To share or not to share Secret Santa Scratchcard Winnings

[WoolieLiberal]

I was given a National Lottery Scratchcard as a Secret Santa gift. I thought this was a bit naff until I realised it was a winner.

I won a (low end) four figure sum. I got excited and told my colleagues.

Since then, the person who gave it to me sent me a message suggesting (in a lighthearted way) that I might want to give her half. I replied with a laugh emoji as I thought she was joking, but she has since messaged me to ask if I have decided whether I am going to do so or not!

I’ve also been asked by three other colleagues if I could “lend” them “small“ (three Figure) amounts “to help with Christmas”.

DH says I was daft to have told anyone, but it’s done now and is none of anyone else’s business. He says I should treat myself for a Change.

I’m beginning to wish I hadn’t won anything because if I respond to all requests I’ll have virtually nothing left, and if I don’t, then I’ll be thought badly of and stingy.

There’s a woman at work who works part time and is married to a very wealthy businessman (the job is more of a hobby/something to do) and they’re always jetting off on holidays to far flung destinations, having meals out, nice cars and jewellery etc. No one has ever (to my knowledge) asked her to share her wealth.

If I knew a colleague was genuinely struggling I would help but this feels like vultures are circling. DH, DD’s and I are not wealthy by any stretch but “managing”.

Thoughts welcome!!

Report everyone of them to HR. They are pressurising you for money at work.

Why would you have even told them?! Learn that lesson!

I'd give the person who gave you it 100 to be nice but tell the others no. How cheeky of them

Tell them you're really grateful for the win because that means if the bailiffs come they won't take your tv, white goods, or kids Christmas presents. Lay it on thick about being so happy you can meet rent as it was going to be a struggle.

Then enjoy your winnings

I would have given the buyer a few quid but her attitude sucks so I wouldn't bother. As for the cheek of your colleagues... bugger that! Enjoy your winnings, what a fab Christmas present!

No way! Don't hand any of it over.

I think your colleagues are really rude and cheeky, do not give them half! Buy a few tubs of sweets and chocolates to stick in the staffroom.

Youre a mug if you give them any of it. Its a gift. The SS colleague lost all claim to it when she handed it over. I hope the overwhelming opinion on here encourages you to ignore the CFers & keep it

I most certainly wouldn't give them 1/2 to share.
You can give them all a tokens pressie, bottle of wine champagne ( £10 per bottle in Tesco's) and leave it at that.

They all have a bloody cheek. And as you say you don't have the money yet.

You’re an absolute mug if you split it and share it with them. Honestly.

As if any of them would do the same either.

Nope!

That's not really how presents work, she wouldn't expect the second sock would she?

It's your present, it's your money. There's nothing wrong with keeping it all - when you give a scratch card you need to take the chance the recipient of the gift may win - £2000 wouldn't bother me too much, I'd be like I gave her £2000 as a SS gift 😂 be gutted if it was a few million though haha - keep the money and buy something nice for yourself and maybe take some team chocolates in like a box of quality street.

I wouldn't. No way. It was much more likely not to be a winning ticket and in which case a pretty rubbish gift and could still prove to be fake.

Do you honestly think any one of your colleagues would share their winnings with anyone? Really?

Don't be a pushover. This belongs to you.

Say you can’t afford to give it away!! Don’t give it away

They're all cheeky fuckers. Would she have given it to you if she'd known it would win? No. I'd buy them all a scratchcard, and let them take their chances.

It's a GIFT. No one else has any claim to it.

The scratchcard didn’t come with conditions attached. I would remind the giver of this.

Ask them if they are sharing their respective presents with other colleagues.

Don’t give half to colleagues who will be ungrateful and forget your gesture.

If anybody ever mentions it in the future, you can guarantee that it will be "Do you remember that time when WE won two grand on a scratchcard?!" Nobody will even remember whose scratchcard it was or their kindness in sharing their money.

Keep the lot.
Would the CF share half her present if you didn’t win and your gift was a useless piece of card?

£2k is a lovely amount but not enough to be ‘lending’ out to people. Would they pay it back?
I’d definitely go with the credit card debt /boiler broken scenario.

Maybe even pull the thread before the daily Mail publish it!!

Buy her a scratch card back. Same odds and if she wins, goodo. If she doesn't, tough titty. Would she expect the hand lotion if she'd given you a 2 piece shitty Baylis and Harding gift set?

DH is absolutely correct.

Blimey I would NOT be dividing the other half between the team! They are super cheeky to even expect it! I also think it’s very rude for the gifter I ask for half as well!

I would probably give them £100 but no more.

The gifter that is

£2K isn't that much. If it was over £5K I would likely give friends a token amount. Depends how big the team is too!

That said, I have done the lottery over xmas - don't usually do it - if I win big I will help out my friends, colleagues and family.

£2k is a lovely amount but not enough to be ‘lending’ out to people. Would they pay it back?

So many people consider a 'loan' to be an actual gift, even when the provider is using their own hard-earned money. It makes the asker feel better and also puts more pressure on the other person to say yes. NOBODY is ever going to offer to pay it back - and if OP were to ask for it, they would bitterly complain that she 'only won it' anyway and probably add that 'if X hadn't given her the ticket, she wouldn't have had anything at all' followed by a lot of insults.

It's yours keep it and spend it for yourself