Child in the supermarket?

[Whipituntilitpeaks]

Just curious, do you take your child/children with you when you go food shopping?
I’m currently a Sahm to my toddler Dd and always used go go early on a Monday morning, when barely anyone was there.
During the first lockdown, we stopped going and Dp would go on a Saturday morning.
Dp works Mon-Fri and often was there for hours queuing up etc, but back then he was the only one of us that went out (aside from walks in our field)
When it calmed down a little, I went back to doing it with my Dd, do you take yours?
For us, it helps dp as he obviously doesn’t mind at all, but after a long week at work, it’s not fun to do the big shop. It’s also some kind of normality in mine and DD’s life, but I’ve started to feel a bit worried about it. We’re not in the U.K. but cases are around the same number one more or less and some of my friends don’t take theirs into any shops
Aibu to still take her shopping or should dp or myself go alone on the weekend?

It makes no sense at all for anyone to go to a crowded supermarket at the weekend when they can go earlier in the week when it's much quieter, even if it does mean taking DC with you.

It is contact with other people that spreads the virus, not strictness of adherence to guidance that doesn't suit all situations. There is no way that it's lower risk for one person to go on a Saturday morning when it's heaving than it is for two people to go into an empty shop on a Monday.

I thought the whole point was limiting the amount of customers in the shop at the one time to slow the spread?

Yes which is why it makes a million times more sense for the OP to take her toddler at a quieter time of the week rather than her husband going alone when its busier in the evenings or weekends.

I go with my son early on Mondays and there is barely anyone else there. I will be starting to go on my own after work while he's still at nursery.
Not from a safety point of view but because he screams the whole time I'm bringing the shopping in and putting it away.
However if I wasn't going back to work I'd still go on a Monday with him.
Supermarket shopping is like hell on Earth on weekends.

Ladywinesalot

@Lippyheaven Oh calm down, you don’t know where he caught Covid from.

Yes he did catch it at work, his wife works from home, doesn't go out. That’s the only place he’s been, his work.

I have Ds7 and Dd1, i think ive taken one or both shopping about 5 times ever and its stressful every time. I go about 8pm, no kids, peace and lidls meat usually marked up discounted by then and i can fill my freezer. Plus shops dead by that point

My DS (2.5) hasn't been in a shop since March last year bar once in the summer when we took him to get fitted for some new shoes. He's not missing out by not going into a shop - we go out for walks and bike rides every single day come rain or shine and play at home and in the garden. He (and I) do not need to be anywhere near shops right now. We get a Tesco delivery once a week and that sets us up for the week. Even in normal times I avoided taking DS to shops as it's not a fun environment for kids to be in.

The curfew rules sound mad where you are! That must make the shops soooo busy at the weekends!

I would take her with you and go today. Surely far safer than one of you going at the weekend. Could you put her in the buggy and use the buggy basket as a trolley? I do that whenever I have to take the buggy to the supermarket, and use the scan and shop app so I don’t have to touch a trolley.

I'm vulnerable so my DH goes at the weekend, a couple of times a month. Going alone means he's round quicker too and the less time spent in there the better

Once since October and two days later he had a horrific viral infection.
Guessing because we’ve not left our own property since then and his immune system is probably a little empty.
Won’t be taking him again as we deliver or work between me and DH to go on an evening once he’s in bed.

Better a toddler and one parent in the week when it's quiet than supermarkets being packed out at weekends around partner's working patterns.

A toddler is negligible external risk of spreading illness on top of their parent's if they don't go anywhere without their parent.

I take my DS who is almost 2. It's something to do to get him out the house for a while and a change of scenery. It's an awful for everyone but more so kids in my opinion. They are missing out on so much

I'm a single mum and even I find a workaround so I don't take DC. As few people as possible should be in shops, though you still get the families and couples who think the rules don't apply to them.

@Doyoumind

I'm a single mum and even I find a workaround so I don't take DC. As few people as possible should be in shops, though you still get the families and couples who think the rules don't apply to them.

You dont have a toddler I presume?

@LooneyLovefood

My DS (2.5) hasn't been in a shop since March last year bar once in the summer when we took him to get fitted for some new shoes. He's not missing out by not going into a shop - we go out for walks and bike rides every single day come rain or shine and play at home and in the garden. He (and I) do not need to be anywhere near shops right now. We get a Tesco delivery once a week and that sets us up for the week. Even in normal times I avoided taking DS to shops as it's not a fun environment for kids to be in.

Makes total sense to me.

I personally wouldn't put toddlers in trollies as they're covered in germs as it is, even with the sanisiting etc.

My nephew (same age as your son) also doesn't go in shops much, his DPs get a supermarket delivery but they also live with inlaws so get food there, they visit the farm shop or very occasionally the local Co-Op/Tesco local in the small village where they are but not many people there or one waits in the car/outside with him.

Similar to you too, lots of country walks and bike rides and short drives to nice places, great for what used to be a London kid.

I have no choice, but in your situation I absolutely would continue to go on Monday morning with your child. It's completely bonkers that people are telling you to go on a much busier day by yourself.

Following rules doesn't mean mindlessly abandoning basic common sense. Fewer people around (even if that includes the two of you), lower chance of catching it.

I've been with one of my DDs in the evening when it's quiet. But for the main shop we do a click and collect.

take the kid and go early Monday when uncrowded. Put in the trolley if small enough (they are not 'covered in germs' - or you could just sanitise it before and wash the kids clothes afterwards). If not, keep on a rein/wrist strap to avoid it running round touching stuff/tripping people up.

same as in normal times.

Following rules doesn't mean mindlessly abandoning basic common sense.

Given some of the posts I've seen on here since last January I honestly think some people genuinely believe that's exactly what following the rules means.

I personally wouldn't put toddlers in trollies as they're covered in germs as it is, even with the sanisiting etc.

To be fair toddlers are pretty gross creatures they are probably more likely to be covered in germs than a bog standard trolley let alone a sanitised shopping trolley.

Can you get deliveries? It was difficult first time round but it’s pretty straightforward to get a delivery/click and collect now. Maybe not from your usual shop but we’ve been very pleasantly surprised by the alternative we’re using.

My DS (2.5) hasn't been in a shop since March last year bar once in the summer when we took him to get fitted for some new shoes. He's not missing out by not going into a shop

@LooneyLovefood I’m sorry, but you might find once he starts school that he is, especially if you apply this thinking to all other public settings too. Has he been on a bus/train? To the library or a museum? Visited a cafe or restaurant?

Apologies if you’ve been doing all of the above, but I do fear for those preschoolers who have had no experience beyond parks and their own house for the past year.

the weekend is the worst time to go to the shops - so bloody busy! go when its quiet! I go at night at 9pm an hour before close on weekdays!

If you go at a quiet time and have to bring your daughter then do it

heaps of people have no choice - single parents etc

I do fear for those preschoolers who have had no experience beyond parks and their own house for the past year.

What are you worried about? That they go to University without having experienced a bus?

Yes, I'm a single parent. Sometimes there's no option but to take your child with you. (I do get shopping delivered - when I can get a slot - but there are often many items missing, meaning we've got to go to a physical shop anyway.)

@VinylDetective

Go at the weekend. Kids shouldn’t be in shops at the moment.

Easy for you to say! Some of us are single parents with the only childcare we have, shielding! I can't get deliveries and therefore I HAVE to take my DC!

Get off your judgie high horse!!!!