Was I u to expect this ?

[notsureifiam]

Last night had a small accident broke a glass a cut my hand a bit. Cried out as I did it. Audible smash and I cried as tbh had a shitty few days
Dh was upstairs I called that I’d had an acident and he just ignored me
15 mins later he walks in and I said why didn’t he come and he said ‘you’re an adult’
I feel really hurt he’s acting like I was being a needy child told me I was whinging

[quote wetasstenalady]@princessjasmineofagrabah how hurt is someone logically going to be from dropping a glass? It's hardly like hearing someone falling from the loft or a car crash outside [/quote]
It doesn’t matter how serious the injury. It’s hoping that someone you live with has a little bit of compassion and empathy to at least check you are okay.

I knocked into a pan rack last week sending them all clattering (very loudly) on the floor. My DS (3) ran into the kitchen and asked ‘mummy, are you okay?’. I don’t expect it from him. I don’t need anything from him. It’s no big deal and easily fixed but I can’t tell you how proud I was that his first thought was to have enough compassion to check that someone he loves is okay.

[quote wetasstenalady]@princessjasmineofagrabah how hurt is someone logically going to be from dropping a glass? It's hardly like hearing someone falling from the loft or a car crash outside [/quote]
"Logically" she cut her hand. Luckily mildly. Do you know how many nerve endings abs arteries are in your hands? It could easily have been really serious. I seriously hope with your attitude to caring for other human beings welfare, that you don't have children.

Oh get a grip @princessjasmineofagrabah what a drama queen you are 🙄your poor family

A child I would say oh dear dear look you are okay . Having to do it with a grown adult sounds exhausting

@wetasstenalady

Oh get a grip *@princessjasmineofagrabah* what a drama queen you are 🙄your poor family

My poor well loved and looked after family 😅

We always run to each others aid. And we have signals for if we're choking. Although I'm just realising that it's mainly me that gets injured, I'm very clumsy. I've gotten in the habit of calling out im ok straight away because he rushes and I dont want him to get hurt because I've just punched the countertop trying to open a bottle.

I would be surprised if he didn't check on me. Even when I'm cooking and burn myself he still calls out to ask if I'm ok even though it's the 10th time that week.

@wetasstenalady

A child I would say oh dear dear look you are okay . Having to do it with a grown adult sounds exhausting

Asking if a loved adult is okay after an accident is okay is exhausting?

I’m not sure if I should pity your tiring life or your family.

I hope the OP returns to see how many people see her point!
OP, I would expect my husband to come and check in if he heard a crash. I always do; as a PP said, it's easier to tidy away the mess with two.
I was frankly surprised at all the unsympathetic responses - perhaps it's just another reminder of how different we all are! However, it's nicer if your spouse is on the same page.

OP, I don’t think you’re being at all unreasonable.

Obviously a dropped glass probably isn’t going to result in a life threatening injury, but if it has made you cry then there’s clearly something else going on. The person you’re supposed to love more than anyone else is in the kitchen in tears. What normal, decent person doesn’t go and give them a hug, help them clean up and tell them it doesn’t matter? Especially knowing you have pnd and are perhaps feeling beyond shit at the moment.

The very least I would expect is a response along the lines of ‘are you ok? Or do you need help?’

I slit an artery in my finger about 15 years ago from a broken wine glass, and no it wasn't life threatening but needed a trip to a&e for stitches

That must have been scary! But very rare to slice an artery on a wine glass. Cuts to the fingers always bleed a lot. The last time I cut my finger there was blood running down to my elbow as I was trying to hoover up the glass then blood getting all over the hoover! It was annoying more than anything as I was worried DC would step on the glass. Blood from an artery would be squirting and pinkish (probably spraying the walls) so I’m sure OP would have screamed for him to come immediately, not shouted that she’d had ‘a little accident’. Or she’d have run upstairs with her hand wrapped in a towel.

As he came 15 mins later maybe he just didn’t want to clean up the broken glass?

I have a friend who always seems to break things and cut herself/stub her toe/bump her head on cupboards etc. I don’t run to her every time she has a minor injury. If she told me to come help her or sounded distressed I’d come, but she usually just swears and gets on with it!

No you’re not being unreasonable op. On a side note, if you’re suffering with pnd you do need help from a gp. Sadly, compassion for fellow humans seems to be diminishing, dressed up as attention seeking, surely anyone with half a brain can see this is not what’s happening here. Anyone hoping for an “are you ok?” after any kind of accident isn’t attention seeking, seeing the responses you’ve had op make me worry, I know the difference between attention seeking and those who don’t, it worries me that others can’t see the bigger picture here. If anyone, family, friend or stranger hurt themselves I would check they’re ok, wtf are we becoming?

If someone in your house is injured, you check on them and see if they need help. It’s just common courtesy. Even if it’s just putting a bandage on at a difficult angle, sometimes another person is helpful.

I can only comment from the perspective of what my partner and I do. I am very very clumsy. Usually not a week goes by without me injuring myself. However minor we'll always ask (or shout if one is upstairs, one downstairs) if the other needs anything. I cut my hand as a glass broke as I was washing up. Blood was pouring out so fast I'd soaked the plaster prior to attaching it. Personally I love being in a relationship where we both check each other is ok and ensure they don't require anything in instances like this. And of course providing the thing they require wherever possible.

OP ignore all the cool wives here,they are a desperately sad bunch and don't impress anyone This however annoys me. There have been a few "cool wives" comments. That term generally tends to be misogynistic. Here I think people have different levels of communication and care they are comfortable with.

OP, I don't think YABU.

One night I don't know what happened but I had a bad night and smashed about 2 glasses and my late grandmothers cookie jar. My partner made a joke about me being clumsy but got up and told me to sit down and he sorted it out for me. The next day I came home and he had fixed the cookie jar.

It depends what your relationship is like but if he knows you are stressed and upset he should have came to see if you were okay or needed assistance atleast. I hope you are feeling better and if you're not please talk to someone, but it is okay to let it all out sometimes x

So you had an accident, cried and your DH ignored you? That’s horrible I’m sorry he did that.

Posters calling you needy and attention seeking have an extraordinarily low bar. If you can’t expect your husband to check on your well-being then you’re relationship is pretty shit.

@GlowingOrb

If someone in your house is injured, you check on them and see if they need help. It’s just common courtesy. Even if it’s just putting a bandage on at a difficult angle, sometimes another person is helpful.

This

At least there are more YANBU!

There are so many really nasty people on this thread.

@PegasusReturns

So you had an accident, cried and your DH ignored you? That’s horrible I’m sorry he did that.

Posters calling you needy and attention seeking have an extraordinarily low bar. If you can’t expect your husband to check on your well-being then you’re relationship is pretty shit.

Yes this. extremely low expectations.

Oh holly

I believe i owe you an apology...i didnt know the backstory on the recently deleted thread

Apologies to you for merailing notsure

I’m surprised by the replies. If someone breaks something of course I check if they are ok and if they need help. They might be capable of cleaning up but it’s not easy to clean broken glass and dress a wound yourself. I can’t imagine anytime when we wouldn’t go and help each other in that situation.

@RufustheSniggeringReindeer

Oh holly

I believe i owe you an apology...i didnt know the backstory on the recently deleted thread

Don't be daft! Nobody can keep track of every poster’s name.

Ok 🙂

Reading this thread with some of the responses to the OP's situation reminded me of this scene from Spy for some reason. It's a very peculiar MN trait, this need to prove oneself too cool to need any kind of sympathy or indeed basic human behaviour from another person.