What would you do if your Mil said this to you?

[Showmethefood]

If you posted a picture of you and your family eating a roast dinner (me, husband and 2 daughters) and your MIL commented “What has happened to your diet?!?!?” Ok, fair enough I am In the overweight category (was obese and have now lost 5 and a half stone over the past year!) what would you say in reply? Husband laughed and said she was “only joking and not to take it personally” but I think it’s rude! To be fair she’s always commenting on everybody and what they do etc. Surely this is bad manners?!?!?

I'd be the better person and ignore it.

Left it in the same place*

lost 5 and a half stone over the past year!

Just to say, that's pretty bloody impressive

You’ve lost so much weight then I would think you know more than most people about calories in food, well done that’s amazing.

As for your MIL she’s just a rude cow and is probably jealous of your achievement.

Don’t let it spoil your Christmas

What a cowbag

"I've lost 5 and a half stone on this diet, thanks for asking. Merry Christmas to you too."

@IceCreamAndCandyfloss

Posting a picture of eating is strange in the first instance but her comment depends on many things. Portion size, calorie content of meal, if you have been making a big deal out of dieting or moaning etc. Easily taken out of contact online.

Don’t be ridiculous. It was a picture of a family who happened to be sharing a meal. Absolutely nothing excuses a nasty jibe about the OP’s food or weight. Assuming you mean context rather than content, no, the context doesn’t matter.

Honestly some people are just rude. I'd ignore it.

My brother unfailingly makes rude/mean comments on my Facebook, to the point where if I get a notification that he's commented my heart drops and I feel physically sick. However, I've just started clicking 'hide comment' - it doesn't completely delete it so I'm guessing he doesn't realise I've done it, but nobody can see the comment. Could you just do this and then try to put it out of your mind?

I’d reply saying “what’s happened to your manners?!”

Thank you all. I’ve worked so hard at this diet. I was quite big 🙈 Teen DD posted it online (you know what they’re looking Ilene it’s social media!) and mother in law posted (Should be eating that showmethefood - has your diet gone out the window 🙈) Everyone saw it and I was so embarrassed 🙈😔

I would just post don’t be so rude, then ignore

-sorry know what they’re like

I guess it depends if you are on a diet.

I had a friend post that when I posted a photo of a huge ice cream dessert. I knew it was meant jokingly and my reply was "To hell with the diet!"

Didn't upset me at all.

I would leave her comment where it is and not reply at all, so you retain the moral high ground and everyone can see her embarrass herself with her rudeness.

My FIL for the first few years of knowing me used to comment on what I was eating and how much, he even called me a piggy once in front of the extended family for getting up to get seconds of a big selection of Chinese takeaway we were all sharing. I decided to not care and just eat what I wanted and go YUMMMM YUMM a lot. He seems to have piped down.

Delete her comment. Say nothing.

@TulipsTwoLips

Just delete her comment.

This. I find sometimes people forget they are broadcasting and treat social media as a private conversation.

@Showmethefood

If you posted a picture of you and your family eating a roast dinner (me, husband and 2 daughters) and your MIL commented “What has happened to your diet?!?!?” Ok, fair enough I am In the overweight category (was obese and have now lost 5 and a half stone over the past year!) what would you say in reply? Husband laughed and said she was “only joking and not to take it personally” but I think it’s rude! To be fair she’s always commenting on everybody and what they do etc. Surely this is bad manners?!?!?

Why would anyone post a picture of that?

I think it was unkind and unnecessary and I would shrug it off as it says volumes about her insecurities to try and out you down like that. Also food is fuel and food is ALSO pleasure and a balance between the both is essential for a healthy and happy life. I feel sorry for her having to comment in such a snide way.

Reply?

Oh give over! Merry Christmas to you to!

@Fuckingcrustybread

I'd reply, the diet has fucked off, just like your manners.

I like that one and it would be my choice too.

Or

“Nee naw nee naw here comes the diet police! Guilty as charge m’lady, send me down!”

I would reply "Diet is having a day off!" in a cheerful tone & forget about it. If she can't help but say things you don't like, then just exclude her from seeing relevant pictures of you on Soc-media. This is super easy on facebook.

Would it be 'bad manners' if she said any of the below...

"Wow you look marvelous" (due to weight loss, which actually means you looked terrible before)

"Is your diet hard to follow?" (nosy)

"Tell me more about your diet because I can see it works well for you" (nosy and you looked bad before)

Q: What happened to your diet?

A: I ate it!

Atalune that is funny 😂

What a rude cow!! I am not sure what I would do. My first instinct would be to reply “I have worked really hard this year to lose a tremendous amount of weight - 5 and a half stone! So just for one meal, I am eating what I like”. But I am not sure she deserves a polite reply at all - “fuck off you bitch” might just about cover it. Perhaps just delete it? Massive congratulations on the weight loss though - tremendous achievement!

Delete the comment and see if she asks where her comment went.
Then just say 'it made me feel really awful and I didn't want to look at it'
My exMIL was like this. Always commenting on appearance and weight which she thought was fine as she was naturally slim and could eat what she liked. Well, she could until her doctor told her she had dangerously high cholesterol.
It turned out being slim didn't always mean that you were healthy which I mentioned many, many times!