Forgot to stay in

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In tier 4 - was indoors all day yesterday as it hammered down all day. DD had way too much screen time. Weather much better so have come out for some fresh air. DH just phoned with the raving hump cos he asked me to stay in so could accept the delivery and he can take it to his son tomorrow. Of course they attempted delivery when l was out and now his son won't get the present. Whoops. Just need you all to make me feel better!! Memory not great at the best of times so l feel like he could have reminded me this morning but that's prob not the point!!

Might you be able to collect from the depot? I would go home and find the details and try to go and get it for him.

Thanks everyone for replying - l am usually v reliable and wouldn't expect him to remind me but he phones every day for a chat just didn't today for some reason.

Awwlookatmybabyspider
I was thinking the same.
You sound like you don’t need anyone to make you feel better about it.

I would call him and tell him to forward you the tracking info. See who it is with and see what can be done.

Hmm I do think if you posted the other way round saying 'I asked DH to wait in and he forgot' you would get different responses. It would have been good if he reminded you or forwarded you the tracking, but I can understand he is frustrated. I hope it gets resolved for you in time.

I would happily try and locate the driver am on way home to see who it was that left a card

@BendingSpoons would be an ltb shower and 7 mistresses 😂

Definitely not gonna take the it's your fault for leaving it so late approach!!

Hmm I do think if you posted the other way round saying 'I asked DH to wait in and he forgot' you would get different responses. It would have been good if he reminded you or forwarded you the tracking, but I can understand he is frustrated. I hope it gets resolved for you in time

Think it depends on the roles in the house doesn't it? I mean if you have one person who goes to work then cones home to everything done or doesn't do much when they get home and another who has to do the cleaning shopping childcare school runs and is then just expected to stay in waiting for someone else's delivery then the responses would be different than if its a more equal set up they both work together on it all and help eachotger out with deliveries

You didn't do it on purpose, he should have been a lot more organised if it was that big a deal. I don't have much sympathy for him but feel sorry for his son if he will miss out. He needs to find a way to sort it out and take some responsibility/learn that he needs to be more organised x

Sorry, I'm with your DH on this one although I can totally understand how you forgot.

As for your DH being disorganised, only you and he know about that but I ordered a Christmas tree wall hanging back in September due for delivery in October. It was delayed twice and finally arrived last weekend.

Would you have forgotten if it was your child's present OP?

Understand why he is upset even if it doesn't matter to you.

I'm with @Awwlookatmybabyspider and the point she has raised.

How is the bloke disorganised! I bet if this was a man going out and forgetting, there’d be all hell let loose on here.

Fair point @Whatwouldscullydo that if one person is carrying all the mental load it is different expecting them to do one more thing.

I did similar recently (though it was for me). Got my delivery time slot of 1 hour. Great. Was in the front room so could see anyone walking to the door, perfect. Forgot I was waiting, nipped to the tumble dryer, came back to a missed delivery note! So frustrating!
I can understand both pov. You and DD needed fresh air, but he really wanted the present in time. Hope you can pick it up somewhere in time

@yellowmaoampinball

I can't believe people are saying this is his fault. I'd be upset if I asked my husband to stay in for an important delivery and he forgot. Don't get me wrong, I wouldn't be raging at him but I wouldn't be hiding my upset either. I'd be even more upset if he started with the 'yeah well its actually your fault' bollocks. I hope you can sort it for him OP

Yes. This.

bending

I always lit a safe place on every order anyway . Sometimes I'm out on school run. Sometimes one of us is in the shower/bath . Sonetimes the couriers prefer to put it straight in there so they avoid the potential close contact of opening the door.

Makes it a bit easier all round realky as you don't always get given a time slot and amazon delivers until 10pm its a long time to expect people to be "delivery ready "

Yeah I’d be cross if I was your DH.

Hopefully you can collect it tomorrow from the depot.

@BendingSpoons

Fair point *@Whatwouldscullydo* that if one person is carrying all the mental load it is different expecting them to do one more thing.

But that’s not what’s happened here - OP says her DH asked her if she could stay in to receive the package, and the OP agreed - so it’s not as though he just assumed OP would.

I'm with your DH. How annoying.

Its surely also different if you get a time slot i mean waiting in between 3 and 5 is one thing but waiting in all day from 6am to 10pm is another...

I would be annoyed too if I was your DH. If you agree to do something you should do it without needing a reminder.

He shouldn't be taking the present to his son anyway. Tier 4 - only leave the house for exercise, essentials and work if you can't work from home.

Delivering presents isn't on the list.

You can exercise and deliver a present at the same time...like a Covid biathlon.

If you're generally forgetful then you could set up phone reminders to prompt you about anything you need to remember. The onus shouldn't be on your DH to remind you to do something you just agreed to yesterday; if it was a month ago then you might have more of a point hoping to be reminded in the east he would be with the emails. He or you should be able to pick it up tomorrow, or they'll try to redeliver tomorrow.