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To not think I should have to thank them

305 replies

Tellmelies65 · 27/12/2020 15:17

I went on a walk to the supermarket earlier and came Across a group of people talking on a pavement. They were outside a house clearly talking to the person who lived in the house. They moved as I approached them and then the woman shouted thank you at me.
I’m not a rude person but I don’t think you should have to thank someone when they are on a pavement.

OP posts:
abeautifulmess1234 · 27/12/2020 16:05

I think you were rude. The words please, thank you and sorry seem to fall out of my mouth at the appropriate times without me even thinking about it. You are making such a big deal out of it but you are only succeeding in making yourself sound rude and entitled.

CareBear50 · 27/12/2020 16:07

OP...maybe you're right..... Maybe you're wrong.....but politeness and grace oils the wheels of society and social interaction.

A simple thankyou would not have gone amiss, even if they were standing on the footpath....at least they were polite enough to stand back and let you pass.

LittlePinkMitten · 27/12/2020 16:07

“ “Manners are the happy ways of doing things”

DahliaMacNamara · 27/12/2020 16:08

I would have thanked them, but as a slow-moving, perpetual getter-out-of-the-way, I can tell you that it's far more common not to be thanked for doing so. And I wouldn't dream of shouting an admonishing Thank you! after any of them. That's what I'd call exceptionally rude.

StanfordPines · 27/12/2020 16:08

@Givemeabreak88

I’m with the op , I think it’s more rude to stand and block a Pavement so people can’t get past without having to ask you to move.
But she didn’t have to ask them to move.
AnnaSW1 · 27/12/2020 16:09

It sounds like you have no manners

OldPunk · 27/12/2020 16:10

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Ellmau · 27/12/2020 16:10

TBH I might not have realised they were moving for me rather than finishing their conversation.

Starlightstarbright1 · 27/12/2020 16:11

Yes you were rude manners cost nothing.

Honestly the they shalt not stand on the pavement are crazy. Far better than in someone’s house.

Manners cost nothing. You could have said thank you and not considered it again.

Butchyrestingface · 27/12/2020 16:11

@OldPunk

Never started a thread before so I hope it's in the right place! I like my Christmas decorations down before New year. When do you take yours down?
LOL. It's not, sorry. As MN to move it for you. Xmas Smile
Original poster
Tellmelies65 · 27/12/2020 16:12

Maybe I should have said thank you but I will admit the whole of my walk to the supermarket was of people stopping on the pavement people riding bikes on the pavement so by the point to be honest I had had enough. I had already had to walk on the road due to another group standing talking on the pavement.

OP posts:
strawberrypip · 27/12/2020 16:13

this is such a non issue

Givemeabreak88 · 27/12/2020 16:13

StanfordPines

It doesn’t matter just don’t block pavements so that people can’t get past without you having to move out the way! It’s rude. It’s like the people in supermarkets that block whole aisles with their trolleys so no one can get past, no I’m not thanking someone for unblocking the pavement Confused

notacooldad · 27/12/2020 16:13

oldpunk
You need to start your thread in chat.

randomer · 27/12/2020 16:13

People have become incredibly petty about personal space.Some taking theatrical leaps out of your way,putting,huffing and generally going on.I am pretty polite but often preoccupied and therefore omit the copious thanks. On the other hand,grunting runners and cyclists can do as they please.

AndcalloffChristmas · 27/12/2020 16:14

I would have said thank you but I also wouldn’t have called after you if I’d been them.

StoneofDestiny · 27/12/2020 16:14

OldPunk

There is another thread on that topic already

Charlie63849 · 27/12/2020 16:15

@Tellmelies65

They wouldn’t have needed to move if they weren’t on a pavement. I think it’s rude to stand On a pavement talking.
So they should stand in the middle of the road talking ?

You are rude.

BuggerOffAndGoodDayToYou · 27/12/2020 16:15

@Tellmelies65

They could have gone for a walk rather than blocking access to a pavement.
Maybe they HAD been for a walk and were finishing their conversation. I went for a walk with a neighbour a few weeks ago. We ended up standing on the pavement outside her house for a good half hour more still chatting, another neighbour even stopped and joined us for a while. We aren’t allowed into peoples houses so it is fine to be on the pavement.

Manners cost nothing - the people talking showed good manners by moving aside, OP was very rude not to thank them.

HowManyToes · 27/12/2020 16:16

@CoronaIsWatching

If this was me I would have turned round and confronted her and said she shouldn't be blocking the pavement
Seriously? You’d really start an argument about someone standing on the pavement? Anyway, she didn’t block the pavement, she moved out of the way

Jesus suffering Christ, I know Covid has set a lot of people on age but HOW can anyone get worked up about some folk standing around having a natter.

”I think it’s rude to stand on a pavement talking”
Next time I meet my elderly neighbour while I’m out walking the dog I’ll just suggest we FUCKING LEVITATE then? Or should I just ignore her because pavements are for walking, not chatting?

The very fact that this discussion even exists is ridiculous.

Yes, OP, YABU, ride and entitled. Give yourself a fucking shake.

AIMD · 27/12/2020 16:18

The moaning about people chatting on pavements is buzzard. Yea it annoys me at times and I wish people would pick easier spots to chat. However humans are social beings and the alternative of a world where we all trudge silently past each other and don’t stop to chat to friends lest we inconvenience someone would be way more depressing.

Also you mentioned the pavement was outside one of the peoples homes. So they weren’t just stood around randomly they were outside their home chatting to someone. Their friend could have just dropped off something they needed like a prescription and they were having a chat rather than inviting them in like they would usually.

HowManyToes · 27/12/2020 16:18

@Tellmelies65

Maybe I should have said thank you but I will admit the whole of my walk to the supermarket was of people stopping on the pavement people riding bikes on the pavement so by the point to be honest I had had enough. I had already had to walk on the road due to another group standing talking on the pavement.
Are you incapable of saying “excuse me?”
divafever99 · 27/12/2020 16:18

Without standing on the pavement I wouldn't have seen my family since March! I would have said thank you. People have done the same when I've made space for them.

Redrunbluerun · 27/12/2020 16:20

I would have said thank you. I find being polite gets me further in life than being rude.

Happygogoat · 27/12/2020 16:20

@Tellmelies65

As I said I would thank someone if they let me go first on a pavement or let me come out a shop before entering themselves but I think if you’re on a pavement talking you should move.
They did move....

They did what you would have expected. Common courtesy to say the word "thanks!".

Don't be so entitled.

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