Anyone dislike where they live???

[Warren45]

And want to move away? We moved from London to Bucks a few years ago. I’d grown up here and regret moving back. Nothing has changed & it will never feel like somewhere I want to be. OH on the other hand loves it. Anyone in the same boat?

Moved back to the UK from somewhere I loved to look after my parents, ended up in the same small market town. I have really tried and it has a lot going for it, but I have never found it so hard to make local friends wherever I have lived (and I have lived in a lot of places). Lots of small minded people and although I like my house and the country side, the lack of like minded people is really a drag. I guess I will move in the future but until the second parent dies I cant really see that option.

Currently living in a soulless small commuter 'town' on the outskirts of London, because this is where DP bought his flat before we met 4 years ago. We're next to a loud, busy, congested main road and I have asthma, so it's not ideal. The flat is small and there is nothing to do in the area, which has made working from home quite stifling. But since house prices have gone crazier than ever, we can't afford anything better. Can't complain really as I'm paying about £300pm less than I would be renting in a house share, and I have my own room and bathroom. I've lived in lots of interesting places with great communities, in the UK and abroad, and just can't believe I've ended up settling in total suburban dullsville. Could be worse though.

You never know, though, do you? It's a risk whenever you move somewhere. I live in a busy, "exciting," cosmopolitan city with loads to do but haven't met people I've felt on the same wavelength with at all. It's definitely down to me in part (I fell out with two different groups of friends - long story), but I've kept trying, all sorts of different things, and just found it impossible. I think one of the reasons I've stayed so long is the fear that it will be the same anywhere I go, that it's all down to my personality or some terrible flaw. But I have loads of friends all over the world - just hardly any where I live!

I live in Bucks too OP & I also hate it. I grew up in Cornwall & am desperate to go back but the grammar schools keep us here (DD in year 10 & loves it)
Where I live is soulless, massively over developed (it wasn’t that bad when we moved here but has got progressively worse), full of wankers in Range Rovers & really boring people who have never moved away & never will & think it’s nice still, even when it’s clearly just a shit hole full of housing estates, cars & pylons.
4 more years and I’m off!

My town is a bit of a shit hole. I live a 10 minute and 25 minute drive away from two beautiful cities though and a 10 minute drive from the beach which i love and we’re surrounded by countryside. So it could be worse, just saving to move to a slightly better area (with less crime basically)

@Toadsinholes

I live in Bucks too OP & I also hate it. I grew up in Cornwall & am desperate to go back but the grammar schools keep us here (DD in year 10 & loves it) Where I live is soulless, massively over developed (it wasn’t that bad when we moved here but has got progressively worse), full of wankers in Range Rovers & really boring people who have never moved away & never will & think it’s nice still, even when it’s clearly just a shit hole full of housing estates, cars & pylons. 4 more years and I’m off!

The irony of an incomer complaining about overdevelopment and cars (bet she has one?), slating people for living where they grew up before saying she wants to move to… where she grew up 🙈

A little self awareness wouldn’t go amiss

Me . Moved three years ago for various reasons and now really regret it. I don’t feel at home here and want to move somewhere else. I spent my teens here but it doesn’t feel like home anymore.
Unfortunately OH is settled now and doesn’t want to move away. I feel trapped. Every day I think about selling and he has agreed to it, but I feel really guilty about causing more disruption. Don’t know where to move to either and don’t want to go into rental. So basically feel trapped.

@lisaandalan - yeah the kids probably won’t go, I’ll probably end up back and forth as my ex lives in Surrey and we get along so the plan is I’ll kind of live in both places. I wouldn’t move my daughters school etc, schooling here is much better so I will have to wait. Planning to buy soon anyway and then I’ll have a base there too

I love my house and I love that I’ve only got to walk one minute from my front door to get to a huge area of woodland and a common which is wonderful for long dog walks.
I don’t feel like I fit in though, our street is very sociable and it’s great that people are friendly and I’m happy to say hello and have a quick chat to neighbours in passing but everyone knows everyone else’s business and I’d prefer to just keep myself to myself. My husband’s the opposite, he thinks it’s great and will happily attend the regular street bbqs and other events.

Living in rural Sweden with Swedish DH and the kids. Moved from London for a better life - property is really cheap and no commuting but It's hell. Frozen hell. -19 on Friday. Local schools are shite. Nobody talks to each other or socialises but priced out of moving back to the UK now

Really mixed feelings about where I live.

