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To be annoyed that DP won’t let me have the electric blanket on?

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Strawberryfelineforever · 23/12/2020 22:24

He says we don’t need it on because the storage heater is on and that I don’t pay the electricity so I don’t know how much it costs. I thought they were quite cheap to run. I get cold easily and he said I should put more clothes on instead of going to bed with next to nothing on. AIBU?

OP posts:
Didicat · 23/12/2020 23:37

I love my heated electric blanket in bed. Sort of person who has blankets in the lounge of an evening and microwave hot wheat bag. But for bed, especially if I’m aching like with the current weather I’d rather sleep alone with my electric blanket. Then be too cold and sore to sleep and wake up stiff. Could you put it on a timer so it’s only one for a short period even if you fall asleep?

Kissthepastrychef · 23/12/2020 23:38

Don’t get married without living together first. That way madness lays

What utter tosh. DH and I didn't live together and indeed I moved into his house (albeit he bought it while we were dating so I had a lot of input)

We are very happy Thankyou and have been married 14 years. I believe that some of the early arguments would have split us up had we just lived together. Being married we had far more interest to resolve them and work things out. We have grown into a rock solid marriage and have been through some highly challenging times together.

I'm very glad we didn't live together

snookercue · 23/12/2020 23:39

He’s not always like that. He gave me over £500 for Christmas and paid for a meal out this evening.

He's not always like that re money

He is always like that re exerting control

Don't live with him, ever.

thosetalesofunexpected · 23/12/2020 23:43

Hi Op
I don't know if elec blanket are economical to run or not.
He your DP comes across as a selfish Prick.😡!
His Attitude towards you in this way definately a huge red flag !

I would question, is your DP selfish in other ways in your Relantship too?
He doesn't come across as good DP or Potential husband material does he...
Spend some money on yourself, an invest in a warm cosy elec blanket,but just buy a single one just for yourself of course.😁
I know how you feel I am the same
I assume you must have tried the traditional way of keeping warm with a hot water bottle,thick warm traditional blankets,
Obviously you need to keep warm with PJs or thermal underwear would be beneficial too.

Carolofthebellies · 23/12/2020 23:44

I put a hot water bottle in bed 10 min before I am in bed. It's nice and warm. The best thing to put the hot water bottle just below your pillow so when you like down it's really warm to your backside.

thepeopleversuswork · 23/12/2020 23:47

WhereverIGoddamnLike

There's always one carping on about the distinction between a partner and a boyfriend and feigning Victorian-style horror about people not living together. Give it up: there are plenty of reasons why people don't live together.

He does sound unbelievably tight, I have to say. Yes technically he's right that its him and not you who pays the bills but mithering you over the cost of running an electric blanket FFS: are you sure you want to marry this guy?

jessstan1 · 23/12/2020 23:58

Storage heaters are very expensive to run.

MaryLeeOnHigh · 24/12/2020 00:01

What have you got against wearing something warm in bed? He does have a point, it's mad to go to bed wearing very little then complain because you feel cold.

Charlie63849 · 24/12/2020 00:02

Chuck him a tenner and tell him you’re having the blanket on. Tight ass.

DynamoKev · 24/12/2020 00:05

LTB

BonnieDundee · 24/12/2020 00:11

I'm inclined to say tell him not to be so miserable but my DH was wearing.thin t shirt and shorts tonight and he put the gas fire on. I was Confused

LindaEllen · 24/12/2020 00:12

My friend's husband actually took £10 a month off her to have the heating on during the day at the weekend.

Nasty bastard.

It's so controlling. Put it on, tell him you refuse to be uncomfortable in your own home if you can reasonably afford not to be.

PandaBearCub · 24/12/2020 00:19

Wear warm pjs and get a fleece duvet.

VinylDetective · 24/12/2020 00:23

@MaryLeeOnHigh

What have you got against wearing something warm in bed? He does have a point, it's mad to go to bed wearing very little then complain because you feel cold.
No it’s not. There’s nothing like getting into a warm bed, it’s one of the most luxurious things ever. For me it’s the difference between drifting off to sleep quickly and lying awake for what feels like eternity.

Don’t stay with a man so mean he begrudges you a warm bed, OP.

sweetkitty · 24/12/2020 00:28

DH and I are the most mismatched couple heat wise. I’m in bed wearing fleecy jammies with a T-shirt underneath tucked in, in case a draught get through Grin and fleecy socks. We have a normal duvet with lovely cosy duvet cover on it then I have a single duvet over my side with my teddy bear fleece duvet cover. DH is wearing a T-shirt. If I get cold I’ll wander over and heat myself up on him but then he’ll complain I’m making him sweat after a bit, the man is a human furnace. I couldn’t have an electric blanket because it might heat up his side so I just pile another duvet on my side and I’m lovely and warm.

PolkadotsAndMoonbeams · 24/12/2020 00:33

I'm amazed he didn't suggest another way of warming you up. I think most men would prefer you not to be wearing your thermals to bed!

I suppose if the heating is on he doesn't want to double up with another heat source, but it's miserable when you can't get warm. He does sound a bit mean with that though, if he was really against electric blankets he should be filling you a hot water bottle when you stay over and putting it in to warm the bed up.

Aprilx · 24/12/2020 00:35

His comments about you being able to have the electric blanket on when you are living there and pay the bills are quite concerning.

But I do think he has a point about putting on more clothes to bed than putting a heater on. I could not sleep in a bed with an electric blanket (but by the same token I don’t have one).

FenellaVelour · 24/12/2020 00:39

They’re really not expensive to run at all. We have a dual control heated duvet and I love it. I don’t wear jumpers, long sleeves etc to bed as I have sensory issues but a nice warm duvet is a necessity for me.

ToniTheDonkey · 24/12/2020 01:22

LTB. The electric blanket is a wonderful invention, and everyone should have one. I use mine every night. In fact, this year I first switched it on at the end of August!

My electric blanket is the reason I first bought an Amazon Echo - I bought a smart plug so that if I was out for the evening (remember out?) i could switch the electric blanket on remotely so it was warm by the time I got home.

My BF loves the electric blanket too and sometimes I get home from work to find him in my house, in my bed with “blankie” on.

Ginandplatonic · 24/12/2020 01:30

People giving the OP suggestions for keeping warm in bed are missing the point surely? Her partner is mean with money and/or selfish and/or controlling and they aren’t even living together yet. These are not attractive qualities in a man, to say the least. I would be thinking very hard about this relationship before taking it any further OP.

grassisjeweled · 24/12/2020 01:31

Big red flag there op 👉

Emeraldshamrock · 24/12/2020 02:13

I bought a smart plug so that if I was out for the evening (remember out?) i could switch the electric blanket on remotely so it was warm by the time I got home
Very good tip. Grin

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/12/2020 02:16

He gave you 500 quid cash for Christmas?

That is very strange.

BlueThistles · 24/12/2020 02:24

Nobody and I mean NOBODY would tell me I could not have an electric blanket ON .. I'll rather shove that engagement ring right up his nose than give up my leccy blanky 🥰

BlueThistles · 24/12/2020 02:25

@MrsTerryPratchett

He gave you 500 quid cash for Christmas?

That is very strange.

it's also very generous and she can buy something she truly wants.. 🌟