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AIBU to wonder where all the mumsnetters like me are? V left wing, Extremely Online millennials only need apply

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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 16:37

Where are all the mumsnetters who:

  • are mid-millennial
  • Extremely Online
  • left wing
  • probs on Twitter
  • do not think gaming is the scourge of society and causes you to turn into a zombie
  • does not know anyone who unironically plays golf

Bonus points for ex-emo kids.

Do you exist?

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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 18:22

@Sick

This post has actually made me really happy, remembering all the stuff I used to get up to. Thanks, OP!
Same! So full of nostalgia right now haha. And it's nice to know there are other people who like the same stuff on here.
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afaloren · 22/12/2020 18:23

Here, oldest you can be and still be a millennial. Huge MCR and FOB fan. Glad to meet you!

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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 18:24

@Meatshake

Yeh you've just described me.

LittleRa, change Leeds to Reading and I could have written that, although boyfriend was alt-rock rather than ska 😂

👋 I'm loving this, hello former emos!

I wonder how many of us have been at gigs together in the past...? I found out when I met my boyfriend we'd been at about 10 of the same gigs over the years even though we lived 3 hours apart.

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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 18:24

@afaloren

Here, oldest you can be and still be a millennial. Huge MCR and FOB fan. Glad to meet you!
👋👋 Hello! Good to meet you too - this is the nicest MN thread I've been on in ages (pearl clutchers aside haha).
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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 18:25

Just realised I shouldn't have namechanged for this cos my usual username is Paramore-related...

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queenofknives · 22/12/2020 18:27

Well, I wouldn't not tell people, which seemed to be what you were saying - your friends would think MN too uncool or that it has a bad reputation.

All the labels and identities seem so desperate and so desperately sad. There is way too much pressure for people to put themselves in little boxes, to define themselves in these shallow ways. Also living online clearly does degrade one's character and diminish one's soul. I hope that you find your way.

PhilCornwall1 · 22/12/2020 18:29

Think diet goth, less keen on pointy shoes but big fans of sideways fringes that need to be flicked out of the way in order to see.

Now I'm getting it. Goths I understand, my brother was one, he was often upset when I took the piss. Now he's in his slacks and slippers! I've not quite got to that stage yet.

CatholicKidston · 22/12/2020 18:31

Who buys a membership to a golf club (hundreds and into thousands of pounds annually), the clothes to wear on the course (there is a dress code) and a set of clubs to play golf ironically Hmm

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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 18:31

@queenofknives

Well, I wouldn't not tell people, which seemed to be what you were saying - your friends would think MN too uncool or that it has a bad reputation.

All the labels and identities seem so desperate and so desperately sad. There is way too much pressure for people to put themselves in little boxes, to define themselves in these shallow ways. Also living online clearly does degrade one's character and diminish one's soul. I hope that you find your way.

Thank you, what a beautifully patronising and extremely weird sentiment.

Yes, I'm currently talking about myself in terms of, for example, the music I liked as a teen or my political views or the social circles I move in online, but - this may come as a surprise to you - it's impossible to encompass an entire existence on a Mumsnet thread and I'm also a fully formed human with lots of other 'roles' and parts to my identity. I don't walk around thinking "I AM A FORMER BRAND NEW FAN AND THAT IS MY ENTIRE IDENTITY", nor do I walk around thinking "I AM REALLY INTO BAKING BREAD AND LEARNING ITALIAN ON DUOLINGO". I contain multitudes. I just happen not to be posting about all of those aspects of my life on this one specific thread.

Ciao.

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queenofknives · 22/12/2020 18:32

I contain multitudes.

I'm sure you do, dear.

Sick · 22/12/2020 18:32

@queenofknives

Well, I wouldn't not tell people, which seemed to be what you were saying - your friends would think MN too uncool or that it has a bad reputation.

All the labels and identities seem so desperate and so desperately sad. There is way too much pressure for people to put themselves in little boxes, to define themselves in these shallow ways. Also living online clearly does degrade one's character and diminish one's soul. I hope that you find your way.

This really made me laugh! Excellent shitposting. Are you sure you're not a millenial?
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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 18:33

@CatholicKidston

Who buys a membership to a golf club (hundreds and into thousands of pounds annually), the clothes to wear on the course (there is a dress code) and a set of clubs to play golf ironically Hmm
People are getting very hung up on the golf thing. Definitely a mistake to include that (and was probably more a poorly judged class marker than anything). Apologies - not really needed.