Love my house, nice area, two teens in a good school, great amenities. Kids happy.

But I moved back here after living abroad for many years and just don’t feel I fit in. Like a pp, it’s very parochial and I haven’t met many like minded people.

Am here until the kids leave for uni, in 4 years. Then wondering what I’ll do. Worry sometimes that it’s just the grass seems greener elsewhere, and actually if I did move, I’d be equally unsettled.

@Cottagepieandpeas

Yes. Moved from London to a village about 2 years ago. I hate it. There is nothing here.

We did that. Then moved back to London. Best decision ever.

@Megan1992xx

Live by the sea absolutely love it! Would not swap it for the world.

I think you're missing the point of the thread dear.

I hated Eastleigh in Hampshire. Lived there 5 years. It's awful. Just thought I'd actually name a town 😂

I used to really hate where I lived. We bought the only house we could afford in SE London, and we're surrounded by so much crap. Literally and metaphorically. Had to endure the shithole for 6 years whilst actively hating it every day. It's hard!
Now I love where we live. Make plans to move if you can.

@littlepieces

Currently living in a soulless small commuter 'town' on the outskirts of London, because this is where DP bought his flat before we met 4 years ago. We're next to a loud, busy, congested main road and I have asthma, so it's not ideal. The flat is small and there is nothing to do in the area, which has made working from home quite stifling. But since house prices have gone crazier than ever, we can't afford anything better. Can't complain really as I'm paying about £300pm less than I would be renting in a house share, and I have my own room and bathroom. I've lived in lots of interesting places with great communities, in the UK and abroad, and just can't believe I've ended up settling in total suburban dullsville. Could be worse though.

Why didn't you move into your place then if it's so dull ?

@Glassofshloer actually I live in the old part of town which has been there since the 1800s. I’ve also been there 20 years and the development has been since we lived there - and has increased exponentially in the form of huge housing estates that go on for miles & miles.
Moving back home after 30 years away is not the same as never having left.

We moved from a village and house we absolutely loved to another one about 40 mins away, in order for our children to attend a better school. The new house, on paper, is incredible, but neither of us feel settled at all and pine desperately to go back to where we moved from. We keep telling ourselves we’ll go back when they’ve finished school, but 12 years is a bloody long time 😭

I also live in Bucks and love the area but I don't really like my house that much. It was only supposed to be a stop gap and then house prices went INSANE so need to save quite a lot more to be able to move to anywhere I'd actually like to live long-term! I hope to move at some point but am now self employed so will probably have to stay where we are for a few years.

@userxx I had to leave my previous rented houseshare because the landlord sold up. DP asked me to move in, so I did.

Yes, moved to suburb of Bournemouth from London when we retired.
We are now near where wife and I met and worked.
Oh! the dullness of it. Pre Covid could not find people willing to try anything new. Cannot strike up conversations in pubs with anyone sensible or intelligent. They all seem to be in their family and work based groups therefore we have nothing in common.
Decided to move to somewhere with transient population like an established University City.

[quote Toadsinholes]@Glassofshloer actually I live in the old part of town which has been there since the 1800s. I’ve also been there 20 years and the development has been since we lived there - and has increased exponentially in the form of huge housing estates that go on for miles & miles.
Moving back home after 30 years away is not the same as never having left.[/quote]
Yes but my point is you haven’t been there since the 1800s, and the town is building new houses to accommodate people that want to move there (like you once did). It’s like the lady on the news complaining about all the people on the beach… when she’s sat on the beach…

Plus its all very well complaining about houses being built for other people when you already have one yourself. I find it quite mean spirited & ‘im alright Jack just don’t ruin my view’.

@Chikapu ugh, me too. I’d love to go back to the Uk but I’m stuck here. Hate pretty much everything about it

@pointythings

Me. I live in a narrow minded Brexity Tory town where foreigners are frowned upon. A bit of a problem, since I am one. I've lived here for 22 years because it was where we could afford to buy at the time - my late husband needed to be close to work and didn't drive. Now my DC are grown up and at university. They're gay and guess what - this town is full of homophobes too.

I'm working on an escape.

I very much doubt that an entire town is 'brexity' or 'tory' or give two shits about your kid being gay.

You're probably projecting