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Forgot to stay in

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 12:04

In tier 4 - was indoors all day yesterday as it hammered down all day. DD had way too much screen time. Weather much better so have come out for some fresh air. DH just phoned with the raving hump cos he asked me to stay in so could accept the delivery and he can take it to his son tomorrow. Of course they attempted delivery when l was out and now his son won't get the present. Whoops. Just need you all to make me feel better!! Memory not great at the best of times so l feel like he could have reminded me this morning but that's prob not the point!!

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viques · 22/12/2020 12:07

Maybe remind your DH to order stuff earlier next year , relying on deliveries a few days before Christmas is playing Russian roulette.

Not your fault.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 22/12/2020 12:09

@viques

Maybe remind your DH to order stuff earlier next year , relying on deliveries a few days before Christmas is playing Russian roulette.

Not your fault.

Sorry, but actually it kind of is... Obviously things slip mind, but the delivery was attempted.

Can he get it re delivered tomorrow?

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 12:09

Well that's a very good point. Finished mine by early Dec! Thank you!!

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 12:10

Trouble is he was meant to be meeting his son with it tomorrow.

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CrotchBurn · 22/12/2020 12:10

WTF?

It isnt normal that he turned this into such a massive issue. He doesn't sound like a very nice person

NotOfThisWorld · 22/12/2020 12:10

Could he not still get it? If they reattempt delivery?

SchrodingersImmigrant · 22/12/2020 12:12

@Fishfingersandwichplease

Trouble is he was meant to be meeting his son with it tomorrow.
If they came early today, they might come in early tomorrow as well. We get packages about a same time from each courier because of their route. So he maybe able to get it. Or pick it up somewhere
generallygenial · 22/12/2020 12:13

I would be annoyed too if I was him

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 12:13

Not sure they will be able to redeliver know how busy drivers are this week.

Ah he is nice usually - but frustrated with me🙈

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partyatthepalace · 22/12/2020 12:14

I would apologise but not mega apologise.

Everyone is under pressure - which is why you took your child out and forgot, and why he forgot to order in better time.

If he continues a big hump then would gently point out above.

ThatBitch · 22/12/2020 12:15

Who is the delivery? If it is someone local maybe shout out on the local Facebook page asking if anyone has a contact number? Our local Hermes lady is lovely and wonderful and will pop back round if she misses someone and they give her a call.

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 12:20

Great idea - l know the hermes driver. Am still out so not sure who it was that delivered

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CrotchBurn · 22/12/2020 12:23

Its actually his fault for getting his sons present last minute IMO

Nowaynothappening · 22/12/2020 12:26

I’d be annoyed if I was him too.

Awwlookatmybabyspider · 22/12/2020 12:27

You sound rather dismissive to be honest. Hence the whoops word.
Is it one of those. As long as my kids got all their presents stuff his kid.

MaverickDanger · 22/12/2020 12:28

I’d be annoyed if I were him.

He’d asked you, you had agreed & then just forgot and expect him to keep reminding you Hmm

Whatwouldscullydo · 22/12/2020 12:29

What would he have done if you had been at work?

It happens. This tier 4 thing has just been dropped in us from a great height . My kids are understanding of the fact that this yr is going to be a bit different and the main presents will have to wait given that no wheres open to go get them.

yellowmaoampinball · 22/12/2020 12:30

I can't believe people are saying this is his fault. I'd be upset if I asked my husband to stay in for an important delivery and he forgot. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't be raging at him but I wouldn't be hiding my upset either. I'd be even more upset if he started with the 'yeah well its actually your fault' bollocks. I hope you can sort it for him OP

DumplingsAndStew · 22/12/2020 12:31

How old is his son?

SchrodingersImmigrant · 22/12/2020 12:32

What would he have done if you had been at work?

He wouldn't probably ask her to stay at home and wait for it, would he, so he would either deliver elsewhere or put safe place on... Confused

blackcat86 · 22/12/2020 12:32

He's disorganised, you're unreliable. You sound like a good match TBH! He's probably stressed at work and you're trying to entertain a child so don't let him play some sort of I have it worse top trumps, but you really should have stayed in for the delivery if he specifically asked you to.

Whatwouldscullydo · 22/12/2020 12:33

I dont think its his fault but 3 days in ive already list track of what day it was and had multiple deliveries.... I've been cooped up with 2 kids and easily could have forgotten myself

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 12:34

A couple of assumptions there!! When did l say so long as my kid is ok?? And his kid (??) is an adult.
But not being dismissive at all, l genuinely feel bad about it. Obviously l didn't say whoops to him, because that wouldn't be helpful. Only said it on here.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 22/12/2020 12:34

He wouldn't probably ask her to stay at home and wait for it, would he, so he would either deliver elsewhere or put safe place on

Don't people do that anyway? Just in case they arrive while you are on the school run or in the bath.

LindaEllen · 22/12/2020 12:34

Being honest, if I'd asked DP to stay in for a delivery (and he'd said he would) I'd be really really annoyed if he'd gone out, and it then meant my child wasn't getting a Christmas present.

But neither do I think you were being unreasonable for going out - it's not like it slipped your mind on purpose, you were stressed and couldn't help it.

Neither of you are being unreasonable, but it's one of those things that probably seems worse than it is given the current situation.

You'll both be fine, and surely your husband can pop up with the present when it arrives, just briefly?

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