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To think a "breathing" sex robot should be illegal

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CrotchBurn · 14/01/2021 18:30

Apparently there is an AI sex robot that now has the feature of breathing (there's a video in the article in the link).

I don't really care how these ultra realistic sex dolls might help people for various reasons. I think in a world where men overwhelming treat women as unfeeling objects (yeah okay NAMALT), further blurring the lines between womens bodies and inanimate objects you can do what you want to is dangerous.

I think they should be illegal.

www.dailystar.co.uk/news/world-news/sex-robot-breathes-incredible-ai-23275331

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cherrypie111 · 14/01/2021 19:52

@BubblyBarbara

You're being INCREDIBLY naive cherrypie. It's an escalation of behaviour: observing porn, enacting with dolls, enacting with real women. Like flashing. It escalates to groping, rubbing, sexual assault, rape.

You’re being incredibly Pearl clutchy. Teenagers play video games where they kill other people.. yes, this escalates to watching documentaries about murder, then murdering animals, then finally humans. Yes, in about 1 in a million cases! We don’t ban games or murder documentaries do we.

It's not an escalation in behaviour

Removal of the doll wouldn't cause more crime or less crime against women. No offender would go, hmm I've exhausted torture porn but ah no breathing sex doll so I won't go and strangle a woman. These dolls are expensive and specialist items.

It's not naive, it's called understanding offender profiles and knowing that a doll breathing won't make a difference.

DorisDaisyMay · 14/01/2021 19:53

Further up thread there is the 'but it might save someone being abused' argument.

You don't get more in touch with your own humanity by practising such inhumanity. Everyone gets better and better what they practise - so watch what you practise.

TheBuffster · 14/01/2021 19:54

Think someone has seen Lars and the Real Girl too many times

MistleTOEboughski · 14/01/2021 19:54

I mean just think how pissed off the robots will be when they become sentient and turn on us.

AllTheCakes · 14/01/2021 19:54

Just googled the doll forum a pp mentioned their DH frequents. It’s all creepy! You can buy used dolls if anyone is interested Hmm

CrotchBurn · 14/01/2021 19:54

Just FYI I've found a very thorough and impartial overview of sex dolls:

Design, Use, and Effects of Sex Dolls and Sex Robots: Scoping Review
www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC7426804/

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cherrypie111 · 14/01/2021 19:55

@titchy

Many who just want to strangle someone won't spend god knows how much on a specialist doll. They will stick to good old fashioned torture porn.

You're being INCREDIBLY naive cherrypie. It's an escalation of behaviour: observing porn, enacting with dolls, enacting with real women. Like flashing. It escalates to groping, rubbing, sexual assault, rape.

Replied to the wrong post by accident but will copy

It's not an escalation in behaviour

Removal of the doll wouldn't cause more crime or less crime against women. No offender would go, hmm I've exhausted torture porn but ah no breathing sex doll so I won't go and strangle a woman. These dolls are expensive and specialist items.

It's not naive, it's called understanding offender profiles and knowing that a doll breathing won't make a difference.

fastwigglylines · 14/01/2021 19:55

@FrankButchersDickieBow

I like to think its realism and maybe these guys can't get girlfriends?

Sweet, but no. They want to fuck an inanimate object every which way, with complete compliance without a woman saying no to them.

There was a documentary about a guy who had realistic dolls and he did treat them as if they were girlfriends. It was creepy.

A real life woman started a relationship with him during the documentary and tried to be accepting as he was upfront about it, but she backed away soon enough. (Can't blame her at all!)

tellthem · 14/01/2021 19:55

if it keeps the weirdos fucking dolls rather than real women/girls, then I'm all for it

VinylDetective · 14/01/2021 19:57

@tellthem

if it keeps the weirdos fucking dolls rather than real women/girls, then I'm all for it
Sadly it probably won’t.
fastwigglylines · 14/01/2021 19:58

@tellthem

if it keeps the weirdos fucking dolls rather than real women/girls, then I'm all for it
It doesn't, though.

It encourages men to treat women as objects, and it desensitises them to it.

As people have said above, it can be part of a pattern of escalation of behaviour.

ChocolateSantaisthebestkind · 14/01/2021 19:58

@cherrypie111 they are already illegal thank god! What is it you think they should not be? There is already data about perpetrators being unable to link images of csea to suffering of real children, so why do you think a doll would be any different?

anicecupoftea19 · 14/01/2021 19:58

It's horrible and quite scary. I won't click the link as I just don't want to know. It worries me 😥

PicsInRed · 14/01/2021 20:00

@BubblyBarbara

You're being INCREDIBLY naive cherrypie. It's an escalation of behaviour: observing porn, enacting with dolls, enacting with real women. Like flashing. It escalates to groping, rubbing, sexual assault, rape.

