To let dd stop piano lessons

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Dd7 has been doing piano for a few months and now is adamant she wants to stop. She started in lockdown with an app and loved it so we got her a teacher after the first lockdown finished.

My issue is that she said she wanted to stop before Xmas but she agreed to go up to Xmas and then decide. She decided to continue and so I let the teacher know she was going to continue. One lesson in and she wants to quit again.

I don't want to let her stop because she's good at it and I think it's a good skill to have but her dad thinks we shouldn't force her.

Starting to get sick of the arguments over it and thinking it's easier just to let her stop.

It might not be relevant but she does do another club that she really enjoys and gets excited about.

Aibu to let her quit?

Stompy I acknowledge that I jumped on your comment and that was rude - dementia is a bit close to home at the moment.

However, your links don't show that "music lessons decrease risk of dementia".

Link one says. "Whether playing an instrument provides protection against dementia has not been established."

Link two doesn't mention dementia

Link three says "The results are encouraging but should be interpreted with caution. Larger, more focussed studies are required to further explore this association, with a particular need to consider the cumulative lifetime quantity of music playing." (my italics).

No study shows that reluctantly and briefly taking music lessons as a child decreases the likelihood of dementia.

As I said in my first comment, there is nothing wrong with just playing music. Many people learn without doing formal lessons and grades, and there are many on-line resources to help a who child just wants to make music.

(child who just wants to make music).

And in fairness, popular science throws up all sorts of things that may/may not reduce dementia - doing crosswords, having regular social contacts, drinking/not drinking. I really don't think it is a compelling argument for inflicting piano lessons on a reluctant child.

merry I'm limited to sharing what is freely available, but there's enough research on the topic to conduct a systemic review of research. The inclusion of the article about brain plasticity is because this in turn links with dementia (and a whole host of other benefits).

But I only linked the article in case you weren't aware.

Feel free to counter with any links around your claims that playing instruments as a child "definitely won't" help with dementia.