Anyone dislike where they live???

[Warren45]

And want to move away? We moved from London to Bucks a few years ago. I’d grown up here and regret moving back. Nothing has changed & it will never feel like somewhere I want to be. OH on the other hand loves it. Anyone in the same boat?

afternamechangefail let's put it this way - I listen to what's said in the shops and the streets. I see the homophobic abuse my kids have had to put up with. I know how this town votes. I'm not projecting. And unless you know who I am and live here too, you can't know that I am. Not all places are pleasant.

We just moved from somewhere we grew to hate. Lived there 13 years and never really felt at home. It is horrible feeling trapped somewhere. Thankfully DD was young enough to move and then everything kind of fell in to place.

In a way, I feel better knowing that are other people who don't like where they live : )

I'm also glad I have grown to like the city and country I am in though.
Its just the local area I live in I don't like now. I can change that one day without having to start over somewhere new : )

Moved here (former mill town north of manchester) to be with now ex partner. Kids are in decent school/college, house in a nice area close to countryside, lovely garden, ok neighbours but the local town is a craphole. Thoroughly depressing, sadly many beggars and homeless people, no decent shops anymore, pockets of affluence mixed with extreme deprivation. Can't wait til youngest goes to uni then we can hopefully consider moving back over the Pennines.

@pointythings

afternamechangefail let's put it this way - I listen to what's said in the shops and the streets. I see the homophobic abuse my kids have had to put up with. I know how this town votes. I'm not projecting. And unless you know who I am and live here too, you can't know that I am. Not all places are pleasant.

Very true *pointythings. Mumsnet isn't pleasant either much of the time. Wtf are we doing here. Anyone in a town with unicorns and happy fluffy people in it?

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

You did make me laugh.

Seriously though, I was only being semi flippant. If someone doesn’t like where they live, I think they should change it.

Moving house and not liking it is financially risky and might hurt you, but doesn’t hurt anyone else like flinging yourself into a bad relationship might.

I like moving house and area. Going somewhere new doesn’t worry me, because it doesn’t have to be permanent.

I too hate where I live - in what I consider to be the worst part of Kent. Have never liked it; much of it is urban and run-down - there is no interesting town to visit - and the rural parts are being swallowed up by soul- sapping, new-build housing estates. There is nothing here that interests me - it’s a cultural desert - and I have to drive at least 20 miles in any direction to reach anywhere interesting.

i love my house in a pretty country lane but not the traffic that goes past: HGVs, buses, tractors and speeding cars - unbelievably we have a 60mph limit. I feel very unsafe if I have to walk in the road (there’s no pavement) and, as another contributor has identified, a nice house can’t fulfil you.

i feel isolated and lonely here because people are reluctant to engage with you; in the village shop they sometimes do not utter a word as they scan your shopping!

My only hope is that my husband is going to retire in the near future but it’s uncertain when exactly as he has to sell a business.
My problem is, he doesn’t want to move - he comes from the area - and he says we can’t afford to move; this is ridiculous - if he wanted to go, we’d be going - I know how determined he is when he sets his mind on something.

i don’t know how I can carry on feeling so trapped and imprisoned and miserable; my husband doesn’t want to know because he counters anything I say with the words, ‘Well,, I’m still working and I’ve had enough of that’, so he’s therefore telling me to shut up and put up which I’d be happy to do if he were to say we’d be moving once he retires; that would sustain me!

i know from this thread that I’m not alone but it frightens me that I’m obsessed with getting out but I can’t see how it will happen and I feel so unhappy and unable to talk to anyone about it. I’m not a young person now - although I’m not yet retirement age -and I’m in good health and still feel youthful ; I just constantly feel I’m wasting my life mired in an environment I loathe.

My small town is being used as a dumping ground for all new housing by the Local Authority. They don't have a 5 year housing supply identified so even the massive estates they turn down are granted on appeal.
I wouldn't mind - as someone else pointed out, my house was a new build 72 years ago, but there is zero thought given to infrastructure, public transport, roads, cycle routes etc. We can't get a GP appointment, schools are all full, roads jammed and still they are approving hundreds of extra houses almost every month.

Also the area seems to have become a playground for people with very loud illegally modified cars and motorbikes to race around being as antisocial as possible.

I aim to move but I plan to do a lot of detailed research so I don't end up jumping out of the frying pan into the fire.

I am starting to wonder if the whole country isn't turning into an overcrowded anti-social shithole TBH.

I wouldn’t say ‘hate’, but a couple of years ago I moved from a beautiful area in zone 2 North London to zone 3 South London and it was a real eye-opener. Although my area is supposedly one of the nicest parts of South London!! Saving up so we can move back to North/Central in the next few years.

