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Original poster

To be annoyed that DP won’t let me have the electric blanket on?

120 replies

Strawberryfelineforever · 23/12/2020 22:24

He says we don’t need it on because the storage heater is on and that I don’t pay the electricity so I don’t know how much it costs. I thought they were quite cheap to run. I get cold easily and he said I should put more clothes on instead of going to bed with next to nothing on. AIBU?

OP posts:
CareBear50 · 23/12/2020 22:25

Electric blankets are incredibly cheap to run.. he's being a total dick!

Nanny0gg · 23/12/2020 22:27

Buy one that has two switches. Then he can lay in the cold. Warm pyjamas are a good idea though.

Is it his money and is he tight in other ways?

Iflyaway · 23/12/2020 22:29

Well, if you like someone else telling you how to live your life....

Is he usually this mean in other areas of your life?

Santaisironingwrappingpaper · 23/12/2020 22:29

Pj's and a dressing gown. Be an added opportunity to keep the nasty fucker away in bed... He sounds awful.

Lovewinemorethanhusband · 23/12/2020 22:29

Electric blankets are really cheap to run, they offer direct heat to you so you stay warm. Give him £5 a month for the extra costs and just get a single size one just for you !

gobbynorthernbird · 23/12/2020 22:30

What are you wearing?

RainMoon · 23/12/2020 22:30

When I am cold, no layers in the world will help. I need direct heat to go into me. He is being a controlling dick knowing you are cold. Is he like this in other aspects of your relationship? That would worry me if a friend said that

AldiAisleofCrap · 23/12/2020 22:31

He probably quite likes you alive.

june2007 · 23/12/2020 22:32

How about an extra blanket, warm pj,s a hotty. so you can keep yourself warm but partner doesn,t get overly hot. Which I would worry with electric blankets.And to be honest if he pays the bills then I get the issue.

MsVestibule · 23/12/2020 22:32

My DH has told me we can't get one because he doesn't like them. I have a hot water bottle so I'm not bothered. If he told me we couldn't have one because of the cost, I'd laugh at him and be straight down to Dunelm. Is he normally this tight?

NeedToKnow101 · 23/12/2020 22:33

@AldiAisleofCrap

He probably quite likes you alive.
What do you mean? Although I do sometimes worry my electric blanket is cooking my internal organs when I forget to turn it off...
Wingedharpy · 23/12/2020 22:33

Quick Google says about 9p per night.
His name's not Ebenezer is it?

DrMadelineXMASwell · 23/12/2020 22:34

Dh bought a single sized one, just for me, because I get cold and he doesn't feel the cold.

Well, he's lost 8 stone this year (!) and now he feels the damn cold and has an appreciation of how miserable it makes me.

Original poster
Strawberryfelineforever · 23/12/2020 22:35

He’s not always like that. He gave me over £500 for Christmas and paid for a meal out this evening. We don’t live together yet so I am usually a guest at his house at weekends.

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Imiss2019 · 23/12/2020 22:36

Not relevant but this thread reminded me of my youth and going clubbing with my friend. We’d always sleep ever at her Nan’s house and roll in at 3am to find the electric blankets warming our beds.
Kind of wish our house got cold enough to need one now!

LolaSmiles · 23/12/2020 22:37

He is being a bit tight as they are cheap to run, but I do see his point if you're going to bed with next to nothing on but wanting to run heaters and electric blankets.

Then again, full confession, I'm of the view that you put a proper jumper on before turning the heating up to wander around the house in a t shirt. One of my relatives 'jokes' that my house is cold and it's not. They're just used to running heating all day and wearing thin clothes.

Wingedharpy · 23/12/2020 22:39

Just go home then OP and get into your own warm, cosy bed.
Sod him!

catinb00tz · 23/12/2020 22:39

Get a dual controlled one

Twickerhun · 23/12/2020 22:41

Aren’t they a fire/safety risk?

june2007 · 23/12/2020 22:41

Since it,s not even a joint home then yabu.

Circumlocutious · 23/12/2020 22:42

I also get annoyed by someone in a vest complaining about how cold it is and demanding that the heating be turned up.

The difference as pp said is the low running cost of electric blankets.

RudolphToldRedNoseNotSymptom · 23/12/2020 22:44

He doesn't want you to wear next to nothing in bed? First man I've heard of who was that miserly.

KnitsAndGiggles · 23/12/2020 22:45

Well if you do wear hardly anything then moan you're cold maybe he has a point. If you're loaded up on jumpers / dressing gown and jimjams and still freezing then maybe you have a point.

WhereverIGoddamnLike · 23/12/2020 22:45

So he isnt really a partner, in the sense that you live together and share finances and all of that.

He is a boyfriend you sometimes stay overnight with. In that case, it sort of is his decision about the electric bill etc. Maybe he genuinely doesnt know what they cost to run. Have you had a chat about the cost of the blanket compared to the cost of the space heater?

Your post was a little disingenuous as you've made it seem as though you live together, which would mean joint decisions on money etc, when actually you dont.