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AIBU?

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To put a note asking them to move their car?

254 replies

Openalltheadvent · 20/12/2020 15:10

It’s been outside our house for 4/5 weeks. I don’t know who it belongs too. I resisted at first in case they were isolating but it’s bugging me now. Especially as it gets towards Christmas, we will be coming from parents house with a car load of presents and we keep having to park far up the road. We have a 3 year old dd. Just to say, I don’t think the space is ours but think it’s inconsiderate leaving it outside someone else’s house for so long?!

YABU - it’s a free country, get over it
YANBU - leave a polite note on the car

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TheresNothingIWantMore · 21/12/2020 15:35

^OP has also repeatedly declined to answer exactly how often she expects this person to move their car to another space

EbeneezerSnooze · 21/12/2020 17:34

No-one has yet explained - not even the OP - is why it is so wrong for one car to be parked there for 5 weeks, in comparison with, say, 10 different cars being parked there for 3 days each? Or any other variation.

I guess because at least you'd get a look in for a convenient parking spot if the cars were moving, whereas one person hogging the spot without moving there isn't any opportunity to park there 🤷‍♀️

EbeneezerSnooze · 21/12/2020 17:42

Breeding and being rampant consumerists doesn’t give you a free parking space. If you want to park by your front door, buy a house with a drive.

People in flats will have to carry their presents and children much further.

Why the need to be so rude? When I lived in a 9th floor flat with a dodgy elevator it was difficult carrying shopping along with a newborn...but what does that have to do with OPs situation?
I want to buy a house with a drive....and a large garden, en suite bathrooms..I don't have any money though so it's not as simple as 'buy a house with a drive' is it 😅

Openalltheadvent · 21/12/2020 18:02

@EbeneezerSnooze that is exactly it.

@TheresNothingIWantMore I haven’t declined to answer anything. My post was about a car that hasn’t moved for 5 weeks, not a debate on how often cars should move. Why do people always derail threads onto something else?

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Doris86 · 21/12/2020 18:06

[quote Openalltheadvent]@EbeneezerSnooze that is exactly it.

@TheresNothingIWantMore I haven’t declined to answer anything. My post was about a car that hasn’t moved for 5 weeks, not a debate on how often cars should move. Why do people always derail threads onto something else?[/quote]
Well I think you have your answer now. Nothing you can do, it’s perfectly legally parked, don’t put a note on it. Forget about it and get on with your life.

If it’s still there in a couple of months maybe check with police in case stolen.

StanfordPines · 21/12/2020 18:07

My post was about a car that hasn’t moved for 5 weeks, not a debate on how often cars should move.

But more often than once every 5 weeks.

When I lived in Brighton I don’t think I once ever parked on my own street. I was there for 3 years.

Openalltheadvent · 21/12/2020 18:08

Oh but @QueenoftheAir surely ‘breeding doesn’t give you a right to the path’??!
why is there a difference between the 2 scenarios?

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TheresNothingIWantMore · 21/12/2020 18:16

It's not a derailment. You say 5 weeks is unacceptable, so what is acceptable?

Openalltheadvent · 21/12/2020 18:16

@StanfordPines but again you are talking about parking it in different places each time, which is not what I am talking about

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Dawnlassie · 21/12/2020 18:31

"and we keep having to park far up the road"

Oh dear god the humanity. THE HUMANITY GODDAMIT.

Why dont they just think of the children.

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QueenoftheAir · 21/12/2020 18:42

@Openalltheadvent huh??? Did you mean to be so rude? Where did I mention "breeding"? I think you're mixing me up with someone else.

Look, you've asked whether you would BU to leave a note on a car asking them to move. There's a pretty strong majority that says yes, you would BU to leave a note on a car parked legally in an area where it is legal to park. A lot of posters understand your annoyance, but really, YABU and now you're starting to be rude to posters who don't agree with you.

Why not turn your frustration to action - start to talk to your council about putting in a Residents' Parking scheme. It's a good thing to do - put your energy to something productive. A Residents' Parking Scheme will cost you, but you'll be able to get justifiably annoyed, instead of unreasonably annoyed.

Openalltheadvent · 21/12/2020 18:49

@QueenoftheAir I was quoting what someone else has said to me. As neither things are illegal (unless you live in London) - one is deemed inconsiderate, so why isn’t this?
@Dawnlassie has just made a similar (rude) comment. Out of interest, what are your thoughts on people parking on the pavement so prams can’t get passed?

Granted, my question should have probably been ‘is it inconsiderate?’. I’m not going to leave a note.

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StanfordPines · 21/12/2020 18:49

[quote Openalltheadvent]@StanfordPines but again you are talking about parking it in different places each time, which is not what I am talking about[/quote]
But when I lived in Brighton I only used my car once every couple of weeks so it would have spent weeks parked outside someone else’s house on a completely different street. Should I have gone and moved it when I didn’t need to?

ballsdeep · 21/12/2020 18:50

No. If it's not blocking your drive there's nothing you can do about it.

SpiderGwen · 21/12/2020 18:52

@ProudAuntie76

When this happened to me, I reported it to the local police station.

It was a stolen car that had been dumped!

