To leave my 2 year old for 4 nights when I go away?

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Potentially (covid allowing) going away in august with friends to a cottage by the sea. It’s a friend’s big birthday and obviously I haven’t seen much of her this year or the others in our friendship group.
I planned to leave my 2 year old with his dad, when I mentioned this to my mum she’s was horrified. I’ve never left him more than one night before...she thought it was wrong that I should be going away without him. I thought this was pretty normal?!
Am I being unreasonable?

It's absolutely fine! Enjoy your break. Child and their dad will enjoy their time.

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable. Too many women lose their own identity when they have children. Because you go away and leave your child with their own parent doesn’t mean you don’t love them. As long as your child will be safe it’s fine! It’s such a short time.

Would your mum be horrified if your DCs Dad went away for 4 days and left him with you?

He is with his dad who presumably is perfectly capable of taking care of his son.

It's totally fine. Fathers can take their of their children, you do not need to be present 100pc of the time.

Enjoy it. It's 4 nights out of 365.

Unless there's a massive backstory of history where his dad has failed to care properly for him then I think your mum is being unreasonable. It's totally normal for a dad to solo parent to let mum have time away with friends!

Of course you should go.

Why not? Just be ready to really miss him though!

Go!in between I'd get your dc used to sleeping at his dad's for two nights to give you both a chance to get used to it,you don't want to spend your holiday fretting about him.two nights is nothing.enjoy your break.

Of course it’s fine. He’s two and he’s with a parent. It’s not like you’re clearing off to Morocco for 3 months to find yourself, and leaving your son alone in the house with £50 for pizza.

Of course it's fine. I was back to business trips abroad from when mine was 7 months. There is no need to martyr yourself just because you have a child.

Totally normal, she is being ridiculous. Go and enjoy it!!

Perfectly a right and proper thing to do. You need a break, children need to get used to more and different independence.
Suppose you were suddenly in hospital then they would all have to get used to it '"under pressure'. This way they can learn in their own time.

Ooh absolutely go! It's refreshing! By night 4 you will probably need to get home though maybe even night 3 from missing him!

Absolutely not unreasonable.

Your mum is unhinged. As a PP wrote, would she get all angsty if your little one's Dad was going away? Maybe ask her that directly if she keeps pearl-clutching?!

Unless his dad is incompetent or dangerous then of course you should go! Enjoy it!

No!

You should absolutely go. Your mum is being potty.

I’m sure he’ll be absolutely fine with his father. Pretty sure I left mine for 2/3 nights for work at that stage (although closer to 2.5 than only just 2 which made a difference fir mine as he didn’t talk till about 25mo)

As you are not planning to leave him with a stranger i don't see why your Mother has got her knickers in a twist. Go and enjoy your long weekend and make sure you book for 2022 as well

I’m sure no one would bat an eyelid if the child’s dad was going away on a stag do for four nights. Go away, have a break, come back refreshed.

I wouldn't think twice about this. Aside from the normal feelings of anxiety and missing my 2 year old like crazy.

I left my two younger ones with dh for a week to take dd away for some girly time. It was awesome all around. The boys had a great time bonding with their dad and dd and I got to spend some much needed quality time, without the boys interrupting. It also made dh realise how much I actually do around the house.

Be prepared to miss them though. The first two days, I FaceTimed them about 10 times!

I could see this being a worry if you were doing extended breastfeeding but I can't think of any other reason.

Leave him, you need a break at times. Is your mum angry because she doesn't like his dad or because she wanted you to ask her.

It’s good for children to be happy left with either parent. And grandparents too.
We had our dgs for 2 nights from very young and now he will have most of the summer holidays with us.