Friend and Facebook 'car crash'

[LizzleTizzle]

Just had to get opinions on friend's facebook behaviour.

So yesterday a friend 'crashed her car' in the snow. It wasn't a crash just a car had slid forward slightly into her car. No damage whatsoever. What is strange is that her first thought (with two children in the car) is to take a picture to post on facebook.

No phoning to ask a friend for help, no sorting anything out. Just literally sat on facebook waiting for the comments to come in.

Even after offers of help, she waited and waited in the freezing cold until I eventually sent DH to go and rescue her.

Even after the event, when he had pulled all her stuff home, she was still playing the drama out on facebook.

Urgh...I just had to rant.

Why does she do this? The posts are constant...my kitchen's flooded (picture of kitchen filled with water), my child is ill (picture of crying, ill child), I've lost £50 out of my pocket, etc,etc

I snooze, snooze then unfollow. Consequentially my Facebook is a nice calm place full of useful updates and pretty photos.

Google tells me attention-seeking behavior may stem from jealousy, low self-esteem, loneliness, or as a result of a personality disorder

You can’t change her, but you don’t have to engage with it.

She sounds like a tedious drama queen. Unfortunately, social media is catnip for them. No event is too mundane to make a drama out of, no pratfall too embarrassing to mine for attention. I'd block her - I can't stand people like this!

Well why did you 'send' your DH to go and 'rescue' her if you believed it all to be a load of attention seeking bollocks? Why get involved at all? I mean I find fb attention seeking pretty fucking annoying, which is why I disengage with it. You did the opposite and leapt right in. Why? Do you possibly enjoy a bit of drama too?

If you don't like her use of / interaction with Facebook, can't you just block or mute her?

Find Facebook a waste of space, I do have an account, but don't really use it.

I think your post proves why she does it. It gets her attention. You were st home watching it unfold. You sent your dh out. Not sure why she needed rescuing at all.

Suggest you get off FB and leave your friend to it.

Because people just want the drama and the attention. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why did she need rescuing?
What did DH do to rescue her?

I suggest you get off Facebook and leave her to it. You are enabling her behaviour and then moaning about it afterwards.

I think I'd have ripped her a new one for keeping her two children out in the cold and not prioritising getting them back home.

Actually no, I wouldn't. Since this is a long-running drama-llamma'ing of hers, I'd have muted/defriended her long since.

Attention seeking pure and simple. Respond with 'hope you are okay'

I wouldnt have reacted. I would have waited for her to call/message me.

Because she loving the attention!
I deleted FB years ago as it just wasn't working for me
I have also just come away from another forum due to posts like "my cat has been vomiting for two days, can hardly walk, what do I do "go to the vet it's an emergency!

And another " my sons lips have swollen up and he's having trouble breathing, is this serious enough for A&E"

Some people have lost the ability to be rational and would rather ask a bunch of random people behind a keyboard than act sensibly.

I have one friend, who I do know irl, who constantly posts “Poor me, I’m so ill, I’m dying, I’m at the hospital, etc” type posts. I snooze her all the time. Ain’t nobody got time for that!

come off facebook op.
i find myself reporting posts and then realise, i should just turn off

Unfollow!

Why did you involve yourself in it? Were you hoping she'd tag your DH and thank him? Your posts don't make a lot of sense- no damage but needed rescuing, offers of help but you sent your DH.
You both seem to need validation or an outlet. You've just chosen different SM platforms. If Facebook isn't for you then deactivate your account like I did.

So your friend was sitting in an undamaged car with her kids, posting loads of drama, and you sent your DH to 'rescue' her?

You're an enabler here. Just ignore the woman when she behaves like this.

To be fair, some people are just generally really bad in a crisis. I knew a woman whose husband collapsed with a heart attack and the first thing she did was call her mum (who of course told her to call an ambulance). Another friend who got a leak and called her dad. Some people just sort of freeze and can't think what to do.

What I mean is that maybe she doesn't have anyone else to ask, so just asks on Facebook. Maybe she doesn't have a lot of support outside of FB.

Stop reacting. Don't respond to the posts.

Why did you send your husband to help her? Why not go yourself? Also, why don’t you just mute her posts? You don’t have to block her or removed her from your friends but you seem to enjoy revelling in how pathetic she is on social media.

I agree OP. What a world we live in..

Unfollow or turn off notifications. Simple.

Don't help in future. She wants attention, not help.

@BlackCatShadow

To be fair, some people are just generally really bad in a crisis. I knew a woman whose husband collapsed with a heart attack and the first thing she did was call her mum (who of course told her to call an ambulance). Another friend who got a leak and called her dad. Some people just sort of freeze and can't think what to do.

Sitting in an undamaged car isn't a crisis!

I would unfollow her on FB!