To ask how many friends you’ve got

[Tellmelies65]

I’ve got one friend that I could tell everything to. A childhood friend. A few others but definitely still under ten in total. I’m in my late 40’s.

(really not quite sure how to describe the friends from uni. I mean, one of them is the 2nd super close friend. The others... Most of them are very dear. But they're a special category, I suppose. Idk. Not sure how to explain it, tbh.)

I'm 40 and have 6 people that I consider close friends who I have contact with daily. I have several others who I am very fond of but don't see or speak to that much (mostly down to geography).

2 who are 100% reliable and would do anything for me.

3 who are close but maybe not 3am in the morning phone call reliable.

About 10 a could pull a favour with but wouldn't say we are close.

Quite a lot of weather friends and acquaintances.

None are old school friends. I'm in touch with those on facebook but don't really consider them friends any longer.

I would say almost all of these friends have been acquired aged 30+

5 who are more like family. Don't see much of each other but we've been friends with for 27 years, messenger lots etc.

3 from Uni, again limited to once or twice a normal year, but wattsapp etc. We've had periods of closeness and not so closeness but now all have randomly similar aged kids which has brought us back together. Friends for 20 years

2 local friends, again brought closer by similar aged kids so more in common. I see them the most and was very supportive over first lockdown. Friends for 13 and 5 years respectively. They're also randomly friends which helps.

1 best friend from work who I've known 14 years, contact ebs and flows but she was the first person who know I was pregnant, my bridesmaid etc.

They're all "proper friends" and then they're the school mom group I've known a few years who I obv see tons of on school run, we all do presents for the kids at Xmas etc and try to be there for each other but none of them would give me a kindey

One friend from university who I could confide in if I really needed to. We only speak once every few months though now, and see each other even less. I'm far too lazy to maintain friendships. Just the thought of having group outings or holidays makes me feel exhausted.

If we had a crisis we would call my family, DB, or the ILs (in that order!)

Probably 3 or 4 that I could call on in an emergency and trust to come through. None live nearby, though.

4 close friends.
I'm in the North East if anyone would like to make another?

I’m 29 with zero friends.
I like to live my life how I want too, I don’t like to drink and party never have. So I lost a few friends when I started to say no to that, they never wanted to do things I liked. So we drifted and I’m left with my DD and my mum as my two besties. It can be real lonely, especially when I’m having relationship problems I can’t turn to my mom. I’d love someone to talk to but I have no one so I sit in my car alone. My DD is 3 and she asked if I could have a party and then she stopped herself and said “you have no friends mommy”.

Mine are a mixed bag of a small group, I have the usual one main friend who probably knows most about me, then the other friends I compartmentalized, for various topics and or levels of knowledge about me. Usually never put all my trust in one person, due to if they ever were turned then it's a pickle, however with spreading out the various topics that are discussed with different people then unless someone taps them all for intelligence then it keeps the knowledge compartmentalized.

@Levirandal

Not really any. How have people met friends? I’m nice and normal I think. I’ve ended up isolated as we have children with special needs and I’m finding it really lonely.

Through work, baby groups, school mums, PTA, online forums, through hobbies, through mutual friends. Friends can be found anywhere

Four whom I really, really love. Two are mother figures as I have a poor relationship with my own mother. Two I’ve known since university.

None now ,A couple of people I know from work or acquaintances.
Been desperately hurt by a group of people I though were my friends who’s behaviour at the end of the friendship actually made my heart physically hurt.
Therefore I trust very few people now .

None. I also have only 2 relatives, my husband and my daughter.

It can be a matter of luck making friends through your children. I too have a child with special needs and have never felt lonelier than when trying to help him integrate and hoping for a bit of help from other parents. I’m sorry levirandal - that sounds tough xx

tigerstripe

1 close friend.
Prefer my own company, massive introvert, solo interests, lots going on so haven't the mental energy for more friends, etc. I've been hurt in the past So I prefer to keep people to the absolute minimum I trust around me.
Part of a couple of FB groups based on hobbies/interests and that's enough interaction for me most days!

Not really any. How have people met friends? I’m nice and normal I think. I’ve ended up isolated as we have children with special needs and I’m finding it really lonely

Most of my friends (especially the 2 incredibly close friends) are friends I made before I got married and had DS. I think I'm just incredibly lucky that I somehow managed to keep them...

One best friend, who I’ve known since I was 5 in primary school. I’m godmother to her child, we talk every day and have no boundaries eg her last text to me was “I can’t believe I just ate such a big Christmas dinner when I’m constipated with piles” 😂😂

I have three close friends I talk too regularly and then a handful of acquaintances that I wouldn’t go out of my way to message but would comment on their posts and enjoy time with them on group activities. I’m mid twenties.

I've got 3 very close friends. Known them for years. We all work together all have less than perfect lives. I know I could call them in the middle of the night and they would be there for me. Tbh I have done and they were.
I don't do Facebook either I know my true friends but my 3 amigos are the best.

Forgot to say we are all midwives in our 50's. We have been thro so much together.

No 'best friend' anymore.
A handful of old school or uni friends who I like very much but rarely see.

4 'mum friends' who I know from toddler clubs / school gates. Not a social group just 1 on - friendship. Doubt they are longterm friends.

1 friend that I talk to regularly and I used to babysit for her and used to see her about once a week Pre Covid.
Haven't seen her in about 2 months but still talk regularly. Wouldn't call her in an emergency though. So I guess you could say none.

Three very close female friends, a wider circle of another seven or so close friends, mixed gender, male and female, then a wider circle of acquaintances, many of whom, may consider me Their friend. More than I do them to be honest,,,

I’m a bit of an odd bod I think, If you met me, you’d think I was very cold but very confident, and exclusive in my friendship groups , if you knew me, you’d think I was very welcoming, very friendly, but shy and concerned for others and their inclusion. My friendship group knows me ans who I am. I’m really not cold and exclusive, I’m actually very warm and inclusive, I just struggle to articulate it...

I have one who I’d class as my friend.

I have a few others (5/6) who would class me as their close friend but I see them as work colleagues/ex colleagues.

4 or 5 good acquaintances. And I’m very fond of them. They can call me whenever and do.

But a friend for me is someone I could call in the middle of the night if something happened. And I don’t feel I can do it back.

So I would have to say none I think.