Homeless with 1 year old.. where can I get help?

[sophiathefirst1]

Hi, I have name changed for this. Posted for traffic,

Long story short - found out partner of 5 years has cheated tonight. Massive argument, haven't been happy for months. We live in his house which nothing belongs to me. We have a 12 month old daughter together.

He has demanded I leave tomorrow. (Which I will happily as I cannot bear to be here with him anymore than I have to be)

I have no money, around £40 to my name.
I don't drive.

I can stay with my mum probably tonight but that's it, she has 4 younger children herself.

Where do I get help ASAP?

I'd stay there tonight if you're safe to do so, so you've got tomorrow to get paperwork etc sorted then call your local council and advise them youre homeless, being locked out etc. They should be able to sort at least a hostel as you have a child.

Def call rather than turn up.

Is he in the house tomorrow?

You should get emergency housing of some sort if you state you're homeless.. Such an awful situation. If you haven't already then sort your benefits out, I.e. Universal credit etc.. I hope you manage to find somewhere.

Go to your local homeless charity (look at local churches maybe as a starting point)

Depending on the tier they will find you a place immediately. It is actually easier here than in previous years

(I help a bit at a food project linked to a shelter- not a housing expert)

Can womens aid or Shelter help you..

Ring local council tomorrow google their housing dept. Get a letter from ex to say he is expecting you to leave immediately.

What money do you have?

Call the council first thing tomorrow morning, state your circumstances and make it clear you mum is allowing you one night only and you'll be on the street tomorrow. If they get wiff your mum will let you stay they won't put in your emergency housing.
They will house tomorrow, either in a b&b or emergency accommodation.

You will have to complete a housing application, create a online account and bid for properties. You will be in Band A so will get a property quickly. In the meantime they will house you in temporary accommodation.

Be firm with them.

This is rubbish and I'm so sorry your going through this but things will get better. X

And to add the council will refer you to the charities that house people in your circumstances in your area. Don't go the charities direct. Go straight to the council.

Sorry you're going through this, and with a baby too.
Tell the council you're having to sleep on the sofa at your moms, state your mom has no room otherwise as a previous poster said they will push for you to stay there

Speak to your local council homeless team. Say you want to make a homeless application. If you can have access to ID for both of you (birth certificate for baby), 3 months worth of bank statements, preferably letter from ex partner to say you can’t stay there and evidence of any benefits I’d you are in any (inc child benefit).

They have 56 days to make a decision on your application. Make it clear you have no where to go. They have to find you emergency accommodation. This may not be local though.

Good luck.

And make sure you put in a claim for UC first thing tomorrow.

Where do you live? The advice will be different depending on that eg uk, other countries

He is making his 1 year.old daughter homeless? What a piece of shit. Sorry you are going through this OP

Great dad throwing his 1year old baby out a week before Christmas 🙄 how cruel and because of his own doing...

Op go to council homeless dept tomorrow tell them what’s happened and they will advise you on the next steps. You’re allocated a case worker who will help you with benefits/forms and then a housing officer. Most likely be put in a families hostel or b&b depending on what’s available in your area. They may have a temp flat already but wait and see what they say.

You could possibly need letter from your mum saying you can’t stay for more than one night and something from your ex saying he’s thrown you out but I’m sure they’ll let you know all that tomorrow. Am so sorry this has happened to you op it’s horrible and scary but I hope you have people in your corner for support even if they can’t house you.
Thinking of you and take care - obs if you feel in danger police/women’s aid tonight don’t wait

Make it clear you actually have no where to go.

Make sure you get emergency accommodation.
Apply for UC and HB for temp accommodation

Get onto council housing waiting list.

ID pref photograph ID plus birth certs proof of national insurance number, last three months bank statement

Take ID,

So sorry OP

All good practical advice above, just to say sorry you’re going through this and things will get better.

Sorry op, but do not even mention staying with your mum. She has no room, that's all the council need to know.

So sorry to hear this.
What a bastard .

Agree with not telling the council your mum may have room for even 1 night. Does your mum know what is happening?

@Leaannb

Are you for real? What mother leaves her one year old? Get out of here.

Your council should have an out of hours number for the homeless team who may be able to help tonight, it should be on their website

Call your council housing department they will be able to advise you on what your options are. I know this because I work in housing. Good luck and sorry you are going through this.

Call St Munro’s, they can get you in temporary accommodation. Where are you?

Up thread someone said don't just show up, depending on where you are it may be better to do just that. I live in an expensive town in the SE and demand for council housing is very high. If I hadn't turned up with my baby I don't think they would have ever considered me high enough priority to house.

Obviously with the pandemic things may be different, but they will push and push you to find somewhere else as if you live in a high demand area they will not be able to house you unless you have absolutely nowhere else to go. That includes sofa surfing.

From a legal point of view I would stay firmly put unless he's dangerous to either of you. Just a thought.