but it's not fair for the father to be completely without any say in his child.
It is fair, because it is not his body. That is the bottom line.
Men shouldn't be allowed to force a woman to get an abortion but at the same time women shouldn't leave men with no choice if they (the women) wanted to abort.
So basically it comes down to the woman has zero rights, with you. You want it both ways for men. Men shouldn't be allowed to force a woman to get an abortion, AND the woman shouldn't leave the men with no choice? How do you propose the man has a 'choice'? You haven't answered that. You seem to be saying the man doesn't have the right to force her to abort, but he does have the right to a 'choice' for her to continue?
You've just said that women should have zero say, because on both counts, it's about the man, not the woman?
The man has no choice because that is how biology dictates it. It may not be 'fair' that men have no choice, but that is how biology works. The man has no choice at all. Whatsoever. And that is how it is.
I would really love for you to answer how you would see the man's choice implemented. If the woman doesn't want to continue with the pregnancy, and he wants it, then what?