Friend and Facebook 'car crash'

[LizzleTizzle]

Just had to get opinions on friend's facebook behaviour.

So yesterday a friend 'crashed her car' in the snow. It wasn't a crash just a car had slid forward slightly into her car. No damage whatsoever. What is strange is that her first thought (with two children in the car) is to take a picture to post on facebook.

No phoning to ask a friend for help, no sorting anything out. Just literally sat on facebook waiting for the comments to come in.

Even after offers of help, she waited and waited in the freezing cold until I eventually sent DH to go and rescue her.

Even after the event, when he had pulled all her stuff home, she was still playing the drama out on facebook.

Urgh...I just had to rant.

Why does she do this? The posts are constant...my kitchen's flooded (picture of kitchen filled with water), my child is ill (picture of crying, ill child), I've lost £50 out of my pocket, etc,etc

This scenario is exactly what the 'snooze' or 'unfollow' buttons are for... 😇

Maybe you should both grow up, her for posting on facebook and you for coming on another social media site to complain about her, when there is a very simple solution, which judging from your replies you are not willing to take.

She'll carry on like that while people like you encourage it!

You're encouraging her by doing things like sending your DH to go and help her when one of these non-events occurs. Why did you do that?

Just ignore her.

You've just enabled and encouraged her.
Ignore from now on.

You 'sent' your DH to collect her... well more fool you 🙄

I agree with everyone that says you are enabling her 🌺

This is what the "unfollow" option is for!

I don’t think you should have done either, but why did you send your husband? Why didn’t you go yourself?

She’s lonely

I wonder if she didnt get much attention growing up which has made her do anything to attract attention, to feel loved. Quite sad really

Op
You name changed and started a thread about your FB obsessed friend.

I find your friend peculiar answer I have to say, I find your investment in it peculiar.

Why did she need rescuing if there was no damage to the car? Surely just...go home.

I know one or two people who will use anything for facebook attention too. Photos of ill children (my poor bubba) etc...

Dunno...some people are fixated on acknowledgement of social media, addicted to it I guess. I simply ignore them.

There’s an unfollow button on fb so you don’t need to see this

What are OP the Facebook police? She csn post what she likes and have as many friends as she likes.

How do you know she didn't check on her kids? You say it was a slight touch of the car so hardly a huge accident where kids might be okay.

If you don't likenwhat your friend posts unfollow, its that simple

Honestly, I would have just pretended not to have seen the status and let her get on with it. She clearly loves the drama so if it irritates you, don’t fuel it.

@FeloniusGru

Honestly, I would have just pretended not to have seen the status and let her get on with it. She clearly loves the drama so if it irritates you, don’t fuel it.

Exactly. When I see a fb real time dramatisation unfolding, I roll my eyes and scroll on.

I have a friend similar to this. Doesn't use Facebook, but she will be asking me advice on how to do a simple thing while we are in a room together. Meanwhile she is also texting several different people asking them the same thing. I think it's to do with making sure people care about her. Obviously an insecurity.

Why does she do this?

Drama llama. You enabled it by sending your dh, exactly the response she was looking for sitting there in the cold. Not to mention another reason to update fb later ...

Just unfollow her.

That's why I hardly use FB.

[quote LizzleTizzle]@LIZS even if I didn't react, it's just so irritating seeing all the 'awww hope you're ok hunni' responses [/quote]
Just don’t read them, mute or unfriend.
Or come off it altogether- you won’t regret it and it will save your sanity.

I can’t fathom why your dh was dispatched to the scene. There was no damage, she’s a known drama llama, she’s already irritating you with her nonsense on fb...yet you played right into her hands.
I don’t get that part.

If the car was ok why didn't she just drive herself home?

Block her!
My adult dd had to after her friend posted that she had a flat tyre on a major road. Pics of tyre, pics of car, pics of passing traffic.
Apparently my dd was supposed to deduce from this that she was to send her tyre fitter boyfriend to rescue her.
After a couple of hours she started being tagged as a useless friend, no one had helped her etc.
Maybe actually asking someone directly for help. Or, you know, phoning your Dad like we used to in the last century (although tbf back in the last century someone would have stopped and offered help) would have saved hours of waiting

Just a thought but why not have a kindhearted but meaningful chat with her about why she does this? Her first priority should have been to get her children and herself to safety away from the road and out of the cold. She obviously has an addiction to social media which has got out of hand and it stops her from thinking logically. Nobody else seems interested in attempting to address the elephant in the room here, enabling her just encourages this learned helplessness.