About friends buying goods during covid?

[MozzchopsThirty]

I've had covid for over a week now, been in with 3 dcs, 2 of whom have also tested positive

A few friends have said 'if you need anything just let me know' and I've asked for a few bits.

My friend bought me £6 worth of stuff and said 'the receipt is in the bag can you put it in my account'
My other friend called over last night and I asked if she could bring some crisps & popcorn and she also said it was about £4 the receipt is in the bag

I'm just wondering AIBU to think that dropping £4-£6 worth of shopping off I wouldn't ask for that back off a friend (and I'm not well off, single parent nhs worker)
If it was a £20 shop upwards that would be different

Maybe I'm wrong, AIBU?

*should count for something.

I think this would have been a really interesting/fun discussion if it had been posed as a sort of general question/realistic hypothetical dilemma rather than a personal think, which has hardly endeared OP to others. We all do things differently and therein lies the interest.

I'm still not convinced that, posed as it was, it wasn't a 'joke'.

This thread has now pissed me off - the seeming “do-gooders” who wouldn’t want or expect to be paid because they’re so good in society! It just discourages those of us willing to offer help from helping!! I wouldn’t dream of having a friend go to the shops for me and then not pay them. And if they refused payment I’d still somehow show a gesture of appreciation. There are too many people who use others and take the piss.

I see your point and personally I wouldn't ask for the money but I have friends that can't spare even small amounts.
My husband dropped some shopping for some sick friends and they didn't offer and we didn't asked. It was maybe £10.
It depends on personal finances.

So lets assume this woman is your best friend . If she died next week . Most of you would put the receipt for her flowers in the coffin

I wouldn't expect to be paid if I did this for someone and would tell them not to bother paying if they offered, unless that would offend them. However, this amount wouldn't break the bank for me or my friends. When I was a student, that would have been a couple of days food at least.
I would also offer payment rounded up if someone dropped stuff into me, and if it was accepted, fine, if it wasn't then also fine.

Yeah, that's exactly what's being said, @axile234. 🙄

Not only would I expect to repay my friends for items they bought, I would expect to add a bit to it for their petrol and time. As a disabled person who doesn't get out often, I know I can rely on my friends to bring me odd items I might need during the month. And I do not want them ever to think that I am taking advantage! Because I feel that way, they are happy to assist when I need it.

Yabu

I still can’t believe the number of people posting who can’t grasp the simple fact, that if you ask someone to buy you something you should offer to pay them. It’s up to them whether they accept the payment, not up to you to refuse to pay them.

axile234 Obviously not, what a strange statement. But if another friend asked me to buy their flowers at the same time I was buying my own, I would expect them to then offer to pay for them!

Wow OP you really hand your arse handed to you. I'd be the type who'd say it is fine forget the money but I'm a bit of a mug when it comes to good deeds and enbarrassing requests.
Though unfairness the people in my life who would get me shopping they would say the same, maybe buy icecream on a day out in the future but they can afford it, I'd never ask a struggling friend to do a shop run I'd worry I'd embarrass them there is times in my life when I didn't have a fiver.

*in fairness

@Axile234 I wouldn't be buying her flowers if I couldn't afford to buy food. Doubt she'd mind.

Op you did ask for your shopping to be free, you just didn't use those words! Your essentially annoyed that your friends asked for what you deem as little money, yet at the same time make it a point that your a single mum with 3 kids working for the nhs. That isn't relevant. If you went to the shops yourself for popcor and crisps, you would need to pay, so just because your friend went why do you feel they shouldn't ask for it?? Just because you wouldn't. And I guarantee you would ask for £4 back from a friend because after all you are a single mum with 3 kids 🙄

OP you are being utterly unreasonable. What I would be interested to know from other posters tho is how long would you give someone to pay you back after you handed the goods and receipt?

Before you thought they were stalling I mean...

So what if you needed some more shopping before you come out of isolation...would you ask the same two friends and expect that for free too?

Thank god i live alone . And none of you penny pinching turds are my friends

@axile234 And thank god I don’t have money grabbing twats as friends.

I think pp have covered it. Is the 'NHS worker' self label meant to sway the argument? Given that you are one of the lucky ones unlikely to lose your job in the next year or so, you can pay for your own food.

@axile234

Thank god i live alone . And none of you penny pinching turds are my friends

Yeah, I can't see that I'm losing anything by not having you in my life. 🤷‍♀️

@axile234 if someone bought you items you’d specifically asked the to get for you, are you saying you’d assume they were happy to pay for them so you wouldn’t ask them what you owed them?

🤣

Thank god i live alone . And none of you penny pinching turds are my friends
That's good. At least you won't have any receipts for funeral flowers in your coffin on your departure.