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Original poster

AIBU for wanting xmas to be over?

106 replies

user1506328491 · 24/12/2020 09:35

Tier 4 and all plans cancelled. Despite having children who will enjoy the day, AIBU for wanting it all to be over?

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Bearnecessity · 24/12/2020 09:44

No, ''tis a hard time all over, you never know you might yet be won over otherwise give it 24 hrs it is all done.

Aprilx · 24/12/2020 09:53

I am Tier 4, will be just me and DH and I am looking forward to it and will make the most of it.

Original poster
user1506328491 · 24/12/2020 09:53

You might be right- perhaps it's the waiting that's worse and the day will be okay.

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AcornAutumn · 24/12/2020 09:53

Yanbu at all

I don’t like Christmas generally but this year the good stuff has been removed. It’s just me and mum and she will go on and on about my late father and covid. This will be punctuated by phone calls from her friends hysterical about covid.

Original poster
user1506328491 · 24/12/2020 09:53

@aprilx did you have plans cancelled or was it always going to be you and DH?

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LEELULUMPKIN · 24/12/2020 09:56

YAVU I've only just brought my tree in from outside!

Shuffles off to find lights..................

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user1506328491 · 24/12/2020 09:57

@acornautumn Agree- feels like the good bits gone and yet we have to persist in trying to enjoy.
Is drinking an option?

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Mousehole10 · 24/12/2020 09:58

YANBU. We are tier 4 too and had our plans cancelled with less than a weeks notice. I was holding on to being able to see family at Christmas after a difficult few months, it’s our baby’s first Christmas too and out in laws were very excited about it. Now it’s just the three of us and I really can’t be bothered to do anything Christmasy and just want it over.

Fatladyslim · 24/12/2020 09:58

I'm sick of everyone being so fucking miserable! Yes, teir 4 sucks and all our plans have been cancelled but jesus christ! We have had so much death this year, I had a bastarding miscarriage last week. Try and look at the positives this week, even if they are just in the form of a pig in a blanket or no-duck and hoisin wrap!

Will make everyrhing a bit better if we everyone could try and find at least 1 thing to enjoy this christmas.

BendingSpoons · 24/12/2020 10:00

YANBU. I feel sad about not being able to see family or going to church. The children will enjoy it, but I suspect lots of it will feel flat. Once Christmas is over I won't feel so much like we are missing out on seeing people. Plus I'll stop reading stuff from the people lucky enough (or rebellious enough) to still get a more normal day. And then stop feeling guilty for being sad when I am luckier than many.

HoboSexualOnslow · 24/12/2020 10:00

I'm looking forward to time off from the relentless demands of my healthcare role.
And the chocolate

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user1506328491 · 24/12/2020 10:01

I find a pig in blanket doesn't really compare to seeing family.

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AcornAutumn · 24/12/2020 10:02

[quote user1506328491]@acornautumn Agree- feels like the good bits gone and yet we have to persist in trying to enjoy.
Is drinking an option? [/quote]
I could sneak something into my handbag

Mum will have some sherry ready and be shocked that I can drink more than a tiny bit.

I’m more likely to take something to keep me calm

I appreciate that might sound harsh but I am looking down the barrel of several years of talk about how he was her life. My sister, who won’t be with us because rules, has tried to warn her off that a bit.

I plan to spend a very long time in the shower, fake an urgent phone call from an upset friend...that’s got to knock out 2 hours, right?

I’ll be on public transport so it’s 48 hours.

SoupDragon · 24/12/2020 10:03

@user1506328491

I find a pig in blanket doesn't really compare to seeing family.
That's daft though.

Christmas happening or not, you can't see family or others so you might as well make the best of what you can have - and that includes pigs in blankets.

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user1506328491 · 24/12/2020 10:03

@bendingspoons YY- my flat feeling is made worse by knowing that I ought to be more grateful, have it pretty good etc

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Treeerex · 24/12/2020 10:05

We are a 'never leave the house on Christmas day' family. So to us the day itself will be no different. I grew up 100s of miles away from my extended family, so we always did it like that when we were younger too.

I have really missed the build up this year. The Christmas plays, the Christmas dos, the days out etc. I will also really miss the meeting up with family in the days after Christmas, which is what we usually do.

But the day itself will be no different.

Buddrinker84 · 24/12/2020 10:07

No, I don't want it to be over. Once it's over we have to start adulting properly again. At least with Christmas we can be distracted from the serious stuff.

AcornAutumn · 24/12/2020 10:08

Oh and mum’s house is shit freezing and she won’t have the heating on at night and I have to sleep under a window as the house is very badly designed.

BlackCatShadow · 24/12/2020 10:10

I want it to be over and it's nothing to do with COVID. It's just all the stress and planning and organising. I'm looking forward to just relaxing for the rest of the holiday.

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user1506328491 · 24/12/2020 10:13

For the people who make the best of it, do you fake it and then feel happier? Or does it come naturally?

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BrumBoo · 24/12/2020 10:15

@Fatladyslim

I'm sick of everyone being so fucking miserable! Yes, teir 4 sucks and all our plans have been cancelled but jesus christ! We have had so much death this year, I had a bastarding miscarriage last week. Try and look at the positives this week, even if they are just in the form of a pig in a blanket or no-duck and hoisin wrap!

Will make everyrhing a bit better if we everyone could try and find at least 1 thing to enjoy this christmas.

@Fatladyslim Flowers

I agree with you. I can understand people are upset that this year will not be as usual, but MN has turned into a misery pit mostly from the SE. It's just Christmas, if your try hard enough you can find something you enjoy about it, even if it's not your usual way of celebrating. People are acting like they've been told fun is cancelled forever, and if you face a fine for not being as glum as possible. Some really need to get a grip, it's really not that bad.

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user1506328491 · 24/12/2020 10:16

@acornautumn I hear you- the reminiscing on the dearly departed gets wearing.....

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Sparrowfeeder · 24/12/2020 10:18

@Fatladyslim

I'm sick of everyone being so fucking miserable! Yes, teir 4 sucks and all our plans have been cancelled but jesus christ! We have had so much death this year, I had a bastarding miscarriage last week. Try and look at the positives this week, even if they are just in the form of a pig in a blanket or no-duck and hoisin wrap!

Will make everyrhing a bit better if we everyone could try and find at least 1 thing to enjoy this christmas.

Sorry to hear that. Flowers Me too, mc last week. Given me a bit of perspective on all the covid glumness. Bit low due to it but grateful to have all my tubes intact and a house with nosecco, twiglets and chocolate in it.
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user1506328491 · 24/12/2020 10:18

@brumboo do you think its mainly from SE as that's where xmas is cancelled....? Others less miserable as have their day to enjoy?

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Derelictwreck · 24/12/2020 10:18

@user1506328491

I find a pig in blanket doesn't really compare to seeing family.
But you have your family there. You said there are children.

So many of us are completely alone and you get to have a magical children orientated family christmas.

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