Anyone dislike where they live???

[Warren45]

And want to move away? We moved from London to Bucks a few years ago. I’d grown up here and regret moving back. Nothing has changed & it will never feel like somewhere I want to be. OH on the other hand loves it. Anyone in the same boat?

Meant to say and then you are stuck. X

Cottagepieandpeas

I wonder how many more people will be saying the same as you in another few years, loads of people moved out of London to the country because of Covid!! Don’t really thing they have thought about it the countryside can be very boring.

@Nanalisa60
Agree. I had no excuse because I grew up in the countryside so didn’t have any illusions.
It was love that made me move and for that reason alone I’m putting up with it.

Hopefully at some point we can move but highly unlikely it would be back to London.

@Westfacing

I love where I live, inner London, wouldn't change it for the world.

I'm sorry for those who are unhappy with their surroundings - my late mother lived in a very dismal place and I could hardly bring myself to visit. I lived there for two years in my late teens and couldn't wait to get away - would never have returned if mother hadn't lived there.

Surroundings are so important.

I also live in inner London and I didn't like it when I was bringing up young DC's it was always stressful. My marriage ended when they were very young and I was commuting and working full-time. The situation has changed greatly. DC's are all grown up and I absolutely love it now. There's so much green space and a great social scene. It was a long hard slog and now that I can move I don't want to 😳😂

@Megan1992xx

Live by the sea absolutely love it! Would not swap it for the world.

Wrong thread 🙄

Me. I love my home and in many ways I'm lucky to live where I do. But I don't feel I fit in. Have managed to lose more friends here than I've made. Never really felt at home here. Since lockdown, it's become very obvious that I don't belong here. I felt trapped by my job for a long time but now I'm looking to move in the next few months. I've actually been talking about wanting to leave for years and years, but it's only recently that I've started to find the courage to think I'll actually do it. It takes a lot to make a massive move but I can't keep going on like this for another ten years or more.

I would prefer somewhere that's bigger and friendlier. We have a few years to go until DC finish school. But the light is at the end of the tunnel!

Yes. I quite like our house but I really dislike the area. It's fairly dull and featureless and feels like we're in the arse end of nowhere. We came here for work so we're stuck for a while yet.

I don't HATE it but it's not my ideal, it's run down and soulless. The primary schools are good but the secondary schools aren't brilliant. I can't afford to move though so I'll make the best of it.

Hmmmm. I see an awful lot of unfriendly locals/no friends/not belonging threads on MN.

A lot of people seem to be under the impression that it’s the norm to live in the place you grew up, surrounded by close mates & that everyone else is in on some kind of social secret that they’re not.

I really don’t think that’s true for the majority of people.

I like the village I live in, but the nearby town is suffering (although that’s not unusual for town centres nowadays). However, there’s a lot of building work going on and a lot of new estates built.

Have nice neighbours and can walk in the countryside. Also several beaches are within an hours drive if here.

I like the area I live in and love the house, I don't like the actual street though, there are some houses from the 1800 and early 1900's so are straight onto the pavement and a fair few terraced again with no drives so there's always a lot of parked cars in the street, we're lucky to have a huge driveway so don't need to fight for space but it's a pain driving up and down, once we're inside I love it again.

We had it valued a few years ago for 450k, I asked the agent what it would be worth in one of the better roads in the area and he said 550k, I don't know whether to feel peeved that the street is knocking 100k off the value or lucky that the street made it affordable for us.

I am 48 and have lived in the same Essex village since I was 2. I now hate it. It’s not the lovely place I grew up in. Like many placed in the South East it has seen lots of new builds in the last few years. We have had two big estates built with even more smaller clumps of houses being built. Until a few weeks ago we had a lovely view of fields which is now a building site with 9 very expensive houses being built on, its noises now every bloody day. People are spilling out from London as we are only an hours train journey into the city. The problem is that it’s pushed house prices into the extremes. 3 bed bungalows are selling for £500k+ and the new build 4/5 beds around here are going for £800k +. It’s getting ridiculous, buddy, noisy and We are soon just going to be a suburb of our nearest town. Hate it but can’t afford to move further into the countryside as we extended our house and to get something similar in size would cost a small fortune.

