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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 12:04

In tier 4 - was indoors all day yesterday as it hammered down all day. DD had way too much screen time. Weather much better so have come out for some fresh air. DH just phoned with the raving hump cos he asked me to stay in so could accept the delivery and he can take it to his son tomorrow. Of course they attempted delivery when l was out and now his son won't get the present. Whoops. Just need you all to make me feel better!! Memory not great at the best of times so l feel like he could have reminded me this morning but that's prob not the point!!

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mamaoffourdc · 22/12/2020 13:32

Delivery drivers are just leaving things because of covid unless it's signed delivery or alcohol

Whatwouldscullydo · 22/12/2020 13:33

Expertise is permitted in tier 4 ..

Which is what op was doing

Whatwouldscullydo · 22/12/2020 13:33

Exercise

KarmaNoMore · 22/12/2020 13:34

... if I were your husband I would be fishing out any unisex gift under the tree currently packed for your DD to take to my son. It is only fair one is not favoured over another one, isn’t it?

VetiverAndLavender · 22/12/2020 13:41

Glad your husband was able to get the gift!

Also: Noting that the husband here bore some of the blame for the situation (waiting until the last minute, failing to remind his wife, over-reacting) is not being a man-hater or having double standards. If the sexes were reversed, it would still be a case of shared "blame".

Sobeyondthehills · 22/12/2020 13:42

@Clymene

He shouldn't be taking the present to his son anyway. Tier 4 - only leave the house for exercise, essentials and work if you can't work from home.

Delivering presents isn't on the list.

@Clymene

Before lecturing someone on the rules, maybe you should learn them yourself. He can meet up with his son outside in a public space.

For all those saying he has ordered to late, how do you know he has done? Maybe he ordered it a couple of weeks ago and its been delayed . OP I would be pissed at you as well

Abraxan · 22/12/2020 13:43

@KarmaNoMore

... if I were your husband I would be fishing out any unisex gift under the tree currently packed for your DD to take to my son. It is only fair one is not favoured over another one, isn’t it?
Why would an adult aged son want a present that's been bought for a child aged daughter?
Dyrne · 22/12/2020 13:43

Oh wow, look at that. The DH came home, took on the issue and managed to track it down himself and sort it.

Must be disappointing to all the posters building him up to be a selfish disorganised arsehole who leaves all the work to OP.

Abraxan · 22/12/2020 13:45

www.gov.uk/guidance/tier-4-stay-at-home

The OP is allowed out of her home for a walk, under the exercise and recreation heading.

Likewise the op's partner can also leave the house under this heading and is allowed to meet one other person outside of his household so long as they practise social distancing.

Whatwouldscullydo · 22/12/2020 13:46

Not disappointed at all Confused just pointing out there are several scenarios.

Given the tier 4 restrictions getting it delivered to the recipients address is also an option.

If it was hermes they don't eveb show up half the tine and op could have been waiting in fir nothing anyway.

tootesuite · 22/12/2020 13:47

@Dyrne

Oh wow, look at that. The DH came home, took on the issue and managed to track it down himself and sort it.

Must be disappointing to all the posters building him up to be a selfish disorganised arsehole who leaves all the work to OP.

Er no, he's still a twat for expecting his wife to stay home ALL day for TWO days to accept his fucking parcel!
Dyrne · 22/12/2020 13:50

@tootesuite in all your frothing did you miss the part where he asked OP nicely and she said yes?

What a cunt, a man asking his wife to do him a favour...

SchrodingersImmigrant · 22/12/2020 13:50

@Dyrne

Oh wow, look at that. The DH came home, took on the issue and managed to track it down himself and sort it.

Must be disappointing to all the posters building him up to be a selfish disorganised arsehole who leaves all the work to OP.

Ha!
tootesuite · 22/12/2020 13:53

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 13:54

Haha @karmanomore not sure a 25 year old man would appreciate a 9 year old girl's gifts but thanks for your input! And no to your earlier comment l didn't do it on purpose and yes l do care about his son.

And he and his son work near each other hence why they can meet briefly to exchange gifts

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Sobeyondthehills · 22/12/2020 13:55

@tootesuite

in all your frothing did you miss the part where he asked OP nicely and she said yes?

What a cunt, a man asking his wife to do him a favour...

@Dyrne in all your Stepford Wives bot mode, did you miss th fact that he was in a 'raving hump' with her because she forgot and went for some pressure on Day two?

Yep, he's a cunt.

Did you miss the bit where she stayed in because of the weather not because of the parcel on day 1
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Sobeyondthehills · 22/12/2020 13:57

@Fishfingersandwichplease

Got a happy ending to share with you all - husband had popped home and seen the card, went for a little drive and found the driver so we have got the parcel.

But next time he asks (and thanks to those of you who said about sharing all the mental load, yep that happens regularly), l will write myself a big note!!

Merry Christmas everyone!

Do you live somewhere really small but has a lot of deliveries?

I just can't imagine being able to find a delivery driver after half an hour, your husband must have got very lucky, especially after the replies that you got

Whatwouldscullydo · 22/12/2020 13:57

Shes in tier 4 with a young child and wanted some fresh air. Id much rather be at work than trying to entertain small children all day.

Why didn't he just message her the time slot and she could have planned accordingly

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Groovinpeanut · 22/12/2020 13:58

I too question the "whoops" Hmm

Thankfully the Dad sorted it, his Son will get his present. Xmas Smile

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Fishfingersandwichplease · 22/12/2020 14:01

He isn't a c*- he had the raving hump cos l forgot to do something and l own that!! He has moved on already, the gift is wrapped and it is ready for his son to take tomorrow.

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Whatwouldscullydo · 22/12/2020 14:04

Everyone would be pissed off to some point if they ask their spouse for a favour and they forget. Relationships work by people doing things for each other when needed (along with support and bit of healthy championing each other). It's not Stepford Wife thing to say that if you say you will do someone a favour you should

If he didnt forward on the time slot, he expected her to wait in all day with a small child knowing full well they were stuck at home all day the day before, for a delivery company that frequently dont show up, and you cant get hold of a human , which is a big ask tbh

Personally I always put in a safe place or id have just got it delivered to the sons. Its a big ask to wait in til 10pm with no idea if or when its coming