aibu to not understand why dog owners let their dogs sleep with them in bed?

[firthy85]

to get things straight i am a pet lover and grew up with many different dog breeds. some with great personalities of their own and good company but they are pets at the end of the day right?. i never had any problem if a dog wanted to sleep in my bedroom but they had a dog's bed. surely encouraging a dog to sleep in your bed is setting the dog up for a fall? god forbid something ever happened to you as the owner and the dog had to be rehomed it could be a nightmare for the dog's new owner if they are strict about dog/human boundaries. so what do you think?

chardonnay you are wrong. Clearly it is Very Important that rank every individual in your life AND be clear with them where you have ranked them.

Mother, I love you but not as much as I love my husband.

Husband, I love you but not as much as I love the kids.

Kid 1, I love you but not as much as I love Kid 2.

You cannot simply all get along, making compromises to create an environment in which everyone gets what they need and some of what they want. That would be madness!

Clearly not, and letting dogs sleep on the sofas and beds is the beginning of that slide into utter chaos.

@ChardonnaysPetDragon

Clearly not, and letting dogs sleep on the sofas and beds is the beginning of that slide into utter chaos.

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My dog disagrees and loves sleeping under the covers

Mine isn't allowed upstairs or on furniture. No problem with those that do allow that but it's not for me.

We have four rescue dogs. Before them we had four others. We absolutely adore them and they are very happy dogs. They are not allowed upstairs where the bedrooms are however. Purely because we don't want dog hair on our bedding as it's a nightmare to remove. Downstairs they can go wherever they like. They have several beds and often sleep on the (leather) sofas. For us it's a matter of hygiene - dogs run outside, lie on dirt, etc. We don't want whatever they bring inside, to go on our beds.

Omg. Amazing photos, thank you to everyone for posting pics. I know I'm missing the point of the thread but the photos are making me v happy.

Ours sleeps downstairs but races up when we go down to make tea and snuggles in.

@ChardonnaysPetDragon

Clearly not, and letting dogs sleep on the sofas and beds is the beginning of that slide into utter chaos.

It explains so much. My own dog sleeps where he likes, but I gather it is only a matter of time before he forgets all his obedience and eats my left leg when I'm not looking.

Thinking about it, we had dogs ( one at a time) when I was Young and lived with parent, they also had dogs after I left home. Dogs were never, ever allowed upstairs and definitely not on the sofa. I think it was quite usual in those days to treat a dog like a dog and not an honorary human. I think habits have changed since then and it's maybe older people who find it pretty disgusting. I know I do.

One of my dogs likes to be the little spoon at night so I let him. He is warm and only snores a little bit. The other one is much of a cuddler, prefers her own space but sometimes hops up for some belly rubs. It doesn't bother me and it doesn't do them any harm so I don't see the big deal really.

Their muzzles are full of bacteria since they spend a lot of their time sniffing and licking gross things, including their own butt. If they come arcoss a dead hedgehog or a pile of vomit or a another dog's poo then they will smell that.. from close enough to get some of that on their face. Wiping their muddy paws after a walk is well and good but the crap thar you cant see with the naked eye is stuck between the hairs on their muzzle and in their mouth.
I wouldnt want that in my bed.
They also fart and smell even if they have regular baths.
I like dogs. I grew up abroad in a village with huge gardens and land for the dogs to run around. Everyone had dog, mostly to guard the land. They all had their own kenels on the porch. It is unheard of to let them sleep in your bed.
The love that people here in the UK have for their dogs is on a different level.
Each to their own.

Mine sleeps half and half, a couple of hours with us and then next to our bed. That was never my intention and tbh I was against it, BUT he is a rescue who absolutely loves us and seeing him come a long way thanks to human contact and all the love he's getting from us has made me change my mind. No regrets, he keeps me lovely and warm at night 🥰

@Elcantador, I’m sure you’re right about bacteria on dogs. But I can’t see or smell it so it’s easy for me to ignore 😆

I very rarely get ill, despite sharing my bed with a filthy hound. 🤞

@ShesMadeATwatOfMePam

I read some threads on here and wonder why some women let their bloke sleep in their bed tbh.

