To not think I should have to thank them

[Tellmelies65]

I went on a walk to the supermarket earlier and came Across a group of people talking on a pavement. They were outside a house clearly talking to the person who lived in the house. They moved as I approached them and then the woman shouted thank you at me.
I’m not a rude person but I don’t think you should have to thank someone when they are on a pavement.

I would probably have said thank you, but might have been distracted. Shouting “THANKYOU!” at someone who hasn’t said thank you is far ruder in my book. I had it happen when I’d had about 45mins sleep (no joke!) with my eldest and was barely conscious and broke down in tears. I have no time for people who intentionally make someone else feel bad for no good reason. Even if you were being a little rude, they still should shout at you.

Of course you say thank you, it's just a reflex for me if someone moves aside for me, but her PA comment was really rude too.

Seriously OP, is life not hard enough for everyone at the moment without this attitude?

Someone sees you coming, moves out of your way, you smile and say thanks, they smile back and say 'no problem', everyone is happy and has a nice day. It's not hard.

I would have said thank you as automatically as breathing!

So if you're in a supermarket and two people are in your way (not talking but looking) and see you coming and move.. you wouldn't say thank you? You're rude!

As I said I would thank someone if they let me go first on a pavement or let me come out a shop before entering themselves but I think if you’re on a pavement talking you should move.

Gosh, yes you were rude. Someone did a nice thing for you and it’s decent manners to say thank you for that. Why they were there in the first place, walking standing, dancing, juggling has nothing to do with whether you should thank people for being decent human beings towards you !

Well you ARE a rude person as you didn’t say thank you when someone moved to let you walk past. You also sound quite judgemental to boot......

They wouldn’t need to move if you weren’t walking on the pavement. Your logic doesn’t work

I actually think you don't need to thank them. They were extremely rude to shout back at you passively aggressively.
You did nothing wrong. They were blocking the pavement - rude!

I our village at school pick up/drop off lone adults walk in the road if a family is coming the other way. To save the parent herding kids into the road to avoid squeezing past.

Everyone always thanks those who have stepped off the curb (or into an alley, or into a bush) to get out of the way ...

except one lot. Just one. They watch you getting out of the way and sail by with never a nod or mutter of thanks. Rude wankers. OP.

I think you were rude.

They did move . That doesn't mean you shouldn't still thank them for their courtesy

Would you rather they stood on the road talking? Yabu, costs nothing to be polite.

@AldiIsla

Are we no allowed to talk in tier 4 now?

Nope. We arent even allowed to look at other people

So they moved nicely out of your way? You didn't have to ask? Do you just want us all to say 'oh my goodness they are breaking Covid rules?' Should we all walk about with our heads down and not pass the time of day? Maybe get some headdresses that mean we can only look forward too?

HeyMister I would thank someone in that situation yes.

Yeah... you were rude.

if you’re on a pavement talking you should move.

Should you? They were using the pavement. Is there a rule to say you have to be moving to use a pavement? They weren't blocking it because they moved for you.

They could have gone for a walk rather than blocking access to a pavement.

Yes , you should have thanked them ; it was rude not to .
People have every right to stop on pavements and pass the time of day with friends and neighbours , especially in these trying circumstances .

But they didn’t block access otherwise this post wouldn’t exist. They moved!

Having “thank you” and “sorry” and “please” and “excuse me” on autopilot makes life run much more smoothly: it doesn’t matter if you perceive it’s deserved or not.

And you could have said thanks when they moved instead of swanning past.

I know what you mean, OP. I would have thanked them (on autopilot) but...firstly, they were blocking the footpath, and I don't feel they were being especially nice/kind by unblocking it, and secondly the kind of person who would shout after you is an asshole anyway so....I wouldn't worry about it. But in future throw out a thanks just as a matter of good will.