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To share or not to share Secret Santa Scratchcard Winnings

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WoolieLiberal · 23/12/2020 11:23

I was given a National Lottery Scratchcard as a Secret Santa gift. I thought this was a bit naff until I realised it was a winner.

I won a (low end) four figure sum. I got excited and told my colleagues.

Since then, the person who gave it to me sent me a message suggesting (in a lighthearted way) that I might want to give her half. I replied with a laugh emoji as I thought she was joking, but she has since messaged me to ask if I have decided whether I am going to do so or not!

I’ve also been asked by three other colleagues if I could “lend” them “small“ (three Figure) amounts “to help with Christmas”.

DH says I was daft to have told anyone, but it’s done now and is none of anyone else’s business. He says I should treat myself for a Change.

I’m beginning to wish I hadn’t won anything because if I respond to all requests I’ll have virtually nothing left, and if I don’t, then I’ll be thought badly of and stingy.

There’s a woman at work who works part time and is married to a very wealthy businessman (the job is more of a hobby/something to do) and they’re always jetting off on holidays to far flung destinations, having meals out, nice cars and jewellery etc. No one has ever (to my knowledge) asked her to share her wealth.

If I knew a colleague was genuinely struggling I would help but this feels like vultures are circling. DH, DD’s and I are not wealthy by any stretch but “managing”.

Thoughts welcome!!

OP posts:
eeek88 · 28/12/2020 00:37

I love it when I get a scratchcard for SS - it's much more exciting than some plastic tat I don't want, which is what I get if nobody remembers how much I enjoy scratchcards. Even though (or because?) I've never won an SS one!

Before I scratch there's usually some banter about how I have to share my winnings with the rest of the team, and I lightheartedly say they can share out 5% of the winnings between them. If I won I would stick to my word, plus another 5% for the donor perhaps. It's just easier if all involved know where they stand.

secular89 · 28/12/2020 14:31

You should not have told them anything. Not everyone will be happy for you. Please remember this life lesson and learn to keep certain things to yourself. Just tell them no.

Honeyroar · 28/12/2020 14:38

Buy them each a scratch card and tell them you would’ve taken them out for a big night out but they’ve spoiled your desire to do that because they’ve all been so grabby. Tell them you’re spending it on your husband and relative because they’re the only ones who haven’t been begging and guilt tripping you.

Ddot · 28/12/2020 15:00

🥳

cannockcandy · 28/12/2020 17:16

Personally, purely because of the cheek of it, I'd give the person who gave it to me the price of a
Ticket to she can buy her own!

BlueThistles · 09/01/2021 05:15

you doing okay OP ? 🌺

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