Was I u to expect this ?

[notsureifiam]

Last night had a small accident broke a glass a cut my hand a bit. Cried out as I did it. Audible smash and I cried as tbh had a shitty few days
Dh was upstairs I called that I’d had an acident and he just ignored me
15 mins later he walks in and I said why didn’t he come and he said ‘you’re an adult’
I feel really hurt he’s acting like I was being a needy child told me I was whinging

Yeah YANBU. Some of the replies on here are horrible. I’m sure OP was capable of looking after herself but it doesn’t mean her partner shouldn’t have checked on her, it’s basic consideration and care towards someone you love.

I'm tough as old boots and notorious for not asking for help when I could do with it but I'd feel exactly the same OP. It is basic consideration to ask if someone is okay when they e 'had an accident'. Rangoon hit the nail in the head. I'd ask a stranger / workmate / child / parent / even someone I was criss with if they were okay in this situation. Your DH was being a prick.

• someone I was cross with, I meant. Also, hit the nail ON the head... bloody fat fingers.

I would have thought that you would have been too busy, trying to clean,and patch up your hand after a small injury, and not be crying about such a thing, or wanting some attention.

@1forAll74 I would have thought that what with suffering from PND, the last thing the OP needs is a random on the internet trying to shame her. Did that dig make you feel big and clever?

@1forAll74

I would have thought that you would have been too busy, trying to clean,and patch up your hand after a small injury, and not be crying about such a thing, or wanting some attention.

Yes, awful woman wanting some attention from her own husband! You are a superior human!

I'm so glad I'm not in the sort of relationship where loving concern is seen as 'fawning'. Urgh there are some vile people on here.

Ridiculous. I chopped my arm off in a blender and managed to apply some steri strips with my other hand. Before continuing making dinner.
YANBU, he absolutely should have checked you were ok, hope you are feeling better. A cry sometimes helps too.

Hope you're ok OP, some horrible comments on here. I would go and see my DP was ok immediately because you know, I actually care about him and he would do exactly the same. And do you know what I wouldn't care if it was just a paper cut or a stubbed toe. I don't necessarily NEED him to come -( I walked two hours on my own with a broken jaw and sternum which is a whole other story) but that doesn't mean I wouldn't want him to.

And it's ok to cry if you hurt yourself - I bit my tongue the other day and cried.

The MN obsession with slating women for being "attention seeking" (ie, wanting to be recognised every now and then and not content to live in a permanent state of invisible martyrdom) is always tedious, but it's a new level of shithousery to start complaining because someone might want attention from her own husband.

Of course you are an adult and can manage, but any decent person would ask if you are okay. It doesn’t cost anything to just show someone that you care about their wellbeing.

I would have rushed down immediately to make sure it wasn't one of those nice glasses that we only get out at Christmas.

Not really. We use them at other times too.

YANBU - I hope your hand is okay now? Anyone who cares would check you were okay, especially if you called out for his help. It should not matter if it was a tiny splinter or a broken bone, if you wanted his help then he should have come or at least called out "are you ok?". It's not attention seeking it's just basic kindness.

I'm shocked by how many horrible comments there are here. Disgusting really.

@Countdowntonothing

I don't think you are unreasonable. DH would at least poke his head round or shout You ok? Then most likely he'd have cleaned up the glass while I sorted the cut out. Yes I'm capable, and obviously if I was alone I'd sort it myself but why wouldn't you help your partner if you're around?

Quite. Even my ex (with his many faults) would do exactly that if I cut myself.

Yesterday I needed something off the back of the draining board and dislodged the keystone chopping board that was holding up DP's entire edifice of baking trays, saucepans, cooling racks and utensils (he does the washing up). Everything was going to come tumbling down, so I held on and yelled - DP had his headphones on - HELP!! He appeared round the door, grinned and said 'you screamed?' Then came and sorted it while I did the supporting.

If I called out '[DP] I've cut myself', he'd be there in a flash. So shoot me for not being a growed up. (I don't say anything for paper cuts, I'm very brave like that )

OP I wouldn't be happy if I were you. You deserved some TLC. (Were the shit few days anything to do with him?)

I cut my finger with a knife the other week. I can 'look after myself' but DH & DS jumped up to help, get plasters etc.

YANBU - if it had been him cutting his hand he'd likely have demanded your undivided attention.

It depends how regularly this happens. I live with some one clumsy who over reacts to such small things so I've given up going to check on them every time they shout ouch. I generally only go now if I hear a massive thud from the room they're in, just incase they've passed out.

Blimey it's coming to something when a person says they suspect PND, and have had a bad few days, added to that they cut their finger on glass... To post on here, and receive the horrible, gloaty responses that they have is really shitty.
So much so, they now wish they'd never posted.
OP you were not unreasonable to expect your husband to come and see if all was OK, it's sad he didn't.
If I were you I'd get in touch with your Health Visitor or GP in the New Year to discuss your possible PND assessment.
I hope your hand is feeling better. Take care xx

People are so mean on here sometimes. Even after u made it clear that you are struggling. I guess the whole 'be kind' has gone out of the window already.

If I was in the house, heard a smash and someone cried out my instinct would be to jump up and check on them. It's the decent thing to do. YANBU in any way.

I hope you are ok xx

@HollowTalk

There are some right dicks on here.

Totally agree. It's such a sad place sometimes. Why on earth can't we all just be kind. It's beyond me x

@lughnasadh

You cut your hand on a glass?

Unless it was an artery, you ought to be able to cope.

Attention seeking is very unattractive.

Why do you have to be so horrible. Serious question...why? Why do u feel the need to deliberately try and make someone feel so small?

@wetasstenalady

But why exactly do you as a grown up need someone to show concern for a very minor injury? Those saying their DH would cuddle them and make them a cup of tea I really am shaking my head at

I'm shaking my head at you being such a bellend - each to their own. I feel sorry for you that you think it's odd to show care if someone is hurt. Did no one tell you they loved you as a child or something?

I think there are a lot of women out there whose husbands ignore them a lot and instead of confronting this as the problem it is, they've decided to martyr themselves over it and decide it's a sign of their moral character rather than a complete lack of gumption. Obviously they can't then let a woman own that she's upset about being ignored by her own husband because the house of moralistic and self-congratulatory bullshit cards would then fall down around them, so they have to prop up their narrative by accusing OP of such heinous crimes as being "attention seeking". Because nothing is worse than a woman who won't just accept being invisible and unacknowledged, right?

@princessjasmineofagrabah how hurt is someone logically going to be from dropping a glass? It's hardly like hearing someone falling from the loft or a car crash outside