I do not know anyone who plays golf (outside of distant work contacts) so I have no idea how much it costs but I'm going to assume it's ... a lot? I once went on a company day away where we did a lot of hitting balls at nets and I bought a very ironic and very ugly jumper from TK Maxx for the occasion.

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tilder · 22/12/2020 18:33

I am far to old to tick any of your boxes (other than the left wing bit). I've been here a while and it's never been socially acceptable to admit you are on mumsnet.

I've certainly never admitted it. I wouldn't be surprised if mumsnet is viewed in a similar way to Facebook. Something your parents did.

Except mumsnet still offers support to (mainly but not exclusively) women at all stages of life.

MrsMiaWallis · 22/12/2020 18:33

I contain multitudes

🤣

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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 18:33

@queenofknives

I contain multitudes.

I'm sure you do, dear.

Oh m8
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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 18:34

@tilder

I am far to old to tick any of your boxes (other than the left wing bit). I've been here a while and it's never been socially acceptable to admit you are on mumsnet.

I've certainly never admitted it. I wouldn't be surprised if mumsnet is viewed in a similar way to Facebook. Something your parents did.

Except mumsnet still offers support to (mainly but not exclusively) women at all stages of life.

This is what I meant! Not 'I will be cast out as a social pariah' ha.
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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 18:35

@MrsMiaWallis

I contain multitudes

🤣

Walt Whitman, duh.
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MrsMiaWallis · 22/12/2020 18:35

Yes I know .

Library kid, Dolcis shoes, Fine Fare bag.

SonjaMorgan · 22/12/2020 18:35

@queenofknives wtf? Lots of MNusers would agree it has a bad rep. You have multiple threads where posters tell the OP to leave their husbands over what me and my friend group would class as trivial. As an example, I don't know anyone in real life who would end a marriage over a spouse gaming or occasionally watching porn.

And it isn't labels and identities but memories. I fit in with some of what others were wearing or listening to not all. It doesn't really matter, its just nice reading about a better and simpler time.

Sick · 22/12/2020 18:36

I used to make fun of the scene kids because I was totally emo but secretly coveted the crappy raccoon hair extensions and I could never get my fringe big and flippy enough!

GrinchnotHinch · 22/12/2020 18:36

Well i'm all of the above (1991), and i have blue hair, a septum piercing, a neck tattoo and im bisexual soooo... nice to know i fit the stereotype Grin

Not so much an ex-emo as an ex-punk/ex-scene kid

GrinchnotHinch · 22/12/2020 18:36

Oh and mother of two Smile

Laiste · 22/12/2020 18:37

PS4. Red dead, minecraft, call of duty. ect ect. Old PS. tomb raider crash B the old shoot em ups. DH likes a good horror.

Yes i do see a difference between my Mils and my Zs. It's very subtle but my older 2 remember getting PS1 (and our first PC) and watching me work out what to do with it and remember learning how to play spyro/crash. GenZ (only 3 years younger) remembers it just always being there and could use a mouse (for eg.) at 2. I remember eldest asking me to help her sort out how to use MSG and she got bored and wandered off and left me on it like Shock That was old so quickly.

My little one (6) - well it's just in the blood isn't it? She has one of her older sisters DSs, and i pad and she can switch the telly between all three play stations. I'm waiting for the day she asks for a phone already. With my older ones they were allowed one when they started secondary.

I often wonder how the hell i coped growing up without a mobile. Sodding about in central London every weekend at 14 till the small hours hoping to find a phone box which worked. Shudder to think of my DDs going as far as the end of the road with no phone!

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whoamongstus · 22/12/2020 18:38

@GrinchnotHinch

Well i'm all of the above (1991), and i have blue hair, a septum piercing, a neck tattoo and im bisexual soooo... nice to know i fit the stereotype Grin

Not so much an ex-emo as an ex-punk/ex-scene kid

👋👋👋 Hello. You're amongst friends here. Well, mostly 🤣
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ReallySpicyCurry · 22/12/2020 18:40

@whoamongstus definitely not the Jane Norman and Rockports type either, goodness no

More the "I can't wait to grow up and get away from this shit" scene Grin

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