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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To ask how many friends you’ve got

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Tellmelies65 · 25/12/2020 19:57

I’ve got one friend that I could tell everything to. A childhood friend. A few others but definitely still under ten in total. I’m in my late 40’s.

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CyberNan · 28/12/2020 22:24

covid19 has been helpful as its made me realise that whilst i know people, i dont have friends...

geordie12 · 28/12/2020 22:24

I have different types of friends 2 everything I can tell friend, 1 help me please friend I need your words of wisdom friend 3 really good friends for coffee

DENMAN03 · 28/12/2020 22:33

I have 8 really close friends who I could call at 3am and they would be there. I'm nearly 50 and known some of them for 35 years. I have around 20 friends who I see in groups on a regular basis and many more on a less frequent basis. I am a loyal friend and always make time for people. My friends enrich my life and I am very lucky to have so many wonderful people in my life.

Stillgoings · 28/12/2020 22:33

7 from various times and places who I still see.and love.

Sn0tnose · 28/12/2020 22:49

I have two I could ask to help me to bury a body if it came to it. Probably another six or seven I could phone at 3am in floods of tears if I ever needed to (including my lovely sil and the partner of DH’s cousin) Probably three or four fun friends who I meet (or met) up with for meals, coffee etc. They mostly know each other, they certainly don’t all like each other, but they’re all strong, funny, clever, capable women and I’m lucky to have them.

LemonSherbetFancies · 28/12/2020 22:52

In my 50's and I have many, probably nearing 100. Of course some closer than others but I know I am very lucky to have so many wonderful people in my life.
I am very sociable as is DP and we go to lots of events and gigs meaning we meet a lot of people and become close.

Mummadeeze · 28/12/2020 22:59

Two best friends. Then around 10 friends who I socialise with fairly regularly with (obviously outside Covid). I have 800 friends on Facebook and do know them all from previous life stages, but have not stayed in touch in terms of meeting up. I could probably put together a party of about 50 friends if it was a big birthday or something though and I made the effort to plan something nice and invite people properly. Having friendships means a great deal to me as all my family live abroad and I am quite different to them.

supernanmam · 28/12/2020 23:09

Seems to be a lot of people who feel the need to disturb friends at 3am. Something I’d never consider doing tbh.

peaceanddove · 28/12/2020 23:32

2 very, very close friends that I have known for nearly 30 years. They would do anything for me, and me for them.

5 very good friends that I met at the school gates nearly 14 years ago.

The 2 wives of DH's best friends. So lucky that they're lovely women and that they've now been my friends for over 20 years.

I am very close to my 2 cousins, they're actually more like my sisters.

Then I have quite a lot of friendly acquaintances, who I have worked with in the past that I occasionally meet for coffee etc.

Ironically, I actually really love my own company, but rarely get much of it

Glitterblue · 28/12/2020 23:47

I'm 44 and I have one best friend and 3 fairly good friends. I'm 100% sure any one of them would help at 3am but I'd probably only feel I could ask my best friend.

I used to have another m good friend but she fell out with me just over a year ago. I still miss her but at the same time I'm glad that I don't have the stress I used to have when we were friends. I've realised since she fell out with me just how toxic and unhealthy the friendship was.

CountFosco · 29/12/2020 00:19

Seems to be a lot of people who feel the need to disturb friends at 3am. Something I’d never consider doing tbh.

I've done it once. My waters broke early and I needed someone to look after the DDs when I went to hospital. DS was born prematurely 6h later. MIL called us in the middle of the night when FIL died and DH then took the first train in the morning to be with her (she called a friend to be with her overnight till he got there).

So I've only experienced it in life and death situations only.

Snog · 29/12/2020 08:40

4 very close and long-standing friends (16-30 years) and many others whose company I enjoy.

CC12939 · 29/12/2020 08:55

None. A few acquaintances but none that I could talk to regularly. Lonely life.

StrawberryFries · 29/12/2020 08:58

4 close friends I’d say. There’s a few other people that I’d maybe see in the supermarket/pub and stop to say hello, but we wouldn’t talk to separate to that

Redrunbluerun · 29/12/2020 09:06

If something terrible happened (DH suddenly had an affair/my mum died) I’ve got 15 people I could call... mixture of school, uni, I was in the armed forces.
I’ve been friends with one of them for 28 years and that is very precious to me. I’m mid 30s.
I’m an extrovert and make a lot of effort with them, they’re very dear to me.

hiptobeasquare · 29/12/2020 09:06

I have about 10. 5 of them are really close and the others are close, but newer friendships. I was adamant I wasn’t adding any new friends in as it’s hard to organise a social life, but I made 3 friends at work who are lovely so had to add them in.

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