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Forgot to stay in

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 12:04

In tier 4 - was indoors all day yesterday as it hammered down all day. DD had way too much screen time. Weather much better so have come out for some fresh air. DH just phoned with the raving hump cos he asked me to stay in so could accept the delivery and he can take it to his son tomorrow. Of course they attempted delivery when l was out and now his son won't get the present. Whoops. Just need you all to make me feel better!! Memory not great at the best of times so l feel like he could have reminded me this morning but that's prob not the point!!

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WhereverIGoddamnLike · 22/12/2020 13:02

You wouldn't have forgotten if it was something for your own kid. But this was for his family, not yours, so off you went.

He hasnt dont a thing wrong. He's ordered a gift in time for it the be delivered before christmas and he made sure someone would be available to answer the door. You agreed to that. Then you went out. I would be angry if I were him and your attitude on here isnt helping.

I actually cannot believe the posters saying that it is his fault. If you had posted with the sexes reversed then the responses would be totally different.

WhatWouldYouDoWhatWouldJesusDo · 22/12/2020 13:02

It's rained for four days straight here in Cumbria.

We woke up today to blue skies and sunshine and were straight out the door. It's his own fault for ordering so late when there's already a backlog of deliveries. 💁🏻‍♀️

2021optimist · 22/12/2020 13:02

It is entirely your fault OP, you said you would take the delivery and then 'forgot' and went out. I'd be v upset and hurt, it suggests lack of care and interest.

If you didn't want to wait in, that might have been perfectly reasonable but you promised someone that you would and now someone may not get their present, all that being totally avoidable.

Parkperson · 22/12/2020 13:03

Place marking for when when this situation is reversed and a man who forgets is called an abuser and emotionally retarded.
I feel sorry for your DH

VetiverAndLavender · 22/12/2020 13:04

Meh. The child is an adult. I'm sure he'll understand if his father says it didn't arrive on time. The son will get his gift, even if it's a bit later than planned.

He shouldn't leave his shopping so late, because mistakes happen. I can understand being annoyed that you forgot, but it was an accident, and it sounds like he's not perfect, himself!

AnneLovesGilbert · 22/12/2020 13:04

He should have reminded you on the day. He didn’t. His fault. You’re not his secretary.

DahliaMacNamara · 22/12/2020 13:04

When DH isn't wfh, I get really annoyed at casually being told a delivery is on its way today, with no reference to what I might be doing. OP did cock up, there's no getting away from that, but tbh I'm surprised the item wasn't just left at her door or someone else's.

WhereverIGoddamnLike · 22/12/2020 13:08

@AnneLovesGilbert

No, she's his wife. And partners do things to help each other, especially when one halt of the partnership has asked and the other half has agreed. They should be able to rely on one another to follow through and actually provide the help they agreed.

This is not his fault. I cannot believe how sexist this forum is sometimes.

Bluesheep8 · 22/12/2020 13:08

*He shouldn't be taking the present to his son anyway. Tier 4 - only leave the house for exercise, essentials and work if you can't work from home.

Delivering presents isn't on the list.*

Yep

Hardbackwriter · 22/12/2020 13:10

I'd be really quite cross if I asked DH whether he'd stay in for a parcel, he said yes and then didn't. I'd be even more annoyed if he said it was my fault for not reminding him of something he'd already agreed to do. I'm not sure why you need to be made to feel better as you don't seem to be that apologetic in the first place!

And I don't see why scheduling a delivery for 22 December is some sort of inherently unreasonable act.

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 13:11

Got a happy ending to share with you all - husband had popped home and seen the card, went for a little drive and found the driver so we have got the parcel.

But next time he asks (and thanks to those of you who said about sharing all the mental load, yep that happens regularly), l will write myself a big note!!

Merry Christmas everyone!

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alexis4theppl · 22/12/2020 13:11

Could try and get the package redelivered to his son directly instead of to you. Might be to him
Before Xmas that way?

nosswith · 22/12/2020 13:12

Glad to read of the satisfactory outcome.

(if I had my way, there would be no waiting in all day, a text message with a timed slot or a warning would be sent).

SoupDragon · 22/12/2020 13:13

@AnneLovesGilbert

He should have reminded you on the day. He didn’t. His fault. You’re not his secretary.
Said no one on a thread where the sexes are reversed, ever.
SoupDragon · 22/12/2020 13:13

Glad the parcel was tracked down, OP :)

Whatwouldscullydo · 22/12/2020 13:15

But next time he asks (and thanks to those of you who said about sharing all the mental load, yep that happens regularly), l will write myself a big note!!

Used to happen here too he worked full time me part time , id ended up taking parcels for half the street. Aleays put a safe place on mine as I knew the times I'd be out ir shock horror need a bath or to go do something. And the first thing od know about his delivery was an Alexa notification.

Granted if I was out I was out and amazon now know where to put it anyway but like hell would I wait in til.10pm when all you need to do is leave a note on the online form.

tootesuite · 22/12/2020 13:18

It’s not fair to expect someone to stay on all bloody day for your parcel!

Ducking wife work!

tootesuite · 22/12/2020 13:18

*Fucking

BethlehemIsInTier1 · 22/12/2020 13:20

@Fishfingersandwichplease

In tier 4 - was indoors all day yesterday as it hammered down all day. DD had way too much screen time. Weather much better so have come out for some fresh air. DH just phoned with the raving hump cos he asked me to stay in so could accept the delivery and he can take it to his son tomorrow. Of course they attempted delivery when l was out and now his son won't get the present. Whoops. Just need you all to make me feel better!! Memory not great at the best of times so l feel like he could have reminded me this morning but that's prob not the point!!
Oops? You sound happy about it, ooops indeed for his son eh!
BethlehemIsInTier1 · 22/12/2020 13:22

@Awwlookatmybabyspider

You sound rather dismissive to be honest. Hence the whoops word. Is it one of those. As long as my kids got all their presents stuff his kid.
That's exactly how I thought it came across.
Fuckingcrustybread · 22/12/2020 13:24

@Awwlookatmybabyspider

You sound rather dismissive to be honest. Hence the whoops word. Is it one of those. As long as my kids got all their presents stuff his kid.
You sound rather nasty. Where has the op said stuff his kid
Calmandmeasured1 · 22/12/2020 13:26

I'm with your DH. How annoying.
This.

Runnerduck34 · 22/12/2020 13:26

I would be annoyed to if i was him , however its also unreasonable for him to expect you to stay in all day. Did it have a delivery time slot?
Unless its an item that he couldnt get sooner ( out of stock/ just released) he shouldn't have left it so late, and yes for an important parcel i would have also reminded you.
Depending on how it was sent it might be possible for him to pick it up from parcel depot/ royal.mail, or wait in tomorrow morning for delivery and meet his son in afternoon

BethlehemIsInTier1 · 22/12/2020 13:27

@Clymene

He shouldn't be taking the present to his son anyway. Tier 4 - only leave the house for exercise, essentials and work if you can't work from home.

Delivering presents isn't on the list.

Oh shut up Hmm
KarmaNoMore · 22/12/2020 13:31

You should have stayed in because you are in Tier 4. With regards to the present... how would you find it a few years down the line your ex husband shows empty handed before Christmas to visit your DD because his new wife didn’t give a shot about her husband needing to take a gift to his ex’s daughter?

To be honest, I would be fuming. Are you sure you didn’t do it on purpose? Do you even care about his son?

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