Friend and Facebook 'car crash'

[LizzleTizzle]

Just had to get opinions on friend's facebook behaviour.

So yesterday a friend 'crashed her car' in the snow. It wasn't a crash just a car had slid forward slightly into her car. No damage whatsoever. What is strange is that her first thought (with two children in the car) is to take a picture to post on facebook.

No phoning to ask a friend for help, no sorting anything out. Just literally sat on facebook waiting for the comments to come in.

Even after offers of help, she waited and waited in the freezing cold until I eventually sent DH to go and rescue her.

Even after the event, when he had pulled all her stuff home, she was still playing the drama out on facebook.

Urgh...I just had to rant.

Why does she do this? The posts are constant...my kitchen's flooded (picture of kitchen filled with water), my child is ill (picture of crying, ill child), I've lost £50 out of my pocket, etc,etc

Why did you send DH if she had already had offers of help?
Some people just like to live their lives out on FB I guess, it’s partly why I came off it 3 years ago.

I find this sort of thing annoying too.

Not sure why people feel the need to share everything on social media.

@Fatherbrownsbicycle because we live nearby and the way the comments were going, it didn't seem like she was doing anything.

Why send your Dh? I’d have let her get cold tbh if she was being stubborn and waiting for a particular person and others had offered

I can understand it more these days because we can't socialise or see people, so some people get interaction however they can.

@GeordieGreigsButtButtZoom it's not a recent thing though. Also, it concerns me that she has hundreds of fb 'friends' but doesn't seem to be able to ask any of them for help.

If you don't react she will have to find alternatives or use her initiative. Your choice to do so.

@LIZS even if I didn't react, it's just so irritating seeing all the 'awww hope you're ok hunni' responses

I also agree it's strange that you sent your DP to get her when she'd clearly turned down other offers.

Maybe they weren't genuine offers or people she really knew?

Facebook friends are not necessarily really friends. I haven't seen some of my Facebook friends in years

Seems a bit pot/kettle scenario to be hones
Just disengage OP

@AliceinBunniland because we live nearby. She didn't turn the other offers down, she was just seemingly ignoring them and carrying on with the drama.

This is so annoying. I hate people that post themselves crying too, how can you film yourself crying, watch it back and approve it for social media? Complete lack of decorum

And lack of common sense!

So you should just have ignored the FB status, she wouldn’t know whether or not you read it.

Stop encouraging her by reacting!

Just ignore the posts, she'll continue to post them and her FB friends will continue to 'awwww hub' in response. The only thing you can do is ignore. And not send your husband to help next time there's a drama unfolding.

There are people who are like that, every minor detail is a major drama, and every fine detail has to go on social media. I personally moved off fb a few years ago for the sake of my mental health.
You have to either accept her for who she is or ignore her.

She was waiting for you to swoop in and ‘save’ her as she knew you would react to her post in that way!! Start distancing from her dramas and she will either start accepting offers from other ‘friends’ or she will suddenly find she’s quite capable of sorting out for herself rather than waiting for you to come and save the day!!

Unfollow her. Seriously. You'll still be friends but you won't see all the irritating shit. This is my go too when I don't want to fall out with them 😊

We call it doing a Sam Smith

Just ignore.

If there was no damage why didn't she just drive home?

I don’t understand the story. If there was no damage to her car, why did she need rescuing? Was she just sitting in an undamaged car on her phone, for no reason?

Why don’t you delete your FB account
Problem solved !

If her car wasn’t damaged why did she need rescued?

The one that I never understand are the parents who "check-in" to A&E with their sick child.