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Original poster

To not think I should have to thank them

305 replies

Tellmelies65 · 27/12/2020 15:17

I went on a walk to the supermarket earlier and came Across a group of people talking on a pavement. They were outside a house clearly talking to the person who lived in the house. They moved as I approached them and then the woman shouted thank you at me.
I’m not a rude person but I don’t think you should have to thank someone when they are on a pavement.

OP posts:
badacorn · 27/12/2020 15:55

Yeah you were rude not to say thanks.

They were rude to shout after you like that too.

vanillandhoney · 27/12/2020 15:56

It's basic manners to thank someone for moving.

diavlo · 27/12/2020 15:56

Yes, you should have said thanks. It’s basic manners!

wetwiped · 27/12/2020 15:56

I probably would have said 'thank you', but probably not in my 'nicest' voice. They were loitering and causing an obstruction, therefore it was on them to move or be the impolite ones. I think they were ruder shouting back after you, in this instance you didn't 'owe' them a thank you. Why should we thank people for moving when they were blocking the way to start with?
Agree with this. OP you were not rude.

BrumBoo · 27/12/2020 15:56

They weren't blocking the OP's path, they moved

They moved because they knew they were blocking someone's way. If you're causing the problem, its not up to others to thank you for not being in the way anymore Hmm.

SandyY2K · 27/12/2020 15:57

@AldiIsla

Are we no allowed to talk in tier 4 now

This made me laugh 😆 🤣 😂

I would have said thank you in that situation. The point isn't whether they should be there or not, they moved to let you past.

CovidCarol · 27/12/2020 15:57

The pavements for walking not standing around.

Can you point me to the bit in the rule book that says this please, only I must've missed it.

FlopMadeMeDoIt · 27/12/2020 15:57

I will also go against the grain and say I agree with you OP. It drives me crackers when people loiter to chat on pavements and block peoples way. You shouldn't have to thank them for moving and allowing you to use the pavement for its intended purpose, they just shouldn't be standing around blocking the way in the first place.

Aprilx · 27/12/2020 15:58

@Givemeabreak88

I’m with the op , I think it’s more rude to stand and block a Pavement so people can’t get past without having to ask you to move.
But they didn’t do that. They moved and Op did not have to ask.
2pinkginsplease · 27/12/2020 15:58

They could have stayed chatting on the pavement(they were there first) but moved out your way. YOU were rude!

We have a shared path that horses, pedestrians and cyclists use near us. I've shouted "You're welcome" at rude people who havent even acknowledged that we have moved out the way for them! Manners cost nothing

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 27/12/2020 15:59

I asked with a 'please' could some (7)people move off my actual path last week and got a mouthful of abuse! The world atm ime is full of twats.
Yabu to give them a second thought..

CoronaIsWatching · 27/12/2020 15:59

@CovidCarol

The pavements for walking not standing around.

Can you point me to the bit in the rule book that says this please, only I must've missed it.

You don't need a rule book for common sense Hmm
AldiIsla · 27/12/2020 15:59

@Bvop

Having “thank you” and “sorry” and “please” and “excuse me” on autopilot makes life run much more smoothly: it doesn’t matter if you perceive it’s deserved or not.
Brilliantly put.
Original poster
Tellmelies65 · 27/12/2020 15:59

SleepingStandingUp I would have said excuse me.

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Looneytune253 · 27/12/2020 16:00

I had one of the school mums similarly spit thank you at me after we'd passed on the street. Irony being we'd both moved in for each other and I'd smiled and nodded

BrumBoo · 27/12/2020 16:00

@CovidCarol

The pavements for walking not standing around.

Can you point me to the bit in the rule book that says this please, only I must've missed it.

Wheres the rule book on people having to say 'thank you'? If we're talking about manners, the pavement blockers were being more socially rude and shouldn't be thanked for being considerate of people actually needing to walk somewhere.
ButtonMoonLoon · 27/12/2020 16:00

Yes you were rude, though you don’t appear to be taking anyone’s comments on board.
It’s a shame you didn’t turn voting on for this, I think it would be v interesting.

gannett · 27/12/2020 16:01

@Tellmelies65

As I said I would thank someone if they let me go first on a pavement or let me come out a shop before entering themselves but I think if you’re on a pavement talking you should move.
The fact that they should have moved (and DID) does not change the fact that you should also have thanked them.

Life is not a series of AIBU hostilities fgs. It doesn't matter who was Right and who was Wrong.

This is just basic manners.

notanothertakeaway · 27/12/2020 16:01

OP, where, in all the COVID legislation, does it say that people are no longer allowed to STAND or TALK on a pavement?!

You were rude. They moved for you. You should have said thank you

NannyGythaOgg · 27/12/2020 16:02

Would it really hurt you to have said thank you.

And as for it being a tier 4 - these rules are for safety - they were not doing anything wrong by chatting in the street if they were some distance away.

To me, you are not only rude you are judgemental.

Butchyrestingface · 27/12/2020 16:03

Life is not a series of AIBU hostilities fgs. It doesn't matter who was Right and who was Wrong.

This is just basic manners.

Arguably it was the other party/ies who commenced the hostilities when they yelled after the OP. Their manners evaporated at the merest provocation.

Cam2020 · 27/12/2020 16:03

It's only rude to stand on the pavement taking of you refuse to move for others, surely? You're right, they should have moved (and ideally be aware enough not to need to be asked) but it's polite to say thank you. What does it cost you to be friendly?

CovidCarol · 27/12/2020 16:04

Wheres the rule book on people having to say 'thank you'? If we're talking about manners, the pavement blockers were being more socially rude and shouldn't be thanked for being considerate of people actually needing to walk somewhere.

But they moved out the way, how is that being 'socially rude'?

StoneofDestiny · 27/12/2020 16:04

You were rude by omission. The person who called after you was rude with an intent to upset you.

notacooldad · 27/12/2020 16:05

I think it is part if our ( British) culture to say Thank you even if someone is doing something you would expect them to do. Just a small social interaction. I would find it odd if someone didn't smile and say thanks in the situation you described OP.

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