To be annoyed that DP won’t let me have the electric blanket on?

[Strawberryfelineforever]

He says we don’t need it on because the storage heater is on and that I don’t pay the electricity so I don’t know how much it costs. I thought they were quite cheap to run. I get cold easily and he said I should put more clothes on instead of going to bed with next to nothing on. AIBU?

Not the point: I won’t let my DH bring one into our bed because I’m already miserably hot. Even if he keeps it on his side, adding any heat to a room I already feel is far too warm is just not tolerable. I’d have much more sympathy of he would add layers, but he refuses. I’m already compromising by keeping the room much, much warmer than I would prefer.

The point: Telling you that you can’t use electricity is not ok.

I understand his side more tbh but do hate to be hot, I'd rather be a bit chilly than a bit hot. I think I'd find sharing a bed with an electric blanket to be too hot then I struggle to sleep. When I was in a shared student house I sometimes ended up opening the window if I forgot to turn off the radiator in my room to try and lower the temperature. I was also brought up to add more layers including blankets, socks and jumpers rather than add heat through electric blankets or radiators.
If the problem is only at his then I'd get some extra warm pjs, a nice blanket and either a hot water bottle or a microwavable hottie to warm your bed before you get in it. At your house he should expect to adapt to you more.

Another concearn which both y husband ad I share is fire risk.

Scratch that, just realized it’s not your home. He can make whatever electricity rules he wants. You have to decide if you want to date someone with those rules.

We are getting married next year. He says when we move in and I pay the electricity while he pays the mortgage then I can have whatever I want on lol

He's probably thinking why do you need an electric blanket when he's put the heating on at this time because he gets it cheaper being on an economy 7 meter.

However, its probably only about 10p per kwh used so I think you both need to compromise.

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So he isnt really a partner, in the sense that you live together and share finances and all of that.

He is a boyfriend you sometimes stay overnight with. In that case, it sort of is his decision about the electric bill etc. Maybe he genuinely doesnt know what they cost to run. Have you had a chat about the cost of the blanket compared to the cost of the space heater?

Your post was a little disingenuous as you've made it seem as though you live together, which would mean joint decisions on money etc, when actually you dont.

Didn’t know there was rules about whether you are allowed to call your DP a partner or boyfriend.

Log burner on all day here at our home....hubby also put heating on in the rest of the house...he has always made sure I am safe, warm and happy....go home to your own house and take your blanket with you...I couldn't live with someone like that...

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We are getting married next year. He says when we move in and I pay the electricity while he pays the mortgage then I can have whatever I want on lol

Uh... Are you only planning to move in after you're married?

Doesn't sound like the sort of man you should marry without living with first

Ok now I know you don't live together then that's fair enough. He's the one paying the bill and storage heaters are expensive to run.

If its a shared blanket i can understand him being too hot but the money thing is just something he says to justify it. I understand the put more clothes on comment. I pay the gas bill in my flat and it really fucks me off when dp puts the heating on when hes sat in a tshirt. I always say put a bloody jumper on if your that cold.

I get the impression there's more to say about your joint financial plans for the future. You'll pay the electricity and he'll pay the mortgage. Any chance that you'll pay for childcare, bills and food out of your pay?

It's going to be cold the next couple of days, you'll need it!

I couldn’t cope without, my feet are like ice if I’m cold and I can’t fall asleep if they’re cold. I have shit circulation. This would be raising big red flags for me in terms of his lack of consideration for you. You sure you want to marry him? Please live together first, it’s a heck of a thing to marry before living together full time.

Give him a fiver and put his dummy back in. Ffs a few pence to make you comfortable isn’t asking a lot. I’d be really thinking about if I wanted to shackle myself to a figure of such generosity tbh,

Get yourself a dual control one when you move in together. It's a game changer.

Layers are not a good substitute for adequate heating as they don't warm the air, so you are still breathing cold air, and they are bulky and uncomfortable. It is horrid having to go to bed dressed for a polar expedition (ok slight exaggeration but still). I remember it from my very skint days and not fondly. If finances are not a problem no one should be too cold in their home (or allow their guests to be).

What are you wearing to bed? If you’re going to bed only in underwear and without socks on etc then I think he’s being reasonable as no wonder you’re cold. If you’re already wearing full length pyjamas, bed socks and are still cold then it sounds like the house is very cold. But if he’s not keen on electric blankets could you get a warm blanket and a hot water bottle for your side only?

Don’t get married without living together first. That way madness lays

Especially if you are going to be living in a house that was previously either solely his or solely yours

Don't marry him. Honestly if he's this miserly a life of misery, resentment and squabbling about who owes who 20p awaits you.

It's better for the environment if people dress appropriately for seasons and limit use of heating and cooling as much as possible. By that I mean, as mentioned above, add a jumper before turning up heat, don't wear jeans in summer and the put on the air conditioning because you're hot.

That said, I agree with the hot water bottle option. Add some cosy flannelette pjs and you'll be toasty.

Not sure why you want an electric blanket on... do you live in Shetland?

Warm your feet on his arse.

Run....this doesn't bode well..

Tbf I love heat but that would be to warm for me.
DP would probably overheat and pass out.
Like a pp suggested can you put it on your side.
A hot water bottle at your feet is lovely too and a compromise.