I hate my town too. It used to be a small town, now it is not. Its had stuff built on every square inch of land but no one has made any of the roads bigger, getting through town is a nightmare. My once quite road is not wicked busy all the time always noisy.
My taxes are 4 times higher than they were when I bought here and my water and sewer bill has gone up 300% town serviced suck and are basically non existent.
Only plus side is the house prices here are through the roof right now and its a very desirable place to live. I have a ton of equity, just cant move till Dd2 graduates high school.

I struggle to feel at home anywhere. Where I live now is rural enough that we don't have loads of traffic, crime is very low even on the estates, cleaner air and the schools are excellent. But we are also close enough to several major northern towns and cities that I don't get bored, and there's a direct train to London that passes through. On paper, it's ideal but I can't settle and find myself constantly looking on rightmove.

Yes I don't think like it and never have.
It's so incredibly dull and boring and has the world's worst council for taste. Beautiful old buildings were yanked down and replaced with Vile harsh 60s nightmares...
We have to travel but it's close to London and pretty towns and villages. I'm not sure where I would move too that's my problem. We have a good sized house and garden.

I did. I hated our last neighbourhood. We did a full-on relocation - from inner city to small, quaint market town - and its been like a lottery win, I love it so much!

I absolutely hate where we live small village everybody want to know your business, newbies are not really accepted, where near a major company head quarters and a theme park🙄 and although the place is lovely to look at and where in the countryside, the villagers are horrible! We have been here 4 years!! And still regret moving, dd has 1 year left at primary school before she heads of to middle school so will hopefully move in that time frame!

@Glassofshloer

Hmmmm. I see an awful lot of unfriendly locals/no friends/not belonging threads on MN.

A lot of people seem to be under the impression that it’s the norm to live in the place you grew up, surrounded by close mates & that everyone else is in on some kind of social secret that they’re not.

I really don’t think that’s true for the majority of people.

I think I might be the only person to have said those things on this particular thread!

But it is actually the norm to stay close to family and friends, especially for working class people. Plenty of people I know have the same group of friends they made at school, see family regularly, have their mums babysitting their kids and so on. That's not to say everyone in that situation is perfectly happy and feels at home, obviously not. But it is certainly normal. It's only relatively recently, in the last few decades, that it became more common for people to move far away from family - mainly people going to university and not coming back. It makes no sense from an evolutionary point of view to have family dispersed that way, and I do wonder what we as a society lose through that.

Anyway, I absolutely do think it's normal and fine to want to have friends and feel at home in the place where you live. It's not a longing for some weird thing that doesn't exist. It's a basic human need.

@JesusInTheCabbageVan

Stick a pin in a map and try somewhere else.

Looking for a new relationship? Throw a brick out the window and marry whoever it hits.

Is that one of the Top Tips from Viz magazine ?

Yes, I really, really regret moving to the town we now live in! I'd move to so many other places, but dh isn't arsed. It's been the source of a few arguments actually.

But, on paper it's nice here and is good for the kids in terms of safety and schools, amenities etc. We've been here 7 years and I still hate it.

I really relate to this. I also live in a ‘nice on paper’ town - excellent schools, lots of amenities, very commutable etc - and housing’s really expensive for those reasons. But I just have no affection for the place whatsoever.

I live in the second city and don't like the volume of traffic and amount of people that live here . It was ok while I was young but had enough now . We live really close to a lovely park with lots going on and it is a nice area but I would like to move to the north Wales coast or by the sea at least .

@beastlyslumber I agree it seems more normal than I thought to stay in your home town/ move back home. I can see the appeal. Both myself and DH would have an hour commute if we moved there to do our jobs as they are city based. The lack of opportunity in my home town feels stifling!

I've been there. I really really hated where I used to live. I obsessed over Rightmove and was paranoid that we'd get stuck there. I thought I was wasting my life.
We moved last year to a really different area and it has made the world of difference.
We're all happier.
If you can change it, do.

I used to hate where I lived
One was a two bed,miles from anywhere with the most nosey neighbours ever
My abusive ex lived round the corner
Second house-tiny,lived next door to my old school bully,rough area and miles from town
Third house-massive,tiny garden,posh area but we didn’t fit in
Fourth house-we love it-it’s big enough for us,garden is not too big and only downside is it’s a fair walk to work
I’ll never move from here