You’re being incredibly Pearl clutchy. Teenagers play video games where they kill other people.. yes, this escalates to watching documentaries about murder, then murdering animals, then finally humans. Yes, in about 1 in a million cases! We don’t ban games or murder documentaries do we.

Well, we probably would ban them if they were interactive murder dolls with a realistic gurgle function.
fastwigglylines · 14/01/2021 20:00

Take this "breathing" doll, for example. If a man sees strangulation in porn, then acts it out on a doll, he's effectively training himself to be turned on by suffocating women. He'll want to do it with real women: it's going to increase his desire for this kind of abusive behaviour, not satisfy it.

Whatifitallgoesright · 14/01/2021 20:01

It looks so small, like a child-size.
www.google.com/amp/s/www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4925100/amp/Sex-doll-breaks-huge-number-punters-try-out.html

Frouby · 14/01/2021 20:02

I've just completed an essay on the issues of transhumanism.

I wish I had included sex robots, soooooo many issues to discuss.

Affordability would be one I suppose. Would it further increase the gap between the sex lives of working class perverts and more affluent perverts?

PicsInRed · 14/01/2021 20:03

@BubblyBarbara

Did someone just compare having a sex doll to having a playstation?!

Ok let’s compare it to having a punch bag then. According to MN everyone who enjoys a good session on a punchbag will become a domestic abuser if you carry the metaphor across.

Does the punch bag have a face and body which resembles a woman.

If so, YABVU to use that as a punch bag.

viques · 14/01/2021 20:03

@NoOneOwnsTheRainbow

I would have thought it breathed so men could switch on the breathing mode then go to sleep next to it and imagine there's someone beside them. DH has a doll. I thought it was a bit weird at first. But anyone who has spent 5 minutes on the online doll community forums would learn the men who shell out that much for the realistic ones treat them like princesses. Men who fuck over women and objectify them don't generally spend thousands on ordering a custom made doll with a realistic breathing mechanism and neither do people with a breath play fetish. A lot of people could learn something from the doll community.
I should imagine it’s very easy to treat a doll “like a princess” the doll is not going to object to whatever is done to her or have an opinion, disagree with you, tell a friend that she is frightened of you, call the police if you put your hands around her neck or call her names or tell her she is a fucking slut, the doll is not going to want to be an equal, want to have access to her own money, not make secret phone calls, not object to how you live or what you do around the house...... easy to worship someone who doesn’t attempt to have their own life.
Guineapigbridge · 14/01/2021 20:03

Yeeesh it's always a surprise to find out what some people are into.
The pp with the doll-loving DH should start an AMA. Fascinating!

fastwigglylines · 14/01/2021 20:04

@Frouby

I've just completed an essay on the issues of transhumanism.

I wish I had included sex robots, soooooo many issues to discuss.

Affordability would be one I suppose. Would it further increase the gap between the sex lives of working class perverts and more affluent perverts?

Have you published it online? I'd love to read it.
TatianaBis · 14/01/2021 20:04

If sex dolls keep the pervy weirdos quiet, they’ve done us all a favour.

CrotchBurn · 14/01/2021 20:08

the doll is not going to object to whatever is done to her or have an opinion, disagree with you, tell a friend that she is frightened of you, call the police if you put your hands around her neck or call her names or tell her she is a fucking slut, the doll is not going to want to be an equal, want to have access to her own money, not make secret phone calls, not object to how you live or what you do around the house

No but they are predicting that by 2050 sex dolls will be able to feel love and pain and be "sentient" whatever that means

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IWantT0BreakFree · 14/01/2021 20:09

You’re being incredibly Pearl clutchy. Teenagers play video games where they kill other people.. yes, this escalates to watching documentaries about murder, then murdering animals, then finally humans. Yes, in about 1 in a million cases! We don’t ban games or murder documentaries do we.

Rape and sexual assault of women and children is not a “1 in a million” event. There are many, many more violent men who rape women and children than you seem to realise. It’s sadly a very common occurrence. And there is frequently a link between watching extreme pornography and committing these crimes. These men don’t tend to wake up one day and just go and rape someone. Their behaviour escalates over many years. They watch “regular porn” and then when that doesn’t hit the spot anymore they move onto something a bit more extreme. And a bit more extreme. And a bit more extreme. Until the only way they can get off is watching women being hurt. And then when that doesn’t do the trick anymore, they look for something else. The end result being that a women or a child is hurt and/or killed. It’s not hysteria or pearl clutching to acknowledge any of this or to assert that a sex doll (especially the ones that look like children and are made with the sole intention of being penetrated by a penis - and which are sickeningly being defended on this thread!) could very likely fit into this pattern of escalating behaviour.

Stop gaslighting women. What's your agenda?

TheBuffster · 14/01/2021 20:10

No but they are predicting that by 2050 sex dolls will be able to feel love and pain and be "sentient" whatever that means.

Very sad.

Anyone reminded of the husband putting Anita on porn mode in Humans?