Dog poo-ing on our garden every morning and evening. AIBU to say something?

[LucyLime]

We live in a quiet area with just three houses in a sort of cul de sac. We are part of a small estate but at the bottom of it. Nobody comes down here unless they live here or are delivering something really.

However there is a cut through at the top and every morning and evening for the past week, a woman has started appearing from this cut through and walking past our house with her large dog. And every morning and evening, this dog is doing a poo on my front garden.

It cocks it's leg on my bushes and had a wee and then settles down for a poo. And yes - she does stand there watching and picks it up

The reason I know? We have security cameras. The reason I've not said anything to her yet? I have annoyingly either been asleep/ in the shower/ in the garage/ out shopping. Nearly managed it this morning but by the time I'd opened my front door, she was turning the corner and I wasn't about to screech!

So ... onto my AIBU. My DH thinks that as she's picking it up then meh, not a massive deal. I think differently - I don't want my front lawn used as a dog toilet and I think it's bad manners to allow your dog to do this. Once I sort of get - but this is now becoming a pattern.

AIBU to literally stake out my camera notifications today and ensure I can get to my front door and ask her to stop immediately? Or just ignore it?

We're hovering over the delete/ban button. No more personal attacks please.

@Lochroy

I thought the OP was very fair in all of her actions and anyone who thinks it acceptable to tolerate the dog's owner's behaviour has no place in a civilised society.

Gosh. Will you be calling for the death penalty next?

When I think of people that don't belong in a civilised society, I think of rapists and pedophiles. I certainly don't think of people who allow their dog to shit on abit of grass outside someone's house then proceed to clean it up promptly. But I suppose we all have different priorities... It is dog owner's behaviour annoying? Yes. And it would be reasonable to have a word with them. But public shaming on social media, passive agressive signs and 'berating' (OP's words, not mine) people in public is disproportionate and unkind when you haven't even attempted to speak with them in a civilised manner first.

The OP then went on to abuse posters on this site for daring to suggest that maybe there was a better way of dealing with the problem. This is also pretty disproportionate and unkind behaviour in my view.

I have two dogs. I’d never let them do their business on someone’s garden! I can’t believe anyone thinks that’s ok!

Well done. Glad you got it sorted and all in just over 24 hours too. I doubt she'll be back. Hopefully she'll be more considerate in the future

NRFT but IMO its cheeky as anything to let your dog poo on someone’s grass.

It’s private property and trespassing really. It’s not the OP’s fault the dog needs to take a dump. The owner should take it to poo shight on her own lawn.

What if it had the trots one day? She can’t clean that up can she? bowk

Fouling a public space like a Green, where children play, or a path, and just moving on without picking it up .....too flipping right.

Disgusting, selfish, behaviour.

@sadeyes21 @Lady089 Did you read what the OP said she put on Facebook, the actual words? And the photo of the sign? How was it obsessive?

If you're in agreement that the behaviour was out of order, how else should she have gone about trying to find the lady other than ask of Facebook (completely normal these days) and hang around to see her walking past? And how else do you have a conversation with someone walking away from you other than to raise your voice? Honestly, if I thought what you are saying was reasonable I'd be in agreement, no reason not to, but I just can't follow your point of view.

I’ve just read that OP caught the woman. Brilliant! Well done OP 👏 the cheeky cow!

@billy1966 I agree with you then. I thought you meant someone who let their dog poo and picked it up after them

I cheered!
I laughed at the image of a wolf squatting for a poo on the lawn!
I rolled my eyes at the dog owners above who don't have a problem with leaving dog poo all over the place!
I saluted you OP!

[quote LST]@billy1966 I agree with you then. I thought you meant someone who let their dog poo and picked it up after them[/quote]
Not a bother.👍

Dog fouling brings out the deranged in me🤬, it is the very essence of selfishness.

Children walking in it or getting it on themselves through playing is just awful.

I'm not alone though.
When my children were young I remember other parents being hugely exercised on the subject.

