What i found in teenage sons room

[Worriedmommaofteenageboy]

Ok I was rearranging and tidying my sons room while he is at his fathers. I was changing his bedside cabinet for a smaller one and in doing so I was sorting and tidying his underwear and socks. I saw a sock that was dirty (the sole) so took it out to throw in the pile of washing, as thought he had shoved it in by mistake. This is where it gets weird, I found a thong inside the sock that's not mine and looks like he was wanted into it!! Ds is 14 and the only other woman it could belong to is his dads wife. I'm now petrified that he's going to be a weirdo or that there is something mentally wrong with him, my anxiety is through the roof and I don't know what to do about it, I don't know what I'm looking for by posting this maybe some reassurance or an explanation as to why he would I dunno ,please help me out

Perfectly normal

He could easily have got it from a girl at school ages ago

Even if it is stepmum's, it will only be because he has very limited opportunities to obtain underwear

Very doubtful he is thinking about her whilst wanking

You are way overthinking things here. Leave him and his room alone!

He could have bought it prior to lockdown or online, found it in the street (yes I saw one by the river not two hours ago!) etc. Get him to sort his own room from now on.

I had a different situation in that dd called me from school (boarding) to get her passport number and to send her a photo of it as they were booking flights for a school trip and in the drawer she told me to look in were condoms! I wasn't snooping and actually was quite pleased that she was responsible enough to buy them but did mean that any chance she was waiting went out the window (she's still with her bf 2 years later despite lockdowns and he drove her to and from university for me). Don't look in teenagers rooms is the best advice

He’s too innocent @Countdowntonothing

@Worriedmommaofteenageboy

Look he didnt buy it online, he is a very innocent 14 year old in the regard No its not his size I know his every whereabouts so the only person it cold belong to is his dads wife. I do not want to tell his dad because his wife wouldn't be my sons biggest fan anyway so I'd rather not have to tell him unless I had too

How do you know he hasn't had it a few months. Could belong to a girl from school who has given them to him. You say he is innocent, I say you may be naive. Teens are good at hiding things from parents! I thought my teen was innocent until she accidentally sent me a whatsapp which was supposed to go to her friend. She deleted it but I had my phone in hand to see. She still doesn't know I saw it and she still believes I believe her 'I am innocent and know nothing' routine. Her face when she came downstairs, clearly to see if ai had seen it but disguised it as 'just fancy a biscuit' she looked so nervous, I had to play a little

Advice - give your son some privacy and do not clean/tidy room. Definitely not to go in drawers or cupboards!

@MrsTerryPratchett

DO NOT, repeat, DO NOT pick up any single socks in a boy's bedroom. You need hazmat gear and a full training day.

I found one of my services users wank socks! (He’s a younger gent!) Thank god I was wearing full Ppe! I just got him the other sock that I’d stashed away (looking for violated sock so I could pair them!) so he had a nice clean sock for his business! I shall probably double glove next time!!!

You have no idea how long he has had this or who gave him it. It’s possible a girl at school gave him it, you know before we were in lockdown...

Don’t go rummaging through a teenage boy’s room, it’s just wrong.

Don't mention anything to him. He would be horrified and so embarrassed

Please don't mention it to his dad. There's nothing weird about your son. He's a perfectly normal teenager. Put the stuff back where you found it and don't give it another thought.

I found one of my services users wank socks! (He’s a younger gent!) Thank god I was wearing full Ppe! I just got him the other sock that I’d stashed away (looking for violated sock so I could pair them!) so he had a nice clean sock for his business! I shall probably double glove next time!!!

Double glove, negative air pressure, full chemical shower afterwards. It's the only way to be sure.

Fucking hell put it back and never mention it to anyone. Your reaction to it is far weirder than him having it in the first place

It's not weird at all. Why are you stressing! I'd have a chuckle to myself and grimace and forget all about it

DO NOT, repeat, DO NOT pick up any single socks in a boy's bedroom. You need hazmat gear and a full training day.

As for the stepmother angle... is it weird? Yes. Is 14 weird? Hell yes.
Don't worry, OP. He'll one day wonder, WTAF was I thinking? But not at 14. At 14, it's a lot of action without too much thought. Maybe he has a weird little crush. Maybe it's just a fetish and hey, her thong's better than mum's (if it were YOUR thong, that would be a level of weird nobody could downplay. But it's his stepmum. Weird... but '14' weird, so we'll give him a free pass). Of course it would secretly bother every mother. Of course! I get the heebie jeebies if I so much as offer DS18 a cup of tea from outside his bedroom door (though my assumption is, it's less weird in his room now than it was at 14. I'll never know because what I don't know doesn't hurt me). It's a weird time for your son. Just throw that little memory in the bin. It won't last forever, this phase.

It's his wank sock and he has a woman's thong in it for inspiration. He might well have bought it from Primark for 99p! Leave the poor lad alone! It's perfectly normal!

The only unreasonable thing about this thread is all the people calling it a draw instead of drawers!
That aside, there is nothing unusual about a teenager wanking. To mention it to him or his Dad would be a massive overstep in his privacy and something he might never forgive you for. It would be totally embarrassing for him and sow that you have no respect for his space or privacy. The fact that the thong may or may not be his stepmothers is neither here nor there. It's not as if its a blood relative, and he's probably just fascinated by the fact that its a thong, not who it belongs to!
You should stop investigating his 'draw' and accept he is growing up and is now a sexual person. You can't police the thoughts or fantasies he has. He is discovering his sexuality and you should let him get on with it and never mention it to him or anyone else again.

JFC. Put the bloody sock back. Do not speak to him about it. Do not speak to his father, and for the love of God, do not speak to his bloody stepmother.

Not a big deal even if it is his step mothers, maybe he fancies her, it's not an odd fantasy to have. You should pretend you've never seen it.

Masturbation into a thong is nothing weird.

As you stated clearly yourself he has no opportunity to access a thong (or any other sexy “material”) as you know his every move and he has no access to money/bank cards etc. This is the most likely reason that he has had to resort to stealing his step mother’s thong.
In the absence of any other issues of serious concern about his psychological development this situation is of zero concern and absolutely no good can come of you bringing this matter up with your son or ex husband.

he is either masturbating or wearing it. Nothing weird with either.

@PathOfLeastResitance

There’s a lesson there about going in a teenagers room and moving things.

My thoughts too.