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How have I only just realised this?

185 replies

ColdemortReturns · 19/01/2021 10:50

I'm 40.
I've just realised that I was born bang on, to the date, 9 months after my grandmas 50th birthday.
She had a huge party, I've seen the photos.
I was born on my due date.
My parents had a good time didn't they?
Baaaaaaahhhhhhh. Can never look at those photos again.

OP posts:
userxx · 19/01/2021 19:58

Same. I'm 9 months to the day after my mums birthday 🤮

Bobbiepin · 19/01/2021 20:05

@BabbleBee

I am married to a teacher. All of mine were conceived in the school holidays, not planned that way but just the way it worked out! Now I’m wondering if they’ll ever notice 🙈
My DD was planned so she'd arrive just after term started in September so I could take the year off and get paid for the Summer. She arrived in October but otherwise went to plan 🤣
MsHedgehog · 19/01/2021 20:46

Seriously people, if you were born on / due date was exactly 9 months after an event, you most likely weren’t conceived at that event but two weeks later! How can you all not know this?!

Lweji · 19/01/2021 21:00

How many people are born in their due date?
Seriously, people. Grin

MsHedgehog · 19/01/2021 21:05

@Lweji Even then, 9 months / 40 weeks before your due date is the date of the last period, not conception!

I think people are looking for stories when there are none!

StCharlotte · 19/01/2021 21:10

@autumntimebrowns

There was a definite bulge in my school year in September after the dreadful and famous weather of the 1962/3 winter Smile
Guilty as charged Grin
AndAPartridgeInABearTree · 19/01/2021 21:21

My sibling and I are either side of my DM's birthday. And only a year apart!

OwlLovesTea · 19/01/2021 22:04

@userxx

Same. I'm 9 months to the day after my mums birthday 🤮
Ive just realised both my brother and i were conceived on our Dad's birthday. I was 3 weeks early and my brother's bd is 3 weeks and 2y later. Blimey 🤢
OwlLovesTea · 19/01/2021 22:05

@Lweji

How many people are born in their due date? Seriously, people. Grin
I used one of those pregnancy calcs
Lweji · 20/01/2021 11:12

As you can notice in this graph, even at peak 40 weeks gestation time before inductions and c sections were more common, only up to 40% of births occur at 40 weeks.
Plus, sperm can easily last 5 days untill fertilization.
And sometimes ovulation can occur a bit earlier than 14 days, which is why the time after a period cannot be considered safe in terms of avoiding conception.
It is quite possible that some people here were indeed conceived at events, even if they were born 40 weeks after that event. Less likely if they were born on their due date, as the mums would have been starting their period then.

Also pointing out that 40 weeks is 280 days. I.e. 9,20 months at an average of 30,42 days per month. That means 9 months and 6 days, or 9 months and one week approximately.

Studies like this suggest the median can be more like 283 days, so giving an extra 3 days, and thus 9 months and 9 days.
tidsskriftet.no/en/2012/01/how-long-does-pregnancy-last

So, 9 months and 9 days from last period. Add 5 days for sperm and you get 9 months and 14 days...

That would put the due date easily to the day, and certainly in the same week of the 9th month after the actual sex act and even ovulation.

So, before you call pps stupid, maybe check the actual data.

How have I only just realised this?
RoseAndRose · 20/01/2021 11:23

@MsHedgehog

Seriously people, if you were born on / due date was exactly 9 months after an event, you most likely weren’t conceived at that event but two weeks later! How can you all not know this?!
They do know this, but why let the truth get in the way of a good story?
SingleHandSue · 20/01/2021 11:26

@Lweji

How many people are born in their due date? Seriously, people. Grin
Both of mine were. The midwife said it was pretty unusual and I should have placed a bet.
Lweji · 20/01/2021 11:27

@RoseAndRose

You may want to read my post just before yours. Wink

unmarkedbythat · 20/01/2021 11:33

Around 4% of babies are born on their EDD, apparently.

The EDD in the UK is 40 weeks, in France it is 41. Idk whether variations in now EDDs are calculated are taken into account to come up with the '4%' figure.

RoseAndRose · 20/01/2021 11:35

[quote Lweji]@RoseAndRose

You may want to read my post just before yours. Wink[/quote]
I did.

It's very interesting, but in no way relevant - because OP said she was born on her due date, which wouid have been the 40weeks from LMP

Her mother's due date wouid not have been set at 40 weeks on from the party had she not been at the onset of menses at the time of the party. As you will know, conception on day 1 of full flow blood is extremely rare, as is sperm survival in vivo during outflow of blood.

So yes, I completely agree that you might not conceive when you think you do, and a 'full term" date could reflect conception at a different time, given biological vagaries.

But it does not make the OP's account remotely likely, because of the timing of the period. But that sort of bloody detail went stand inthe way of a good story

Lweji · 20/01/2021 12:34

It's very interesting, but in no way relevant - because OP said she was born on her due date, which wouid have been the 40weeks from LMP

You may want to read again, as I explained in which cases the calculations were relevant.

MsHedgehog · 20/01/2021 14:28

@RoseAndRose Unless OP was two weeks overdue (which she was not as she was born on her due date), then she would not have been conceived on the day of the party. Her mum would have had her period, and then she would have been conceived circa two weeks after.

So it's not really a good story, and same with all those claiming a 25 September or 14 November birthday...They're just wrong!

sheslittlebutfierce · 20/01/2021 14:31

My youngest was a Christmas Eve celebration baby and for many reasons there can be absolutely no doubt.

OwlLovesTea · 20/01/2021 14:47

If you count backwards and it shows that you and your brother were both conceived the week of your Dad's birthday that still gives the same ick!

Plus we all know, if your birthday is on a wednesday it might be celebrated the 3 days before or after, so why superior people are proclaiming some sort of insider knowledge that babies arent usually born on their actual due date 🤔🤪
We can still figure out when we were conceived.

Marmite27 · 20/01/2021 14:50

@Santaiscovidfree

My dd's is 25th September!! Grin
Mine too, but she was early. DH has an early January birthday Grin
Saranvenya · 20/01/2021 14:59

@PistolKnight

https://www.whenwasiconceived.com
According to that I was conceived 23rd-31st December, DS was concieved around my birthday, I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 22weeks.
MsHedgehog · 20/01/2021 15:09

@OwlLovesTea It's not about superior knowledge, it's about people not understanding how it works. For example, those getting excited about a 25 September birthday, if born on their due date, are unlikely to have been conceived on Christmas Day.

Same with those claiming 14 November means they were conceived on Valentines Day.

I mean, if they want to get excited over something that is wrong, then they can, but it's not superior to explain how it works..

ProfessionalWeirdo · 20/01/2021 15:12

@BikeRunSki

I once shared a flat with a very straight laced (but slightly dim) girl who realised that she was born 7 months after her parents got married. She had naively thought it was 1 yr 7months until her parents had a silver wedding party.
Whilst researching my family history, I discovered that one set of great-grandparents had celebrated their Golden Wedding a year early. The correct date would have been a mere four months before their first child's 50th birthday...
smoothchange · 20/01/2021 15:31

so why superior people are proclaiming some sort of insider knowledge that babies arent usually born on their actual due date 🤔🤪

We can still figure out when we were conceived.

So many women on this thread actually don't appear to have a clue about conception

Ch3rish · 20/01/2021 15:39

@junebirthdaygirl

We had a family wedding with lots of cousins together. 3 of us had babies the same week 9 months later
The cousins all got each other pregnant?

What kind of weird in-bred family do you have Grin