Cleaning dog shit off your childs shoes has to be one of the WORST parenting jobs..🤢

Gross. Put aload of bleach down

@billy1966 I hate it. My kids went out on the front on their dinner break from 'schooling' today, with a remote control car DS2 got for his birthday yesterday. They came back in with it covered in shit!

@Lochroy - I would put up a sign and if she continued I’d report her. It’s as simple as that. Witch hunts however, aren’t the answer!
Her husband even said he didn’t have an issue himself, as the woman cleaned it up.

To be honest, I think this thread is more about the dog pooing issue, the OP stated ‘You don’t even know who I am!’ when I explained I didn’t agree with her actions, then resorted to name calling in her posts to anyone who didn’t agree with how she went about things. So anyone that didn’t agree would have received a barrel of abuse anyway!

@DrunkBetch

I have a dog and also walk through an estate with open front gardens with the grass right next to the pavement. My dog enjoys walking across the grass and sniffing the plants but if I think for a second she will poo I bring her back to the pavement so she will do it there and not in someone's garden. My husband thinks I'm being silly as we always clean up but I would hate it if it was my garden.

So you would be quite happy for someone to bring their kids round to your garden wander about a bit, sniff your flowers, maybe have a sit down on your garden chairs, perhaps they could have a picnic , or build a camp. They would enjoy it I think, just as much as your dog enjoys its time in someone’s garden .

[quote LST]@billy1966 I hate it. My kids went out on the front on their dinner break from 'schooling' today, with a remote control car DS2 got for his birthday yesterday. They came back in with it covered in shit![/quote]
God help you...you have my full sympathy..

Years ago when mine were all small we were at the park and one of my daughters was wearing her favourite shoes...think Dora the Explorer runners...she loved them.....anyway she got shit all over them.

My husband was away for the week and I just couldn't face the clean up job, so I took the radical decision to dump them as I just couldn't face the clean up.

Long story short, couldn't get a replacement pair, daughter was very upset so I had to go back into the bin, retrieve the shitty shoes, clean them🙄🤬, soak them in dettol etc.

The stress and annoyance.

Actually, after that incident I got a great tip from another mother.

Have old "park only shoes" that you keep in the boot of the car for this purpose.

I think I ended up buying cheap pairs.

But it really is red rag to a bull with me!

Christ @Lady089 the only one obsessed on this thread is you and sadeyes. For what it's worth maybe if you actually read the thread and stopped making shit up you could calm down. The OP didn't 'make a Facebook group' she put a post up on her local Facebook group, she put up a sign on her lawn and had a word with the dirty bitch when she saw her. All very reasonable actions.
You don't agree, no problem. You do you and I'm sure the OP will continue to do her. The fact that the overwhelming majority on the thread agree with the OP should give you some pause for thought, unless of course you are only antagonising people to get a reaction?

Dog fouling brings out the deranged in me🤬
me too, and I hate the fact that the outdoors is covered in 'fecal booby traps':(
I know the majority pick up but a growing number don't and the more shit is left around the more others think 'if they dont pick it up why should I'.
We should all have cameras at the ready to snap the bad owners who dont pick up

@tiktaktoe - Yet you’ve invested your time in responding to me
I am replying to those comments who tag me in posts, is that ok with you?
If you saw the abuse the OP gave to those who didn’t agree with her you’d possibly re-think your comment.
Putting up a post in a Facebook group of said person is witch hunting, what did people do before social media, when they had these problems?
As adults you deal with a situation as an adult, the OP was right to be angry but I don’t agree with how she went about it.
I don’t need to pause for thought, I just don’t happen to agree with the solution to a problem.

@Tiktaktoe puts it better than I ever could

[quote Lady089]@Lochroy - No one is saying she has to tolerate it, they are saying that going to the great lengths she went to was over the top. There’s a difference between getting your point across and going to extremes. You can agree with the problem but not the solution.[/quote]
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