Moved from London to DH's hometown in rural Sweden. The beautiful picture box house is not worth the fact that it deathly boring and dull and the locals are offended by anything more than 'Hej/hello'

Yes it's awful

My area used to be so much nicer

We will move eventually

I was born in London (Bromley by Bow) grew up in Lincolnshire, moved to Nottinghamshire, Derbyshire, Shropshire, and way too many other places including Central Europe.

Now live in the conurbations of Birmingham and love it, I really do adore it.

I outright own a 4 bedroom, 3 story, 3 bath detached home with gardens, drive, garage and change from £400,000 with less than 2 hours train journey to London in a small, friendly estate. It was a brand new build in 2010 when we moved in and was sold at well under £200k . To buy these homes now, is £395k

Our town has a market, a thriving high street, pubs, dentist, hairdressers, butcher, baker, supermarkets, rural walks, forests, restaurants, cafes, and a train station with direct links to London in about 80/90 minutes.

The locals are absolutely lovely.

Seriously, what’s not to love?

We moved out to the coast from London a couple of years ago. It allowed us to buy a house rather than rent a flat, and there are lots of good points to the area (lovely beaches, lots of history, an arty, creative vibe, big skies, etc)

But... the litter is unreal. The dogshit, everywhere. Anti-social behaviour at the weekends means going into town for socialising etc is a bit of a gamble. It feels as if lots of the town's inhabitants don't give a shit about their area, which I'm sure isn't really true, but so much of it feels unloved. My road itself is lovely, but the walk from the station to the end of our road is...grim.

I miss London and feel isolated. This part of the country feels like a completely different world from what I'm used to, and not in a good way.

I have a little dream about moving back to London when we retire, but we're priced out now really.

I spent my teenage years in Edinburgh and moved back four years ago after living in various locations in England. I can't' settle. I hate living in a city which has become so much busier and more congested. It's very hard to make friends, the weather is awful (high winds /grey skies/rain/no summer). People are generally very unfriendly. I miss English pubs, beautiful rolling countryside that I don't need to spend an hour on the Bypass to reach. It's impossible to park anywhere without paying £4.50 an hour and the traffic wardens are Nazis. The Politics are depressing and worrying . I have honestly just been so miserable, and desperately want to leave and find a town with lots of going on , friendly neighbours and great pubs near lovely countryside. Suggestions welcome .

I live in a great area, it's that great it's been named the best place to live in the north west. It's so expensive and I feel like I'll never be able to move from my tiny little house 😞.

I moved out of Edinburgh this year after ten years of feeling pretty much like you do! I found it a beautiful city with loads of lovely places to walk - and you do have the mountain in the middle. But it's so hard to make friends and I also found the politics quite worrying. I'd love to live in a little town by the sea, with a nice community. If you come up with any ideas, let me know!

I hate where I live. Moved from a big city to south Devon and I couldn't careless if I never see a beach/the sea/the moor again. I hate my house and I knew the night we moved in that we'd made a big mistake. I've been here 25 years and my husband won't move. I'm so depressed and the only getout is leaving him and starting again at 70, well 70 in a few months.

How do you walk out on a disabled man who is showing signs of dementia.

I wish I'd left when I was at your stage.

@ancientgran

Why don't you like Devon.

I would love to go there.

Is it the lack of infrastructure etc

Sorry to hear about your dh

@Peonyside Can you move to another part of Kent, so dh is still the same area, or near to where he’s always lived. Curious to know where you are describing. Ashford? Sittingbourne?

We live in a town in Essex that’s easy to get to London. Decent schools but I’m miserable here. I hated growing up here but we moved back to have some family support for our children with special needs but I’m miserable and sad here.

That's interesting! I wonder where you are now? Yes, a little town by the sea would suit me fine. N Berwick would fit the bill, but it's so hard to find anywhere that isn't extortionately expensive , and the soulless housing estates going up everywhere are not my scene.

Moved to a bungalow a few miles from where we used to live and as soon as we opened the door after picking up the keys i thought "what the hell have we done , I hate this place !"

Been here a year now and still hate it , nothing wrong with it or the area at all . Neighbours are all friendly but there is just something about it

I live in London and I do feel a bit trapped. But I don’t think I’d find anything “better”. There is an abundance of work in my field here (not so much elsewhere) so I can pick and choose between roles. I have 4 airports in easy reach so can get away for the wkend if I fancy (which in pre covid times I did a lot). I also have a lovely house here. The area is ok. High st a bit run down but not too bad in the way of crime/asb etc. But is it my dream place to live? No.

I grew up in Cornwall, hated it, left at 16 and would never go back there to live. Have lived in the Home Counties which was ok but nothing special. I’m not sure there’s anywhere in the UK I would actually love. I’ve done rural and city and in between. They all have their positives and negatives. I’ve never gone anywhere in the UK and thought “I love this place”. A few places abroad fit the bill but my age and circumstances make them an impossible dream!

Love my house, love the scenery, love the sea view...but hate the small minded, parochial, greedy, entitled villagers!

Anyway, I'm moving on Wednesday! YAY!!