Child in the supermarket?

[Whipituntilitpeaks]

Just curious, do you take your child/children with you when you go food shopping?
I’m currently a Sahm to my toddler Dd and always used go go early on a Monday morning, when barely anyone was there.
During the first lockdown, we stopped going and Dp would go on a Saturday morning.
Dp works Mon-Fri and often was there for hours queuing up etc, but back then he was the only one of us that went out (aside from walks in our field)
When it calmed down a little, I went back to doing it with my Dd, do you take yours?
For us, it helps dp as he obviously doesn’t mind at all, but after a long week at work, it’s not fun to do the big shop. It’s also some kind of normality in mine and DD’s life, but I’ve started to feel a bit worried about it. We’re not in the U.K. but cases are around the same number one more or less and some of my friends don’t take theirs into any shops
Aibu to still take her shopping or should dp or myself go alone on the weekend?

I am a SAHM. DH is working. She comes with me. I'd prefer to leave her home and shop in peace, but she has nowhere to go otherwise. Like pp said, it is entertainment. We have had a few comments, but I have just done the hard stare.

@Lweji It’s the daily interactions and learning about how the world works. Before March, Dd went to swimming lessons on a Saturday morning, shopping, library, toddler group, play dates etc, alongside lots of bike rides and walks in nature and the beach. She interacted with so many different people and had so many interesting experiences..now, barely anything. My heart breaks when I see her run up to children if we go for a walk 😢she’s definitely craving that.

@Lweji So I gather you either didn’t read or didn’t understand my ‘long’ reply to you? Or you just don’t think young children having life experience beyond their own four walls is important to normal educational development (clue: I can assure you it is)

It doesn’t have to be a supermarket, but it’s the cumulative effect of not going anywhere or meeting anyone that children are suffering from.

@Dontfuckingsaycheese

2 adults with 3 running around kids in Lidl last night, the man shouting up aisles at the others. Not a mask between them. I despair we will ever get out of this mess with people like this.

The issue there is two adults, no manners and no mask...not children in general

@StormyInTheNorth I’ve perfected my Paddington Stare too recently

No one should be taking kids to shops unless it is the only way they can get food.

You have a DH. You say it is a lot for him to shop after a week at work? How do you think parents who both work full time go on, or single parents who work full time fgs.

Either you or your DH go - alone.

I find here asdA click and collect are eAsy to get so could be an option for some as even if you take kids they are not walking round shop for ages.
I know several people who work in supermarkets and been quite a few cases amongst staff , so they are a risk as well , so less people that go in the better really.

@Greenknees I’m fairly quick and she has a little bag of Babybels on the way round 🤣she loves going, she waves and says hello to everyone as we go around 🙈

I know several people who work in supermarkets and been quite a few cases amongst staff , so they are a risk as well , so less people that go in the better really.

So surely from the staffs prospective you can see that it's better for the OP to take her toddler and shop when it's quiet rather than her DH going when its busier and adding to the large amount of people already shopping at that time??

Can you do Click and Collect? I can't get deliveries at the moment. No slots.

Take her OP - don’t let her lick anyone and ignore any comments or stares . When I shop on a Monday morning there are often mums pushing round a child in a trolley.Children are the little human beings who are going to need to be well rounded and resilient to get themselves a good education and pay for this mess.

Tbf even teenagers ,as I have are stuck at home going nowhere as well and obviously can't even use a park. My teenagers hate shopping anyway but today I will take one of them to asda for my click and collect to get him out , but he won't come in the shop , just with me for the drive and to help pack shopping up as asda don't do bags. As he hasn't left the house since xmas
All kids of all ages are missing out.

@TempsPerdu 👏 👏 👏

An adult with a toddler can go to the supermarket.

Don't make yourselves completely miserable, this is hard enough as it is.

And don't ask these questions on here. There are a lot of keyboard warriors.

@Therarestone

An adult with a toddler can go to the supermarket.

Don't make yourselves completely miserable, this is hard enough as it is.

And don't ask these questions on here. There are a lot of keyboard warriors.

Yep, miserable people who haven’t left the house since March and resent and mock people who are worried about their children.

[quote Ellieboolou33]**@RedskyBynight* funnily enough I have not* missed "the guidance" I will continue to take my children with me.

I've worked throughout (not at home) and my children go to school. I will continue to give them their weekly treat of doing the weekly shop with me. [/quote]

Hmmm and we wonder why it keeps spreading!!

@same4walls yes and no as its all about less people in general going in , supermarkets are open at night as well and probably busy on sat as families doing shops , well it is here.
If you have the option to go on your own you should, I don't know where OP lives and if only 10
People in and a baby thats different but never a supermarket near me where is only 10
People in ever .

No, not worth the risk and the less people in shops the better for everyone. Children rarely wear masks or SD either from what I’ve seen.

I don't give a flying fuck what anyone thinks. It's not nazi Germany just yet, though give it time. My DD can't go to school, she can't go to her dance club, she can't go to brownies. She can't see her friends. She hasn't played with another child for over a month and won't for another month at least. She can't go swimming or play sports. She can't see relatives. So yep, if I want to take her to the supermarket to buy a bag of sweets and a magazine, I will.

All the supermarkets here have signs now saying one person only.
A mum with 2.5 yr old would not even be asked , but lady here who is taking all her children as a treat, well thats why people have an issue.
Most of us wouldn't notice a mum walking around with a toddler in a trolley , but when we see fAmily day trip? What if we all felt like, aren't all our children struggling ( not that mine would ever see supermarket as a trip out )

@formerbabe and neither can any other child . What if we all ignored guidance and all took our kids in for the weekly shop? Big ques and packed shops.
Tbf though of your taking her once in a while to a shop for a treat I would say thats ok, thats mot going weekly, walking around for ages doing a weekly shop.

A toddler strapped into a trolley seems to represent quite a low risk, I’d have thought. I tend to do late evening shopping or deliveries but really that’s half because I find shopping with DD stressful and actually like the time to myself in the shop with headphones in, not having to keep up a dialogue about how orange the oranges are or whatever else.

[quote donewithitalltodayandxmas]@formerbabe and neither can any other child . What if we all ignored guidance and all took our kids in for the weekly shop? Big ques and packed shops.
Tbf though of your taking her once in a while to a shop for a treat I would say thats ok, thats mot going weekly, walking around for ages doing a weekly shop.
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No it isn’t every child as a third are still in school. And to put it mildly I don’t give a shit about other people’s children, I care about mine!

yes and no as its all about less people in general going in

Yes they are encouraging less people into supermarkets but I'm sure you'd be hard pressed to find any supermarket worker who would rather the OP left the shopping to be done at a much busier time by 1 person than her going with the toddler when it's much quieter. It makes so much more sense to go when it's quieter even if it technically means more people going.

@Scarlettpixie Can you please have the courtesy of reading through the whole post before commenting?
It isn’t about my Dp finding it too hard to go on a weekend after working all week!!! Read!