I’ve done it again since. That one was leaking fuel and a fire hazard. The owner couldn’t afford to repair it so dumped it on the nearest side street.

Same happened to me. It had infant car seats and none of my neighbours had small children so I rant 111 and it had been used in a ram raiding theft
SpiderGwen · 21/12/2020 18:57

(I realise this wasn’t the case in OP’s incident, just flagging up that reporting it isn’t anything snarky or aggressive or owt)

QueenoftheAir · 21/12/2020 19:03

Out of interest, what are your thoughts on people parking on the pavement so prams can’t get past?

I still don't understand your reference to 'breeding' in your aggressive post directed at me, OP. It's not a word I've used in this thread, except to quote you.

Parking on the pavement is (generally) illegal in the UK, as well as being very selfish. For example, anyone using a wheelchair is usually then forced to go out onto the road.

This is such a classic AIBU:

OP: AIBU?
80% of respondents (according to the vote thingy): Yes!
OP: oh you've all just 'boil[ed] down to the sort of person you are

QueenoftheAir · 21/12/2020 19:07

PS Here's the RAC on parking on pavements: it's not not-illegal, actually:

Parking on the pavement is not illegal outside of London. You can, however, still get a fine for doing so in some instances, which makes the law quite a grey area.

Since 1974, Highway Code rule 244 has stated that drivers "MUST NOT park partially or wholly on the pavement in London and should not do so elsewhere unless signs permit it."

The key things to note here are the words must not and should not.

In London, you must not park on the pavement, the must indicating there is legislation behind this rule and you could receive a fine for breaking it.

However, outside of the capital or “elsewhere”, the Highway Code states drivers should not park on the pavement, meaning it is advisory and not, therefore, backed up by any legislation.

Rule 242 is where it gets a little less clear, stating: "You MUST NOT leave your vehicle or trailer in a dangerous position or where it causes any unnecessary obstruction of the road."

This is a must not, again, meaning if your car is reported or seen by a police officer and judged to be either in a dangerous position or causing an unnecessary obstruction of the road, you could receive a Fixed Penalty Notice.

What the RAC says:
Outside of London, we advise people to use common sense when faced with no other option but to park on the pavement.

If you are parking along a narrow road, where parking wholly on the road would stop other cars, and particularly emergency vehicles, from getting through, then it is a sensible option to park partially on a pavement, providing there are no parking restrictions and providing you are not blocking a wheelchair user or pram from using the pavement.

If there are restrictions, or your parking would cause wheelchair users or people with prams to have to walk into the road, then you should find somewhere else to park.

www.rac.co.uk/drive/advice/legal/parking-on-the-pavement/

Openalltheadvent · 21/12/2020 19:08

@MaskingForIt

we will be coming from parents house with a car load of presents and we keep having to park far up the road. We have a 3 year old dd.

Breeding and being rampant consumerists doesn’t give you a free parking space. If you want to park by your front door, buy a house with a drive.

People in flats will have to carry their presents and children much further.

@QueenoftheAir I was quoting this. This is the attitude I am getting from people. Have you read the thread?

It’s not illegal outside of London.

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NotPrude · 21/12/2020 19:09

@QueenoftheAir

You’ve missed the part where OP always pretends she’s asked a different question than she’s asked.

OP created a post thinking she was justified to complain about a car parked outside her home because it meant she couldn’t park there - it was too hard for her to carry the shopping and a toddler, and will be so so much harder when they come back after Christmas and have lots of Christmas presents to carry.

Most people called her unreasonable for thinking she’s entitled to park there.

Her response - oh no, I meant the car is a concern because it hasn’t moved.

Those people who have stories about stolen cars have given the perfect excuse to OP to pretend she didn’t ask what she asked! Another classic move on AIBU!

Openalltheadvent · 21/12/2020 19:12

‘Meaning it is advisory and not therefore, backed up by legislation’

To clarify I also thing this behaviour is unreasonable.

But you are right..classic AIBU responses of double standards

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Openalltheadvent · 21/12/2020 19:12

think

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Dawnlassie · 21/12/2020 19:13

Out of interest, what are your thoughts on people parking on the pavement so prams can’t get passed

They are incosiderade arses. But that was not the question you asked.

QueenoftheAir · 21/12/2020 19:19

And according to the RAC - their interpretation of the law - if someone using a pram or a wheelchair has to go into the road, then parking on the pavement is illegal.

I once lived on a street of terraced houses with no drives or off-street parking. People habitually parked both sides on the pavement - we were a rat run between a school and a hospital, so most of the people parking weren't resident in the street.

I regularly had to walk on the road, as did my neighbour using a wheelchair, and various family members using prams.

Best thing that ever happened was a Residents' Parking scheme, which permitted parking on one side of the road only, and no parking on the pavement. It was so nice to actually be able to use the pavement as a pedestrian without people opening their car doors into my shins (yes, that happened several times), or getting bruised on the hip from sticking out wing mirrors.

cansu · 21/12/2020 19:20

I really don't think the police are going to be up for investigating a legally taxed vehicle parked on a public road! The only crime they seem to guilty of is not going out and inconveniencing someone else from carrying their presents in.

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