baggage home to myself and dd.

MindGrapes · 23/01/2021 18:32

Just because the car was in the car park for 2 hours, it doesn't mean that he was. He could've gone for a walk or met someone - is that what you're getting at, op?

HercwasanEnemyofEducation · 23/01/2021 18:33

I'd probably do that to save the extra driving if the client did arrive.

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Mum2346 · 23/01/2021 18:33

No he had only been there 3 hours, I can understand people saying he needs time to himself but this situation is difficult for everyone, I haven't had any time to myself as I am home schooling 4 children every day.

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Hailtomyteeth · 23/01/2021 18:34

Woman. Or whatever his preference might be.

nancy75 · 23/01/2021 18:35

Normally I’d say a bit odd, but at the moment not really.
Perhaps he just needed a couple of hours on his own, there’s nowhere to go so sitting in the car isn’t that odd

AStudyinPink · 23/01/2021 18:36

It’s a bit weird but not enormously. He probably went for a walk/coffee.

CherryBlossomTree7 · 23/01/2021 18:37

He was probably meeting a woman. Sorry to say it.

elizabethdraper · 23/01/2021 18:37

I dont know about men but sometimes I have " to work late"
This usually means parked somewhere with a coffee, magazine and chocolate
Today the supermarket was "busy" which was code for sitting in the carpark listening to a podcast eating chocolate

peboh · 23/01/2021 18:37

@Mum2346

No he had only been there 3 hours, I can understand people saying he needs time to himself but this situation is difficult for everyone, I haven't had any time to myself as I am home schooling 4 children every day.
Have you asked for time for yourself? Or not even asked but just said 'I'm popping out for a walk for an hour, on my own'
LizFlowers · 23/01/2021 18:38

I don't think it is particular weird, it happens. It's a shame he couldn't park somewhere nearby without being fined and I hope he can challenge the fine or claim for it on expenses. Whatever, it is done now.

If he was unexpectedly late home or held up, he should have telephoned you.

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Mum2346 · 23/01/2021 18:39

I don't get time for myself, it doesn't work like that.

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nancy75 · 23/01/2021 18:39

@CherryBlossomTree7

He was probably meeting a woman. Sorry to say it.
Why? I had to drop Dd at school for a 90 minute exam. Instead of going home (5 mins away) I sat in the car & read a book - it was just nice to be out of the house.
PaperMonster · 23/01/2021 18:39

Makes perfect sense to me. But then, I am weird.

MimsyBorogroves · 23/01/2021 18:39

I do this. Have a sneaky maccies or a chocolate bar and a bag of crisps and an hour with my kindle.

stablefeet · 23/01/2021 18:41

I do this at the moment! I finish up the work looking after my 3 horses in the morning and if I've got done reasonably quickly I drive up the hill and park where there's a wonderful view. Then I sit and listen to a talking book, phone some friends, drink some coffee from my flask, maybe even eat cake. It's a little bit of time on my own, which I really need at the moment.