😂 best comment!

I’d rather have my dog than half of the men I read about on here. He’s more respectful and more housetrained than the average AIBU man!

Wiping their muddy paws after a walk is well and good but the crap thar you cant see with the naked eye is stuck between the hairs on their muzzle and in their mouth.

If you're that worried about germs, surely you wouldn't have a dog in the first place? Unless you never let the dog in your home, you can't stop the hair and "germs" getting in.

Mine sleeps in my bed, but occasionally in her own bed. My mums the same, both my sisters dogs sleep downstairs. All dogs are happy

It’s down to personal wishes

Not died yet by having a dog on my bed , nor when they lick the plates clean.

What's with all the dog bashing threads atm?!? If you don't want your dog in bed with you then don't, if you do then crack on!!

I feel so much safer with my dog next to me. If she’s hot she’ll move to the floor, sometimes she’s sleeps in her bed next to mine. Unfortunately I suffer with nightmares but somehow my dog always knows when I’m having one and she gently nudges me awake then snuggles her head into me until my heart rate has calmed down. I don’t know what I’d do without her.

@SheSaidNoFuckThat I was thinking the same thing.

I'm a dog lover, but haven't had a dog since DH and I got together 20 years ago as we both work FT and are out of the house 9 hours a day. But when I was a teen and my mum only worked PT our golden retriever was not even allowed upstairs never mind in our bed. Good call, because he shed like a bastard. He also occasionally ate his own poo & vomit, liked to er, pleasure himself regularly, and as he never learned to brush his teeth every night after all that activitiy he would definitely not have made a good bedfellow.

That's not even allowing for the odd case of fleas and nocturnal diarhhoea as he got older.

We used to sit on the floor with him instead and he used to climb on our knee for cuddles and sprawl across, as much as he could being so big, anyway. Golden retriever elbows are quite sharp.

It's not hygienic, whatever people say. Dog bedding smells unless you wash it daily, so unless you like to wash your duvet and bedding daily, your bed will also smell of dog.

Plus, the thought of a dog being around while I'm getting frisky with DH is just bloody weird. Not to mention when my children were in with us as newborns. Dog owners are told time and again not to leave a dog unattended in the same room as a baby, no matter how trustworthy you think it is, but that's essentially what you're doing if you're fast asleep for hours with a baby and a dog in the same room.

Seems a bit grim to me although when I was a child I used to sneak my cat in once DPs were asleep.

I sleep with DH and DS is always crawling in so I can't say anything 😂😂

Our last dog slept in his bed in the hall and was happy. When we brought our current rescue home we set her bed up in the same place, in a crate so she would feel secure. I spent that night sleeping on the floor next to her. Two weeks later after dh,dd or I had spent every night with her we gave up and let her sleep with us.
At least now we get sleep.

If you had asked me last year I would have said each to their own but my dog is not allowed on my bed and sleeps downstairs.

However my dogs behaviour changed when my DH was diagnosed with cancer, there was alot of emotions in the house and his family visiting alot,my dog went from happily sleeping for 8yrs in the kitchen to whining all night. And I mean all night...i ignored it and ignored it but he didnt stop. Then he started peeing and pooping in the kitchen. I was dealing with enough stress and seriously thought about getting rid of him because I couldnt deal with the whining and pooping. Someone mentioned it being related to my DH diagnosis and I mocked them whilst dealing with the change in my dogs behaviour. I decided to leave the kitchen door open and see what he would do. He ended up in my room...hasnt had an accident since or whined and lies beside me every night Not my DH funny enough who is terminally ill. My dog does have allergies, needs bathed twice a week or he honks , thankfully doesnt shed but I understand why folks have zero interest in dogs being on beds. I have no interest and he does gruff at any noise but then i never wanted a bloody dog in the first place!