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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 12:04

In tier 4 - was indoors all day yesterday as it hammered down all day. DD had way too much screen time. Weather much better so have come out for some fresh air. DH just phoned with the raving hump cos he asked me to stay in so could accept the delivery and he can take it to his son tomorrow. Of course they attempted delivery when l was out and now his son won't get the present. Whoops. Just need you all to make me feel better!! Memory not great at the best of times so l feel like he could have reminded me this morning but that's prob not the point!!

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BexR · 22/12/2020 14:05

Wow this escalated! Pleased he got the present OP.

We all make mistakes and we can all snap at loved ones, doesnt mean we are awful people.

Tal45 · 22/12/2020 14:06

Wow everyone on here has way better executive function skills than I do. I forget my keys sometimes despite shutting the very door I need them to open. It doesn't mean I didn't care about getting back in the house. People forget stuff, she didn't do it on purpose, he probably forgot himself and that's why he didn't remind her.

tootesuite · 22/12/2020 14:07

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OurChristmasMiracle · 22/12/2020 14:10

For those saying delivering a present to his son isn’t on the list in tier 4 you are permitted to meet 1 person outside so actually so long as that’s what he is doing that’s perfectly within the rules.

OP hold you hands up. Apologise and I’m sure your DH will understand you are human we all make mistakes some times.
So what you can to rectify the issue:

Bibidy · 22/12/2020 14:11

Glad it got sorted OP Smile

Feel your pain though, this is the kind of thing that would happen to me.

My DP often orders things without consideration about whether he'll actually be home himself to wait for them. So often his parcels end up being due for delivery on one of the only days he's not in, so I have to wait for them.

He doesn't do it on purpose but it does wind me up as if I have a delivery due for when I'm not in I reschedule rather than ask him to wait in, although I can see in this case he did think you'd definitely be in.

I could totally see him being annoyed if it slipped my mind and I missed it too.

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MichaelMumsnet · 22/12/2020 14:12

Hi all. We're hovering over the delete button for this one. Can we have some peace and love please.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 22/12/2020 14:12

Excuse me, but how was my post offensive? Hmm
Saying it's not stepford wife thing to do favours for each other and that someone needs to check their attitude?
Come on!

SchrodingersImmigrant · 22/12/2020 14:14

@Whatwouldscullydo some don't give exact slots when they are this busy. Plus they seemed to arrive quite early.
However, if he had a slot then I would agree he should have forward it.

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 14:15

Yes by all means delete it - didn't mean to cause WW3!!

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 22/12/2020 14:15

@Fishfingersandwichplease

Yes by all means delete it - didn't mean to cause WW3!!
Don't worry. You didn't 😁
LimitIsUp · 22/12/2020 14:18

I was going to say that I sympathise with him - because I was imaging a child not getting a present from his dad, but now that you have explained that his son is an adult - meh!

Glad that you got a happy ending though

tootesuite · 22/12/2020 14:19

Well I got deleted just for saying that I didn’t initially say the ‘c’ word, someone else did 🤷‍♀️

Anyway, I’m Keanu BF the thread. Glad all sorted OP Smile

Whatwouldscullydo · 22/12/2020 14:20

I wouldn't expect a partner to wait in all day witg no time slot id use the safe place option. I do think its cheeky to ask. But then I'd also warn the partner at the time that if weather improves I'm gonna go fir a walk so unless there's a time slot he's to make the arrangements just in case.

That way if you are in you r in if not its ok

LindaEllen · 22/12/2020 14:20

@Clymene

He shouldn't be taking the present to his son anyway. Tier 4 - only leave the house for exercise, essentials and work if you can't work from home.

Delivering presents isn't on the list.

There has never been anything in any tier that stops children from separated homes from seeing both parents, so I'm not sure what this righteous bullshit is about.
WhatWouldYouDoWhatWouldJesusDo · 22/12/2020 14:23

Sobey I know my DPD delivery driver by name and have spotted him in the co op a few times......he gets a Christmas present too.

If needed I could probably trace him down easily enough, in fact I'd just have to ask on my local Facebook group if anyone has a DPD parcel due and trace him the easy way.

Same goes for yodel, Hermes etc.

Dyrne · 22/12/2020 14:33

Let this be a lesson for you OP - don’t post on MN with a minor gripe about your DH unless you’re willing to see his character absolutely ripped apart.

Bibidy · 22/12/2020 14:35

Some of these responses! It's just a mistake that could happen to anyone.

Doesn't anyone ever accidentally forget something on here?!

Sobeyondthehills · 22/12/2020 14:35

@WhatWouldYouDoWhatWouldJesusDo

My delivery driver is different everytime with all companies, even my postman changes every few weeks, maybe its the amount of stairs they have to climb

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 14:39

@Dyrne innit though😂 sorry - mustn't laugh in case people think l hate my stepson so much l want to sabotage his Christmas by taking his little sister for a walk. Genuine mistake and even if the parcel had been for me (which dh said he has had an email saying it will be here well after xmas), l still would have forgotton and gone out!!

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MustardMitt · 22/12/2020 14:39

Pity some of you that this close to Christmas wouldn’t put yourself out for your own husband.

I ordered something in October that hasn’t been delivered yet and had something today that was posted on the 6th, so it’s not necessarily the fault of the husband no matter how much you try and swing it.

MajesticWhine · 22/12/2020 14:39

Delighted at the happy ending Xmas Smile

windturbines · 22/12/2020 14:45

He should have ordered sooner. Imo if you order presents after the 14th or so, you're playing with fire.

yeswell · 22/12/2020 14:59

Bloody Hell, some of the responses.

OP, I'm glad it ended well. Xmas Smile

HighSpecWhistle · 22/12/2020 15:08

I can see why he's annoyed. He's probably worried about his son, quite rightly. Turning up with no present isn't good.

But mistakes happen. You'll have to apologise. Can you order one from Amazon next day?

LisaLee333 · 22/12/2020 15:08

@MustardMitt

Pity some of you that this close to Christmas wouldn’t put yourself out for your own husband.

I ordered something in October that hasn’t been delivered yet and had something today that was posted on the 6th, so it’s not necessarily the fault of the husband no matter how much you try and swing it.

This. ^ As has been said, if the roles had been reversed, there'd be LTBs flying everywhere.
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