[quote Cheeseandwin5]@Cokie3
I think it's very sad that a woman is told she is unreasonable for having a preference when it involves her comfort. To be told her comfort doesn't matter, imo, is quite controlling, and sexist.
Unless you're saying that any DH can tell his DW what to wear and how to have her hair, then its you who is being sexist.
I think most commentators understand that in the same way they wouldn't want or expect a man to tell them how to wear their hair inline with his own personal pleasure, you cant then say its ok for a DW to do it.
If you can only see it as controlling if a man does it to a woman than I think thats maybe you should look at.[/quote]
@Cheeseandwin5 Again, as others have said, how did ASK, suddenly become 'tell'? She isn't 'telling' him. She isn't 'ordering' him. She isn't drugging him or tying him up with the razor in her hand. She is simply ASKING him.
Since when did ASKING you partner to do something, for your comfort become 'telling' or 'controlling'? You can't compare hair, or legs or anything else. Facial hair hurts/grazes, it is very uncomfortable. A man won't get a rash from kissing a woman's pony tail, nor will he from kissing her leg. None of these comparisons make any sense at all, not even remotely, whatsoever. We are talking about a woman's comfort, and you are by proxy suggesting a woman should be forced to be uncomfortable and not address something that affects her comfort. In essence, you are suggesting the woman be submissive, and put up with it, that her comfort is not important. So yes, you and others, are indeed being sexist and controlling.