To feel disgusted with myself

[justatealot]

Name change as i'm so ashamed

i'm overweight by a lot, and i've decided that this year i will finally get in shape.
It's been a day into the new year and i've already binged at least 2000 calories with chocolate and crisps and sweets
I feel so pathetic.
Please help

That seems a reasonable approach, @ancientgran, especially if you use some of the averaging calculations I mentioned earlier, and a large pj size, for comfort.

You with us, @justatealot?

Ok OP the big belly is connected to your head being full of big negative thoughts. Don’t walk tonight but have a bath, pamper yourself, love yourself & either put calming music on or a positive podcast or YouTube video about liking yourself. Once your head is more positive you can start controlling your impulses. Drink water every time you are about to have a go on/ no don’t moment over food. Eat slower & close your eyes to enjoy the taste- really think about food WHILE it’s in your Mouth. Walk somewhere everyday & things will start to fall into place. Accept it’s a long term step by step process & if you get lost, just head back to the path- love don’t hate yourself

I was you 6 months ago. Then i found @biwi and the bootcamp threads (sounds terrifying, it isn't) lost 3 stone in 4 months and am continuing to lose now. Its changed my life. Good luck OP. Don't be ashamed. This isn't your fault. I used to be so horrible to myself too xx

I have tried loads of diets.

I have no problem sticking to diets but they never work. Start off losing weight. Then i plateau then I start putting weight on. Because they are low calorie and I am hungry they soon fall by the wayside as I can’t keep up feeling starving and putting on weight.

About 6 weeks ago I started on my own diet.
I don’t actually like sweet stuff so I didn’t miss cutting out sugar but I did cut out stuff like bread, rice and pasta.
When I feel like it I have 3 crackers.
So far I have lost 2lb every week and I have no problem in sticking to it.

It’s probably not the healthiest diet given how much olive oil I am getting through but the weight is coming off.
Greek yoghurt with a mixture of seeds. Lots of cheese omelettes with grilled tomatoes and mushrooms, salads with vegan burgers and lots of smelly cheeses and olives

The thing is after a couple of weeks I stopped feeling hungry if I only had just 1 meal each day.

If you are going on a long term diet I would make sure it is something you can stick to

I got two new pyjamas for Christmas Eckhart so I won't look like a total slob. Yes we can work up to a February start, I mean you don't just do a marathon, you do a bit of training first. So while I'm eating the chocolate I will do some healthy meals, make sure I get lots of veg and I'll be raring to go in Feb. So come on justatealot we could be like the Three Musketeers (or even the ten Musketeers if we aren't the only ones in training) in February, look on January as training for the marathon and then we will do the serious work in February. You aren't failing, you're training for the big event.

I'm going to set myself a challenge for tomorrow to not eat chocolate during the day, I can look forward to eating some after dinner. I'm not going to worry about how much, just get used to not having any in the day.

I might get some knitting out, I don't snack so much if I'm knitting as I want to keep my hands clean.

Good luck.

At the end of august this year I had a health scare. I was the heaviest I've ever been, 21st 7lb. I was horrified and knew I HAD to do something if I wanted to live a long life. I packed up all the sweets, chocolates, crisps etc, gave them to the food bank and filled my fridge and cupboards with healthy alternatives, fruit and veg.

Yesterday I weighted 18st 4lb. It's been hard, there have been days where I've definitely wobbled off the wagon, but I hit back on again. I asked people to not buy me chocolate for Christmas, but had the day off and enjoyed my Christmas dinner and a mince pie.

I used some Christmas money to buy a second hand bike and on Tuesday I cycled 10 miles. I try to get in 10,000 steps a day and, most importantly, I am kind to myself.

If you really want to lose weight, you can and will, but it's not a quick fix, it's a slow and steady race that eventually you will win. However, if you aren't in the right place or mindset, then it's all too easy to give in to temptation. It's not just about changing what you eat, it's changing the way you think, behave and act.

Lock down has been hard because there's not been anything to do and a lot of people have turned to food for comfort, but I've found it easier as there has been hardly any socialising or meals out for celebrations etc. And I'm exercising more as there is little else we can do.

Be positive, and take it one day at a time.

@Dawnlassie

Also dont do any crap like for example the cabbage soup diet etc or intermittent fasting. It does not teach you good nutritional habits and isnt going to help in the long run.

Build a nutrition plan eating mainly veg, lean meats, nuts, fruit, seed and some rice/pasta/potatoes. Try and cut out most processed shit and do a little exercise.

Do not try and overcomplicate something that is essentially rather simple.

Oh my goodness what nonsense.
Intermittent fasting is simple. It is a great way of losing weight. It is easier than feeling restricted all the time which is very hard. It is very healthy to fast. The health benefits are well known. Also, You dont need to buy anything special. No washing, weighing, chopping etc... once you are in the habit of fasting you will forgive yourself for a "bad day". You can socialise normally.

Intermitent fasting is simple and so far from being crap. It feels far more instinctive than restricting every day.

Please do not listen to people foolish enough to think IF is crap. Words fail me. It is literally the solution.

Don't have anything else today

Ignore this. Have something wholesome like a bit vegetable soup. Nourish yourself. And feel happy to have done so. You deserve kindess.

@Takingontheflab sorry to derail, but I can't find the bootcamp thread, please can you send me a link?

@theotherfossilsister

Don't have anything else today

Ignore this. Have something wholesome like a bit vegetable soup. Nourish yourself. And feel happy to have done so. You deserve kindess.

But are you being kind to yourself eating as some sort of reward?

You should enjoy the food you eat. The Op chose to eat a whole load of crap which hopefully she enjoyed. She’s done her calories for the day.

Tomorrow is another day. She can have the nutritious soup for lunch and fully enjoy it because it’s a good healthy meal and she’s hungry.

