Do you think most couples who get married in their twenties last?

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I've phrased it clumsily, sorry. Do you think couples who meet and marry in their twenties generally are seen to be more successful marriages?

I can't imagine marrying that young, I'm nothing like the person I was in my early twenties. Broke off an engagement and shudder at the fact I nearly married a massive twat. But that's on me clearly, like I say I was really immature

I'm fascinated by people who marry young and successfully grow together with their spouse, just can't imagine that experience at all! I do think it's seen as the 'right' timeline to aspire to in general.

Met my husband as a teenager. Married in our 20’s. Still going strong heading into the 40’s.

Until my generation (am forties), the average age to marry was early twenties for all known British history. Seems odd to suddenly get patronising about it.

I actually think not managing to commit until thirties is kinda weird

I was married at 25 and divorced by 29, so not in my case!

I married in my mid 20s, we're still together but we've definitely grown apart. This pandemic really has shown me another side of him. I'm not the same person I was. I'm not sure its age related, having children most definitely changed me.

Married at 26, but together for 7 years by that point! Think it must depend how long the relationship was before the marriage as well. Some young couples rush into it, but we didn't.

Perfectly OK! 24 and 21, now coming up for 52 years of marriage and no regrets. Same for most of my friends and relations. You grow up together. I think we are less of a burden to our AC too, but we are lucky.

I've been with OH over 15 years since early 20s, didn't marry til early thirties though so no it doesn't count!
Soppy as it sounds, I do love him even more today than I did then

*maybe it doesn't count

I met him at 18, married him at 21. Silver anniversary last year.
I do think we're the minority amongst people we know of our age. Most around us have at least 1 divorce

@Trinacham

Married at 26, but together for 7 years by that point! Think it must depend how long the relationship was before the marriage as well. Some young couples rush into it, but we didn't.

Following on to say, I'm now 30 and it will be our 11th year together. Still going strong.. and we work together too, have done for the past 7 years.. so we are always together.. some would say thats unhealthy.. wouldn't have it any other way now.. works for us.

We were both 23 and had no good examples of marrige on either side of the family, muliple divorces for our parents and grandparents.
Yet here we are 35 years later. Same goes for both SIL's now at 36 years and 30 years, all of us were below 25 at our weddings.

Married DH at 26 (he was 27). Will be our 9 year anniversary in may.

My parents met at 16, married at 22 and are still together now.

I've got 2 friends, both married in twenties and now divorced. They then both coincidentally remarried and divorced again in their thirties. Don't think it really matters what age you are. Some marriages work, some don't.

Can't remember what show it was on, but it said statistically couples who marry between the ages of 28-32 last longer than any other age bracket.

Married at 22, this year it will be 34 years.

It's going well

I have been surprised in the last couple of years but old school friends who married late teens/early 20s and always seemed so together splitting up (after 25-30 years). I got married at 23 and divorced at 31. Second marriage very different and longer (so far).

I married DH when we were both 22. 9 years married and 12 years together later on this year, 16 years since we first dated and became friends as teenagers. We have 2 wonderful children, DH has a successful job and I've currently given up on part time jobs to go to university. It's great. Couldn't imagine a life without him. Arguments consist mostly of short term irritation and then moving on. I feel incredibly lucky, and know he feels the same. He's quite simply brilliant, but we know we work best as a team.

@Bookworming

Married at 22, this year it will be 34 years.

It's going well

Very much what I hoped to see, how lovely

Met my DH in 2007 when I was 17, we stayed friends until I realised that I was in love with him in 2012, at that particular time I was in a very abusive, manipulative relationship and I was scared to leave because I was raising 2 absolutely lovely children. In 2013 my ex left me for a younger girl after I had been through major surgery which is when I started to move on. By the end of 2013 I was back in contact with my now DH. We ended up dating, getting engaged, falling Pregnant, moving in together and having our first child by 2016. Then in 2018 we got married. Before we got married there were times where one of us or the other thought about ending the relationship as we lived over 100 miles apart and we didn't think it was fair to each other to have to travel so far. There were also times that I got paranoid that something was going on between him and other women which looking back I can safely say I was being a complete fool due to the way my ex had treated me in our relationship (within the first year of us dating he had slept with 3 other girls that I am aware of). But every time I got paranoid or worried my now DH made extreme efforts to show me how much I meant to him and reassure me that I was the only woman he wanted. Fast forward to today and we are crazy in love still, I still get butterflies and fireworks when we kiss as much as it grosses the children out. We are expecting another final addition to the family very soon as in I could quite literally pop right now as my due date is in 4 days. We couldn't be happier and although he is a joker I understand that he jokes with me because he loves me. The day that he stops being the cheeky boy that I fell in love with is the day that I need to start worrying but I don't see that happening for a very very very long time. But we have also made a promise to talk about anything that bothers either of us and to always make up after an argument before we go to bed.

DH and I were 27 and 28 when we married, but 18 and 19 when we met.

Exactly the same for me except we are now mid 30s with 2 dc.

I wasn't ready to marry earlier & was aware that you are a very different person at 21 vs 27. Likewise when I was married I wasn't ready for a baby straightaway & waited till I was 30

I know others who get married after being in a 2 yr relationship & have dc asap but I can't imagine it for myself.

I think it depends on whether you’ve found the right person to marry or not. Regardless of when you marry it really depends on the mutual love and respect you have for each other.

I was going to say being married in your 20s is rather young. But then realised dh and I were in our 20s. He was nearly 27 when I was 29. We've been married nearly 30 years, no plan to divorce!

I dont consider I married young. I was the last of all my school friends who married to marry. There is a huge difference between 29 and 21.

and I was 29, that was meant to say.

but I (now) think it's utterly bonkers to think you'll love the person you're with at that age for life. If you do, you've settled and are probably not truly happy.

Well I did wait a bit but I'm certain that no one else will make me happier. There something very comforting about a shared history too.