To think this rude comment was unwarranted? (Supermarket rage!)

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Just popped to the supermarket for a few bits and on exiting the checkouts I come out behind an elderly lady with another woman walking with her side by side (probably her daughter). It’s about 50ft to the exit and the elderly lady is walking extremely slowly holding onto a trolley (no problem with her at all), the other woman with her is walking at the same pace and blocking the walkway (she was rather large) so there’s a queue of us behind them.

As the area widened I walked quickly around them, a good distance from the elderly lady, and sped up to the entrance hearing the other woman shout loudly ‘some people can’t wait for other people can they’. I turned as I heard her (as did everyone else) and wanted to say that she should have moved to the side and walked single file behind the older lady if she had any manners but didn’t bother and just shook my head.

AIBU to think that if you’re walking with a slow moving person, you should move to the side rather than hold up everyone else and then take umbrage if someone overtakes you .

You passed leaving appropriate space, after waiting for the room to do so. What’s the issue? Some people just love the drama OP.

YANBU
Some people think the world is all about them🙄
It isn't.

This would be a trigger for my anxiety no clear path to my doorway exactly why I no longer shop in store😬 I would wait patiently but it’s the people pushing from behind 🤭

You were rude and impatient maybe the elderly lady had dementia, anxiety, mental health issues, confidence is, is unsteady on her feet, has been recently widowed, has been shielding and it was her first time out of the house etc. Or maybe the younger larger lady was being supported by the older lady.
Personally I tend to stay away from people rather than barge right past/get to close to people even in a wide space never mind a narrow space.
Everyone has different circumstances, standpoints, try and be more understanding.

I'm disabled, walk very slowly and painfully and I've been knocked over by selfish, impatient people like you.

Disabled and frail, elderly people shouldn't be made to feel like they're an inconvenience.

YWBVU.

How was OP rude and impatient, @Randomrebel? All she did was to walk quickly past someone when there was space to do so.

To all the people complaining and saying the op was impatient. If this was a parent walking slowly with their toddler, would you wait or overtake? Hmmm I think I know the answer to that one.

I'm disabled, walk very slowly and painfully and I've been knocked over by selfish, impatient people like you.

How have you been knocked over by people walking in a wide semi-circle to get past you?

@Pinkfreesias

I'm disabled, walk very slowly and painfully and I've been knocked over by selfish, impatient people like you.

Disabled and frail, elderly people shouldn't be made to feel like they're an inconvenience.

YWBVU.

But OP didnt knock anyone over- she overtook them with plenty of space to spare. This is a complete straw man argument because it doesnt apply at all

It’s an interesting question though. Nowadays it probably isn’t considered rude. But many many years ago when I was in primary school one of my first teachers (who was herself quite old) taught us that it is bad manners to overtake someone walking in the street because you think they’re too slow, particularly an older person.

So I think once this attitude must have been more prevalent and some people alive today still think like that.

Why has she taken her elderly and obviously frail mother out shopping in a supermarket in the middle of a global pandemic. She may have got the vaccine perhaps but still it's a bit soon to be testing if she can go out and mix with people. YADNBU. My mother has limited mobility and needs a rollater but can manage with a trolley. If someone was behind us leaving a supermarket and I noticed I would most certainly have facilitated you getting past us. my dm mightn't have though so willingly there was a time when she was dynamite with her trolley, just pushed ahead regardless of who was in front of her. It was embarrassing I pretended I didn't know her and hide

Whilst ideally the elderly should stay at home very occasionally they get cabin fever after months of being indoors and some may insist on a trip to the supermarket.

Try and be kind and put yourself in someone else’s shoes.

Why has she taken her elderly and obviously frail mother out shopping in a supermarket in the middle of a global pandemic

Slowness and frailty aren’t synonymous. Presumably her mother wanted to do her own shopping - a bit like the rest of us.

@Pinkfreesias

I'm disabled, walk very slowly and painfully and I've been knocked over by selfish, impatient people like you.

Disabled and frail, elderly people shouldn't be made to feel like they're an inconvenience.

YWBVU.

So even though there was a wide space beside the two ladies you would still expect people walk very slowly behind the ladies rather than walking around them at a space?

@funinthesun19

To all the people complaining and saying the op was impatient. If this was a parent walking slowly with their toddler, would you wait or overtake? Hmmm I think I know the answer to that one.

If I'm not in a rush I dont have a problem, if I need to get somewhere on time then I will always politely ask if I can pass by so icdont miss an appointment, train etc.

I dont just hang about behind and then walk quickly past when space is available. I think that's rude. If you need to pass then just ask nicely. Noone I know has ever said no you can't, most are apologetic or just smile and say sure and let you by.

Drives me nuts. Move people! YWNBU

You are not being unreasonable. I am in a wheelchair and very conscious of the narrow lane at the end of the checkouts. If I have a wheelchair trolley attached to the chair it does slow me down, so I always make sure I move over if I think there’s a queue forming behind me. I’ll probably get my ass handed to me for this comment, but disabled people are sometimes viewed as having a chip on their shoulder for the kind of behaviour displayed in the OP. I can see why.

@EmilyInParis

You can only make an opinion on the tone *@Wheresmykimchi* as you aren't the author of it. You don't get to state it as fact I'm afraid. Soz.

And we all know about opinions and what they are compared with 😝

She was rude OP.

YABU, just stick behind for a bit

YANBU unreasonable, but YABU to take it seriously - she has bad manners, maybe she has the excuse of a terrible day, who knows/cares.

I dont just hang about behind and then walk quickly past when space is available. I think that's rude.

Wow. I had never heard of anything like this. I'm honestly surprised people think like this and that passing is rude. People taking up a whole pavement is what's rude in my opinion.

I guarantee you jostled or startled her in some way. If there was indeed room for you to pass without doing that, she wouldn't have said anything.

Sorry the fatty fat fat ruined your day. How dare she.

Since you don't know if the elderly woman was actually quite steady on her feet, you might be unreasonable in expecting the person beside her to move. My right knee gives out without warning, and I go down. She may have something like that...just fine until she suddenly isn't. HOWEVER...you are not at all unreasonable to think that the snide comment was uncalled for. That is, unless you actually crowded them, which you don't seem to have done. SO...YABU AND YANBU.

I guarantee you jostled or startled her in some way.

What a ridiculous statement 😂😂