Beating yourself up isn’t going to help anything OP. We all overindulge from time to time, it happens. It doesn’t mean you’re doomed or that there’s no coming back from it. But putting too much pressure on yourself means you’ll inevitably spiral when you don’t live up to your strict expectations. Try to be kinder to yourself if you can and take it one day at a time.

OP - I'm also 5'2" & in July weighed 180 pounds, so I know exactly how you feel. I very suddenly had to make dramatic changes to my diet due to having to go on insulin for my diabetes. My blood sugars were horrific which meant my cholesterol was critically bad. My GP was brutally honest & said if I didn't make changes immediately, I was on the path to an imminent heart attack!!!

I concentrated on sugar content. Didn't worry too much about calories. Look for foods that have 5g or less of sugar per 100g (except yoghurts, which can have less than 10g per 100g so muller lights are perfect).

This was the biggest change I made & I am now 156 pounds with very little exercise. I have dropped from a size 20 to a size 14/16.

Honestly dropping the sugar has made such a massive difference to me. It's hard going & takes a bit of adjustment but now I don't miss sweet treats much at all. There are also thousands of online sugar free recipes for sweet treats where you use a plant based sugar substitute like Stevia.

Another good tip was not to eat too late at night & find something to keep yourself busy & distracted so you're not reaching for the biscuit tin. And simply don't have those types of food in the house. But allow yourself a once a week treat, something to look forward too.

Good luck OP, you can do it

Had this same convo with somebody earlier. We both agreed it's still Christmas/holiday and you start properly on Monday 😉

Look for RebelFit on Facebook. Great sensible advice on there.

I know it's not generally advised, but... If I were "kind to myself" I would still be fat. Some people work on anger (I know, therapy might be needed) and I always feel like I am doing something wrong when reading threads like this because I don't do kindness to myself unless it's a reward. I wasn't angry or disgusted with myself as Me as a person. I am separating fat from personality, if you see what I mean. So after thorough telling myself off, I now hat Fat Me and Me. So when Fat Me doesn't want to work out, Me tells that chubster cry baby to move that arse. Same if FM fancies something over the allowance. Every time I pass milestone Me reminds my FM that if FM wasn't bit of a dumdum, and started in x year, we would have been done now. Even my workouts are powered by anger and adequate angry sounding music. No way could I workout to something nice and happy. That anger powers me.

I sound unhinged🙈 I don't know if it makes sense? Basically some people need to be nice to themself, but some could harvest that anger and direct it where it needs to go and successfully? Only few I guess though.

Same op. I have drastically cut back on sweet stuff. Having 'overweight' printed all over my midwife notes is really humiliating.

I think a lot of stuff we're told about being/getting in shape is rubbish, and we all have to find a way that works for us.

I haven't read all the replies so forgive me if this is a repeat. Please look at team rh. They're so sensitive amazing. Its really changed my life and outlook. Far far cheaper than most slimming groups. Its brilliant

I find this advice problematic because it's not me that buys the stuff. It's DH. Family packs of crisps every other day! Chocolate biscuits, really fatty crackers for cheese. His argument is: don't eat them if you want to lose weight but that is hard if you are on restricted calories and really hungry. I find it easier to resist junk other people bring into the house if I'm 'healthy eating' rather than dieting

Yes this can be problematic but there is a relatively simple solution. Firstly you need to get your partner on board with the fact you wish to lose weight and thus need to avoid junk food. Once they understand this then go halves with them on a lockable file. The sort of thing you might use to keep important documents set aside. They then keep thier food locked away and you never need eat it. It sounds a bit silly but it does work, assuming they dont leave the key around obviously.

Nobody ever changed for the better from a place of self hatred!!

Agree wholeheartedly. You'd never put up with other people saying what you've said about yourself

I watched a documentary years ago on diet. There is definitely an emotional response to food. So it figures you can't switch it off overnight just like you can't stop loving an awful partner even though you know they are bad for you.

I've found a gimmick is a good way to trick my brain, juicing, pints of water before meals. But whatever the latest health fad is. Read anything on the evils of processed sugars. After a few weeks your mindset changes and you get more resilient to the cravings.

Maybe start by cleaning out the cupboards. If you really don't think you can resist but want to, then throw or give away high calorie foods. If they ain't in the kitchen you can't eat them.

Can't face exercise? Get one of those mini trampolines, stick on your favorite music and dance on it for an hour. You will sweat horribly but nobody will see and you will feel great afterwards for trying.

Don't beat yourself up. Any hiccups are only little lessons on how to adapt to get what you want.

Intermittent fasting is simple. It is a great way of losing weight. It is easier than feeling restricted all the time which is very hard. It is very healthy to fast. The health benefits are well known. Also, You dont need to buy anything special. No washing, weighing, chopping etc... once you are in the habit of fasting you will forgive yourself for a "bad day". You can socialise normally

Intermitent fasting is simple and so far from being crap. It feels far more instinctive than restricting every day

Please do not listen to people foolish enough to think IF is crap. Words fail me. It is literally the solution

OK, well if you intend to go through a routine of fasting on and off for your whole life feel free. But having been involved in the health and fitness sector for about 15 years it is NOT the most sustainable way of doing things and it can have some fairly serious health implications.

I dont deny that IF works in the short term but in my mind one of the main benefits of weight loss is that you create a healthier body as a result.

So if you are intending to carry on with your fasting long term you might want to read up on how it can lead to hypothalamic amenorrhea, increased cortisol levels and hormonal imbalance.

Once you get into the habit of eating the right food in the right quantity then you can eat relatively normally and it will be better for both your weight and your health.

@Dawnlassie

Those things are to do with long fasts, aren't they? Rather than regular short fasts, as recommended to intermittent fasters?