I went into a serious relationship under the assumption EX DP wasn’t married. He never told me he was married or had been. I wasn’t naive, I knew he has split from his partner that was it.
Of course I asked if he had ever been married or engaged, as you do in a relationship etc. And he never once told me he was still married to his ex and hadn’t even made any attempt to divorce her. Absolutely nothing. Just mentioned them all as ex girlfriends.
I invested not just emotionally but monetarily into this fraud of a relationship and feel I should’ve been compensated for the complete fuck up he created.
He proposed and made plans and promises on the basis he was single that had huge repercussions for me and DC when the truth was properly revealed that required therapy inc time off work to attend for both me and DC that had later implications including my job loss because DC was so bereft and subsequent debt.
This was not entirely of my own making, I had no way at all to know he was a liar and fraud and shouldn’t have ended up in the mess I was in because of his lies and manipulation.
So yes, I’d love it if there was a way to ‘sue for damages’ over something of that nature especially if it can be proven.
However, realistically it can’t happen and never would. so we women have to behave responsibly and with care to each other and warn each other about these atrocious men and actually pay attention sometimes too.
Because such a system doesn’t exist I did what any angry woman would do and I just messaged everyone on his various social media friends lists a blow by blow run down of exactly what he had done not only to me but other people involved and the harm he had caused.
His step father tore him a new one, his wife reached out for support and was raging he had used her and he quit his job through shame of people talking
I think that was sufficient enough for that absolute shitgibbon but it’ll never bring back the months of stress from a suicidal DC and the years it took to repair that damage.